Shopping – Only the Strong Survive

dressing-room.jpgThe thought of bathing suit shopping will make most women cringe. Those harsh lights. The mirrors. The way your legs look super pale after a winter of sweat pants and Uggs. And the extra few pounds that found their way onto your ass since the last time you saw yourself wearing so little.

Who would enjoy that?

I remember the first time I went bathing suit shopping with my mom. I was young, naive and didn’t care what my pudgy body looked like in that Barbie bathing suit. But my mom was a different story. I remember hearing the now-familiar gasp/shreik combination as she pulled on suit after suit…and came out empty handed…in tears.

It is sad but true (and recently proven in a poll by Fitness Magazine): Shopping is no leisure activity. In fact, to most women, it is a nightmare for their self-esteem. Fitness magazine polled 1,001 women about their experiences with shopping and some of the more staggering statistics are below:

64% say shopping for clothes is bad for their self-confidence.

10% have cried in the dressing room.

39% have purchased something that was too small, hoping it would look good once they lost weight.

14% have refused help from sales personnel so they wouldn’t have to reveal their size.

15% have accidentally ripped or gotten stuck in a garment that was too small.

It is sad that women have been reduced to this. The fact that a number inside a pair of pants is more important than the way a woman feels; that women are ashamed to tell other women the truth out of fear they will be judged; that women try so hard to get into a size that is not right for them that they get stuck in a freaking dress.

I know it is normal to find fault within ourselves – every single woman on earth has something she hates about herself – but this poll just blows my mind. It is time for women to stop focusing on the negative and start reminding ourselves of the positive. Yes, I think my ass has a bit too much cellulite for my liking, but damn! does it look good in a pair of jeans. And, sure, I’d like a flatter stomach, but no one seems to notice it when I flash them my killer smile (and pour on the charm).

Ladies, we are always telling our friends how great they are and how hot they look; I think it’s time we remind ourselves of that fact, too.

15 Comments on "Shopping – Only the Strong Survive"

  1. ela says:
    Thu, 14th Aug 20081:20 pm 

    this sounds weird but this is why i only go shopping when i feel skinny or am doing really good with my routines. 1.) it’s a way i reward myself for being good with working out/food 2.) after wards i feel really good bc it only encourages me to keep going and 3.) shopping is a great workout so i give myself a cheat afterward!

  2. voguesugar says:
    Thu, 14th Aug 20081:58 pm 

    about a month ago my weighing machine told me i was about 102 lbs and i was so happy for that day before i realized that i was actually 105 lbs and the weighing machine miscalculated because it was absorbing some of my weight because of the rug it was on. but for that one day i was walking on sunshine, and that really disturbs me.

  3. Jes says:
    Thu, 14th Aug 20082:22 pm 

    are you kidding me? i love to shop!

    but its one of my biggest weaknesses and kills my wallet… :(

  4. Heather says:
    Thu, 14th Aug 20082:53 pm 

    i hate shopping. it doesnt make me feel bad about my body, but i just hate trying things on over and over that dont fit me right. especially pants. i have long legs and a big butt, something that doesnt fit in the little straightlegged pants the corporations love to sell. and i hate shopping for bras cause im an a-cup who hates underwire with a passion, and every single bra that doesnt have this said underwire is plain tan, blah, or white.

    our needs, wants, and clothing fits, just arent reflected in what the corporations are actually selling. and it sucks.

  5. Olua - Washington College says:
    Thu, 14th Aug 20083:39 pm 

    I love shopping. But I hate shopping. There’s nothing worse than going into a store and realizing that the largest size doesn’t fit you.

  6. J - NYU says:
    Thu, 14th Aug 20083:55 pm 

    When you’re short…and RIGHT IN BETWEEN a size 4 and 6…nothing. ever. fits.

    I promise you. I have so many pairs of ill-fitting jeans…too tight, too long, too loose…

    I’m one of those girls who get depressed. I’ll admit it flat out.

  7. Cookie says:
    Thu, 14th Aug 20089:05 pm 

    How awful, to think my image problems have become a statistic.

    This is why I prefer shopping online. It’s really helped me come to terms with what will fit me and what won’t, instead of having to try on a frillion different things and absolutely hating myself by the end of the day. Go the internet!

  8. Star says:
    Thu, 14th Aug 200810:54 pm 

    I totally didn’t realize I wasn’t some freak for getting depressed when I go shopping! I’m so bony that everything looks horrible on me. I’m glad that I’m not the only girl who feels bad shopping…I wonder if that makes me a bad person? Lol.

  9. Justine says:
    Fri, 15th Aug 20089:32 am 

    I love going shopping initially but I’ll admit that I get really self-concious when I start trying on clothes. I agree with Olua that when the biggest size doesn’t fit it’s a blow to my self esteem, but I do understand that I need to feel good in whatever I want to wear and not worry about the number.

    BUT it’s hard for me to find pants that fit. My body is unusual. I’m very short but also very wide. My waist is wide but my legs are bit smaller so if I buy pants that fit in the waist they’re baggy everywhere else. It’s terrible! I wish I could find pants that fit me correctly without paying an arm and a leg! It doesn’t help that even the pants that are “short” are still too long for me.

  10. Steph says:
    Fri, 15th Aug 20086:56 pm 

    I hate shopping. It obliterates my self esteem. I like getting my jeans from Goodwill though. Something about being worn in helps them fit nicely.

  11. jes says:
    Sat, 16th Aug 20081:27 pm 

    Well I’m almost 5′10 and used to hate shopping for jeans (they were always too short or would shrink in the dryer) until I started dishing out a little extra cash…

    Victoria’s Secret has great jeans and some actually go all the way to 36″ inseams! (for tall girls like me) But you have to watch out because generally you’ll run a smaller size in theirs than other places, I can pull a 4 there when I wear a 6-8 at American Eagle!

    Also, VS has some wonderful bras for smaller cups like myself, that don’t have underwire if you dont like them! Plus they come in tons of cute colors and patterns!

  12. giz says:
    Sat, 16th Aug 200811:04 pm 

    I just hate that nothing good comes in my large shoe size, and I can never find my size in all those cute bras that most girls wear.

    And that shopping takes so freaking long.

  13. GiGi says:
    Sun, 17th Aug 20088:34 pm 

    @ j-NYC;

    I always had this problem. Now not so much. I know the “type of fit” jeans that look good on me. fitted/skinny good for shortys. I avoid boot cut opr wide-leg paints. Certain brands of jeans are on point with my body’s type that i’m devoted.

    At 14, I was deathly afarid of fitting rooms, suggest the words “Bathing Suit Season.” and I might just start hyper ventalating. Till this day. Even though i’ve shaped up and admire my body for what it is now, i avoid fitting rooms. Knowing my size, what looks good on me, and brands that work best keeps shopping fun.

    I figured out tricks my girlfriends told me to get the perfect fit without the use of dressing rooms.

    -WARNING : YOU MIGHT LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT. Wrap the waist band of your jeans around your neck, holding the two seamlines together. If the two ends of the waistbands meet comfortable around your neck. Doesn’t meet? Too small. Too loose? too big.

    -Line the seam line of the bottoms up to the bottoms you are already wearing. Matching seam line? Perfect fit.

  14. gregory dykes says:
    Mon, 18th Aug 200812:25 pm 

    i want to meet theme ass a god send

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