Tuffy Luv Says You Deserve Better
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Dearest Tuffy Luv,
I have been dating a gentleman, “Bob”, for well over a year now. I left my boyfriend of five years to be with Bob. In the past few months, Bob has lied on several occasions about where he is, who he’s with, etc. He deletes phone calls and text messages because he’s scared I might “get upset over nothing”. I’m leaving for college in a week and will be two hours away. This past week, I found out he kissed one of his former student athletes (he was a swim coach). He begged me to take him back and I caved. This is the second time he’s cheated on me but I can’t seem to hold him accountable. How do I just make myself cut the ties when he makes me happy outside the lies?
A woman scorned
Dear Woman Scorned,
I think you just blew my mind.
Seriously. Do you honestly believe him that he’s just scared you’ll, what was the term he used, “get upset over nothing?” My guess is, you don’t. Because otherwise you wouldn’t have written in.
Honey, your instincts (and actually, cold hard evidence) are telling you this man is no good. He’s already cheated on you twice. Do you really want to keep letting him do this to you? He clearly has no regard for your feelings, and the fact that he’s deleting shiz because you’ll “get upset over nothing” is just plain insulting to your intelligence.
Plus, I don’t know his age (which might make it infinitely creepier), but kissing a student is pretty freaking skeezy.
Bottom line, he’s cheated and he’ll cheat again. He seems to have no remorse and he’s been lying to you. Do you really want someone who has such blatant disregard for you?
Girl, your letter is articulate and heartfelt. You so obviously deserve better that it makes my brain hurt.
Hearts & Skulls,