Comments on: 5 Best Things about My Long-Term Relationship http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Mon, 23 Nov 2009 16:37:37 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Lauren http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12958 Lauren Tue, 11 Nov 2008 23:08:10 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12958 I love the i dont have to be perfect! My boyfriend and I are sort of long distance- he lives 45 minutes away from me- this wouldn't be bad except we can't afford the gas/expenses to see each other, so I can only see him a couple times a month or so. But, when we do, we usually don't go out and party. We stay in rent movies, order pizza, eat ice cream. Its amazing quality time w/ him that I love. Plus, when I make the drive to him, I dont bother with makeup or looking cute. I just get up and go. Id rather look like crap than miss out on an hour with him to get ready... though if i cant stand how i look, i have become very skilled with driving my stick shift while applying makeup. But its nice to know I don't have to. Another thing i love is surprises. One evening we were on the phone- I wasn't going to see him that weekend, but my mom had been in town so i wasn't doing anything that night, just relaxing in the dorms. He calls me, and lets me go for a couple minutes to "shower". Then 30 mintues later lets me go bc "his mom wants to talk to him" all the sudden theres a knock on my door... and the peep hole was covered.. I was kinda like wtf?! but then i opened the door & he was standing there with lilys! when he let me go the first time he went into the store to get me flowers & the second time because he was here! it was the most amazing thing in the world. I love the i dont have to be perfect!

My boyfriend and I are sort of long distance- he lives 45 minutes away from me- this wouldn’t be bad except we can’t afford the gas/expenses to see each other, so I can only see him a couple times a month or so. But, when we do, we usually don’t go out and party. We stay in rent movies, order pizza, eat ice cream. Its amazing quality time w/ him that I love. Plus, when I make the drive to him, I dont bother with makeup or looking cute. I just get up and go. Id rather look like crap than miss out on an hour with him to get ready… though if i cant stand how i look, i have become very skilled with driving my stick shift while applying makeup. But its nice to know I don’t have to.

Another thing i love is surprises. One evening we were on the phone- I wasn’t going to see him that weekend, but my mom had been in town so i wasn’t doing anything that night, just relaxing in the dorms. He calls me, and lets me go for a couple minutes to “shower”. Then 30 mintues later lets me go bc “his mom wants to talk to him” all the sudden theres a knock on my door… and the peep hole was covered.. I was kinda like wtf?! but then i opened the door & he was standing there with lilys! when he let me go the first time he went into the store to get me flowers & the second time because he was here! it was the most amazing thing in the world.

]]> By: Lindsey http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12957 Lindsey Sun, 09 Nov 2008 17:45:44 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12957 The best part about my long term relationship is that we are a team. From the beruit table to the bank we are there for each other. There is a huge amount of support and general concern about each others well being. If i'm going through a tough time, he is there to help me out, and vice versa. We do things for each other to help each other out, go grocery shopping for each other, clean the others house if they are too busy. By the end of the day we can lay back in the comfort of each others arms and know we'll wake up to each others smiling face. its a good give and take and it's nice to have someone actually care. now THATS somthing you don't get with those random hook ups. The best part about my long term relationship is that we are a team. From the beruit table to the bank we are there for each other. There is a huge amount of support and general concern about each others well being. If i’m going through a tough time, he is there to help me out, and vice versa. We do things for each other to help each other out, go grocery shopping for each other, clean the others house if they are too busy. By the end of the day we can lay back in the comfort of each others arms and know we’ll wake up to each others smiling face.

its a good give and take and it’s nice to have someone actually care. now THATS somthing you don’t get with those random hook ups.

]]> By: Teena http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12956 Teena Thu, 30 Oct 2008 01:40:41 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12956 If anyone were to gag it would probably be because then envy what you said. Ive been with my boyfriend officially for 2 1/2 years now, but we were best friends for like 3 years before that. I still consider him my best friend and I think everything you said is dead on. I absolutely love having someone like that around me. He probably knows more about my "quirks" or little habits than my own parents do. The sick part is dead on. We live across the street from e/o and whenever im sick, or visa versa, its awesome having someone right there. ((I secretly love it when hes sick because all he wants to do is cuddle and have me around!)) Question though... i want to get married young and have kids young (im 21 now so i mean like 25/26). I love my bf to death and i couldnt even imagine being with anyone else right now, but im not sure hes the one i want to or am going to marry. Sometimes i think he'll be living with his guy best friends forever...is there a way to like bring it up without completely saying "what do you think we'll end up being?" because if it will never happen, i dont wanna wait 10 years and have to start all over. a bit negative, i know =( but its been on my mind A LOT lately, since im graduating this yr help?!! suggestions! If anyone were to gag it would probably be because then envy what you said. Ive been with my boyfriend officially for 2 1/2 years now, but we were best friends for like 3 years before that. I still consider him my best friend and I think everything you said is dead on.

I absolutely love having someone like that around me. He probably knows more about my “quirks” or little habits than my own parents do. The sick part is dead on. We live across the street from e/o and whenever im sick, or visa versa, its awesome having someone right there.

((I secretly love it when hes sick because all he wants to do is cuddle and have me around!))

