LucyInTheSky says:
Mon, 15th Sep 200810:01 am 

I voted no, even though it's happened before. Most of the time, I need some action beforehand, but I've had a 2nd during sex probably… 5% of the time? Weird to apply a percentage to this, but you know. It's not easy like it is for some people, but it can be done.

LucyInTheSky says:
Mon, 15th Sep 200810:04 am 

Wanted to add that you make this sound like not being able to orgasm during INTERCOURSE means that there's a big problem, or that sex is somehow substandard if you're not getting off when the P's in the V. It doesn't mean that those women aren't having orgasms, just that they are likely having their fun in another way before topping it off with still-enjoyable sex.

Lauren, University o says:
Mon, 15th Sep 200810:40 am 

I am sure that sex is still fun and great and exciting, but I can't imagine being told that I can bake a cake, lick the bowl, enjoy the smell as it bakes but then not be able to eat any DAMN CAKE.

anonymous coward says:
Mon, 15th Sep 200812:32 pm 

most girls need action before hand, intense foreplay, direct stimulation, etc… a lot of times the men are to blame, keep your man well manicured and teach him how to please.

furthermore, a lot of girls that i know that can't O simply can't relax, and are insecure/uncomfortable. that has a lot to do with everything…

try alcohol. it makes everything better (or at least look like it)

Cat says:
Mon, 15th Sep 20089:28 pm 

I have orgasmed during sex before, but only once ever. :/ It's still fun though.

Cookie says:
Mon, 15th Sep 200810:26 pm 

It's fairly simple, though horribly annoying. The direct pleasure points for most girls are the clitoris and G-spot. For guys, it's pretty much their entire member. So they can get off fairly easily, but if they want their girlfriends to enjoy it just as much…they're gonna have to put in a bit of effort and hit/find those two spots.

Stephanie says:
Tue, 16th Sep 20081:33 am 

I used to not be able to orgasm from sex, but then I just kept trying and after six months of steady sex I figured out what I liked/waht I didn't and it's been easier since then.

J says:
Tue, 16th Sep 20083:35 am 

I've only recently started having sex and even though I don't orgasm, I always feel so damn close! I just don't know what else to do to tip me over…

Lyra says:
Tue, 16th Sep 20089:13 am 

i haven't orgasm during sex at all :/

granted, i've only had sex around six times or so, but still.

my guy wants to go down on me, but i'm really nervous about that; i feel too inactive and passive, and what about taste?

and how can you get clitoris stimulation while having sex? it seems to me that it takes succcchhh a long time for me to get there, so i get all nervous that he's getting bored, and stop him, though it's pretty much the only way i can orgasm…

thanks guys.

Jacob says:
Tue, 16th Sep 200811:47 am 

When I've had girlfriends who couldn't orgasm during intercourse, I've given them the following 'assignment'…masturbate once a day. It doesn't always make it so they can orgasm during intercourse, but it does free them up and creates a dialogue about sex. Sometimes, someone doesn't know 'how' to orgasm or what it feels like, or what she likes. I know this sounds crazy, but it's true.

Ashely says:
Tue, 16th Sep 200810:17 pm 

I've never orgasmed – at all. I've been really close a couple times before but have made the guy stop because I just don't know what to expect. I tend to get close equal parts intercourse and foreplay.

sara says:
Fri, 19th Sep 200811:23 am 

Yeah I've gotten close and faked, but just can't quite have one… even though I feel close.

anonymous coward says:
Fri, 19th Sep 200811:27 am 

lyra – if your man doesn't know how to stimulate your um…clit.. during intercourse, then I suggest you partake in viewing an adult film…no joke.

Jo-Marie says:
Sat, 20th Sep 20086:57 am 

I dont think the results of this pole will come out accurately. I mean its safe to say that a majority of girls on this site are very sexual and aware of thier bodies. And sexual awar people have more orgasms than shy girls who dont masterbate.

Bridge says:
Sat, 20th Sep 20089:36 pm 

I learned how to make myself cum, before a guy was able to do it. How sad. It is clit stimulation for me but, I don't like to feel too intense, just feels so uncomfortable.

L says:
Tue, 14th Oct 20087:03 pm 

I have had orgasms during sex (most of the time, even), but it does require some direct stimulation. Either someone's hand or uh, him slamming down. Never from penetration alone.

ANONYMOUS-GIRL says:
Thu, 6th Nov 20082:54 am 

I've played with myself before I began to have sex, so I knew how an orgasm feels like. When I was finally sexually active, I couldn't understand why my guy couldn't get me off from penetration alone. I thought to myself, why isn't this anything like the movies?! It bothered me that he would always get his happy ending while I couldn't. It took over a month for him to get it right, and I have gotten my O's nearly every single time we do it. It's called MULTITASKING. He's gotta be able to: stimulate the clitoris + penetrate. Usually he can achieve this when he's using his hand to stimulate and using his P to penetrate. Pretty simple concept, but hard for most guys to realize.

Darenth says:
Fri, 26th Dec 20081:08 pm 

I have orgasm, I would say 90% of the time…maybe its because me and my boyfriend do get a lot of foreplay before intercourse (fingering, i go down on him and viceversa, "tease rubbing" like we call it..) Ive orgasm twice by intercourse only but most of the time it happens when he goes down on me. I had multiple simultaneous Os from oral, SO orgasmic! I recommend it) I agree with anonymous girl, its all about multitasking during intercourse, I should tell my boyfriend! lol

Also, lately it has been so easy for me to masturbate. I seriously wake up in the middle of the night due to wet dreams, I literally wake up thinking about a really hot previous session with my boyfriend, Im aroused most of the night! I was able to orgasm by masturbating last night, clit stimulation does it for me. Girls, keep trying and dont give up, just let how good your feeling take over and RELAX!

Jeffrey says:
Wed, 31st Dec 20089:22 pm 

my girlfriend dos not have this problem she orgasms repetivly dearing sex i but i am a guy and can not orgasm from sex even after like 45 minutes to an hour

Ashley says:
Thu, 9th Jul 20091:57 pm 

the only time i have an orgasm is when he or i is stimulating my clit, but if not then i dont have one. Does that mean im just one of those women who cant have an orgasm or does it mean he's doing something wrong??

raj says:
Mon, 13th Jul 20091:22 am 

Hi,

i am raj from india i have problem about sex my proble is i want see pornographic film once in month or week, i cant control about my bad habit and when i show beatuifull girls at that time in my mind if this girls will meet me i will fuck her again and again

so pls sir i cant stop about my bad habit i can try most.

Rajendra

christie says:
Tue, 23rd Feb 20107:14 pm 

I've been in a relationship with the same person for 2 years and i have never been able to have a orgasm during sex.I can only masturbate to climax. I do think that if you relax and focus on what feels good you can possibly accomplish a orgasm. I must try this!