Comments on: Would You Ever Date A Baby Daddy?

By: Mariposa

Mariposa — Fri, 02 Mar 2012 17:28:57 +0000

Im currently in a 10 month relationship with a guy with a 7 year old son. he broke up with his baby mama when the baby was 3 years and has dated a few women since then. We are both 29 years old. We are already talking about marriage but my main issue is he gives his baby mama money although he has the child full time. he defended by sayin she doesnt make alot of money and need the help. what should i do? I never intended to fall so hard and now, I fear this leech of a woman will always be in our life. I dont want to build a future with him and have to finance her as well. but i love him.Should I leave now? what should I do? any help is welcomed.

By: Shay

Shay — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:10:53 +0000

4) Talk to your man about the childs behavior towards you and hopefully he will be man enough to sit his kid down and tell his kid what is and isn't acceptible behavior towards you. His kid needs to be respectfull of you no matter what. And you also need to tell his kid infront of him that he needs to be repspectful and warn your man you will verbalise to his kid that he needs to be respectful towards you and not run all over you. Mind you, if you all will be living together it needs to be a respectfull love filled household.

By: Shay

Shay — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:10:18 +0000

3)She may or may not be crazier. Just pray she finds happiness in her own life so that she can stop making a mess of yours. The more he puts his foot down with her the better. Depends on what kinda crazy individual she is. Remember the quicker he takes care of the issues with her the better it will be for you and he both. And you also have to ask yourself is this guy worth it? Not trying to be mean but be honest with yourself.

By: Shay

Shay — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:09:38 +0000

2) If she gets a job, have him take her to court. He will need documentation showing his finances and he will need to explain why he can't afford bla bla bla and what would work for him when presenting his case to the judge. Sit in the very back of the court if you must go where she cannot see you( remember the less she sees you the better, less drama). If it is not possible to be in court without her seeing you than have someone else go on your behalf and then they may later relay the message to you.

By: Shay

Shay — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:07:57 +0000

@ Confused

Here is my advice:

1) You can't get the baby mama to back off, what your man needs to do is step up to the plate and let her know its not ok to be contacting him late at night if that is the case. You can't control when she txts or calls him if you and him happen to be together. I'm sure she's not seeing you together and purposefully contacting him. If she is stalking you guys then that's a problem and not acceptable on her part. He needs to take care of issues between he and her for the sake of the child immediately that day so that he can move onto more important things like his relationship with you. Always remember his child with this woman will always be a part of his life. If you happen to be jealous than replace that jealously with optimism and positivety. (I'm not saying your jealous) Trust me I been there. Don't provoke this woman in anyway…the less she sees you the better. Be aloof when it comes to her. Don't give her any reason to intervene in your relationship. You be the MATURE aloof woman.

By: krissy

krissy — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 07:53:38 +0000

i agree with everything April said but as far as the situation where they are still living together I would be very cautious of that.

By: donna

donna — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 19:37:33 +0000

I dated a man with 2 kids at age 34. My parents did not like him also because he had 2 children. They felt that he was getting the better end of the stick and so he was. Well, for a variety of reasons I broke it off with him. I know that my parents want the best for me and I am sure your parents do also so go with what your parents say no matter how old you are. They want the best for you.

By: donna

donna — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 19:32:58 +0000

Hi, I am 43 and some people say that single fathers are all that are out there. I totally disagree. While there are more men with kids at my age, there are still men without kids. I did it once and I was miserable. A single woman without childen has to accept being 2nd or 3rd best and that is something I cannot accept. Some one may say that is selfish. Selfish? To expect to have drama free dating? To expect to keep the hard earned money that I made to go towards someone elses kids college, wedding?I think it is incredibly selfish of a single dad to want to date a woman without children. Its funny, my female friend with 2 kids was dating a man with two kids. The man broke it off with her because he wanted to date a woman without kids. How insane is that? I really would rather be alone then to ever date a man with kids. I may accept it if his kid is an adult but that would be the only case

By: Lux

Lux — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 19:33:27 +0000

If he has kid's leave him alone. I am in love with a man who completely puts them first. I know it is politically correct for people to do that, but i don't care. People without children shouldn't date people with, because you are always second and it hurts. I didn't know what i was getting my self into and now its too late my heart is involved. I had to move away from our hometown after being and living together for 4 yrs.Do you think he came with me? No he had to stay back because of the kids. And me like a dummy sits up here miserable and crying all the time because he i s always gone and i am lonely, but i don't want to cheat. The worst part is i cannot be mad because i know what i was getting myself into but i didn't care, and i suffer all the time. Unless you always want to be second and come in second, be treated like your not shit because when they need something, he has to run, don't do it. Leave that piece of shit to find some raggedy ass baby momma and the can enjoy their fucking rug rats together.

By: D3$

D3$ — Thu, 31 Mar 2011 21:13:49 +0000

April. Would this still be the case if he and the childs mother still lived together well after the childs 1st birthday???