Question though… i want to get married young and have kids young (im 21 now so i mean like 25/26). I love my bf to death and i couldnt even imagine being with anyone else right now, but im not sure hes the one i want to or am going to marry. Sometimes i think he’ll be living with his guy best friends forever…is there a way to like bring it up without completely saying “what do you think we’ll end up being?” because if it will never happen, i dont wanna wait 10 years and have to start all over.

a bit negative, i know =( but its been on my mind A LOT lately, since im graduating this yr

help?!! suggestions!

]]> By: Edy http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12955 Edy Fri, 10 Oct 2008 01:37:26 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12955 Wonderfully said. My boyfriend is also my best friend. Wonderfully said. My boyfriend is also my best friend.

]]> By: Jenny from the Blog http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12954 Jenny from the Blog Sat, 04 Oct 2008 02:18:52 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12954 I love this article. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years and even though we only get to see each other 1-2 times per week because we're both finishing school this year and working, we are still best friends til the end. We have a great relationship and I can't wait to start my life with him when both of our crazy, never-ending lives as college students finally end. I love this article. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years and even though we only get to see each other 1-2 times per week because we’re both finishing school this year and working, we are still best friends til the end. We have a great relationship and I can’t wait to start my life with him when both of our crazy, never-ending lives as college students finally end.

]]> By: Nat http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12953 Nat Wed, 20 Aug 2008 22:57:27 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12953 I agree with all of your reasons. I love that my boyfriend and I can just be... Like we can just hang out and there's no pressure. I love that he is the constant, that I can rely on him no matter what. Before I met him I liked a different guy every other week, I was always unsure of whether or not they wanted a relationship or just sex.. You can't fake long-term. With him, I know for sure that he loves me for who I am, because otherwise, he wouldn't stick around. One other thing about long-term relationships that I've found is that.. With short term flings and such I used to find it really easy to make them the center of your life.. Those feelings, at the beginning of every relationship where you think about ONLY your boyfriend, once it's long term it's almost like.. You can relax. Don't get me wrong, my boyfriend is a wonderful addition to my life, but he doesn't need to be the center. I know I can focus on other great things in my life without worrying that he'll lose interest. I agree with all of your reasons. I love that my boyfriend and I can just be… Like we can just hang out and there’s no pressure. I love that he is the constant, that I can rely on him no matter what. Before I met him I liked a different guy every other week, I was always unsure of whether or not they wanted a relationship or just sex.. You can’t fake long-term. With him, I know for sure that he loves me for who I am, because otherwise, he wouldn’t stick around. One other thing about long-term relationships that I’ve found is that.. With short term flings and such I used to find it really easy to make them the center of your life.. Those feelings, at the beginning of every relationship where you think about ONLY your boyfriend, once it’s long term it’s almost like.. You can relax. Don’t get me wrong, my boyfriend is a wonderful addition to my life, but he doesn’t need to be the center. I know I can focus on other great things in my life without worrying that he’ll lose interest.

]]> By: Steph http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12952 Steph Wed, 20 Aug 2008 21:48:25 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12952 THANK YOU!!! Sometimes I think that someone who has never been in a long term relationship understands this. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and I completely agree with all your statements. For example..I told one of my friends (who has never really been in a long term relationship) that I think of my boyfriend as more of a best friend, and not a "lover". She thought it was crazy to think of him as anything else but my boyfriend or the person I loved. I couldn't get through to her that he's way more than that. She also couldn't fathom the idea that we're ok with each other at our worse. We're both sometimes rude, harsh, and mean...and we always don't look our best, but we're ok with that because we know who we are. We're not perfect and never will be...but she couldn't understand why we fight. I guess she thinks after so long, it should be happily ever after all the time...and its not always. Some days I question things -- and other days, I have no doubts in the world about us. I think its all about being human! THANK YOU!!! Sometimes I think that someone who has never been in a long term relationship understands this. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and I completely agree with all your statements. For example..I told one of my friends (who has never really been in a long term relationship) that I think of my boyfriend as more of a best friend, and not a “lover”. She thought it was crazy to think of him as anything else but my boyfriend or the person I loved. I couldn’t get through to her that he’s way more than that. She also couldn’t fathom the idea that we’re ok with each other at our worse. We’re both sometimes rude, harsh, and mean…and we always don’t look our best, but we’re ok with that because we know who we are. We’re not perfect and never will be…but she couldn’t understand why we fight. I guess she thinks after so long, it should be happily ever after all the time…and its not always. Some days I question things — and other days, I have no doubts in the world about us. I think its all about being human!

]]> By: gregory dykes http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12951 gregory dykes Wed, 20 Aug 2008 21:23:13 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12951 i want to meet the women and have sex i want to meet the women and have sex

]]> By: Carly - Grinnell http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12950 Carly - Grinnell Wed, 20 Aug 2008 16:05:29 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12950 You guys are so sweet. :) Thank you! You guys are so sweet. :) Thank you!

]]> By: Emily http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/18/5-best-things-about-my-long-term-relationship/#comment-12949 Emily Wed, 20 Aug 2008 04:22:59 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/11064#comment-12949 I started dating my boyfriend when we were both sick, so that totally took care of that one! :-) It's so cute to see someone who feels this way! You obviously have an amazing relationship with your guy! I started dating my boyfriend when we were both sick, so that totally took care of that one! :-)

It’s so cute to see someone who feels this way! You obviously have an amazing relationship with your guy!

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