If anything, BE VAGUE. But no, stick with your answer for all eternity, until something good comes up and you grow a mutual friendship with that person.

Frankly, the guy owned me. I'd spent two years wearing his ring, constantly having to 'learn to be a better person' for his sake, ditching any friends I even started to hang out with. When I started the process, I was a relatively sane, kind of immature eighteen-year-old; when I ended it, I was a 20-year-old emotional wreck, desperately depressed and utterly isolated. "It's not you" came almost as a natural extension of what we both seemed to believe: I was too stupid, selfish and extroverted to make him happy, so ultimately it *was* me.

I couldn't have done it any other way. If you need to get out of a relationship, please do try to be honest– but if you're in an emotionally abusive, destructive relationship that terrifies you even to think about ending, a little dishonesty is the last thing you should be worrying about.