Comments on: The Freshman Experience: Are Freshmen Forever Friends?

By: holly

holly — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 06:51:33 +0000

"singing High School Musical 2 when someone asks, “What time is it?”"-

LOL

we are kindred spirits, I can't resist exploding into song and dance when someone asks me that (you know pump both arms in the air and bring one down like a clock hand…)

By: Madalyn

Madalyn — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 04:35:45 +0000

Anna: You have perfectly described my situation right now. . . I’ve been looking at other schools, contemplating transferring because I really don’t have any friends.

Now, though, I think I’ll stay right where I am. . . If you guys can get through it, so can I!

By: Anna

Anna — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 18:10:09 +0000

I am feeling the EXACT same way. It's gotten to a point where I'm questioning whether or not this school is where I belong. It's so frustrating.

I know that there is SO much more time to meet the people that I want/need to be friends with, I mean we've only been here for a little over a month. But I want to know them now… I feel like I was really lucky in high school to have found the group that I did, the goofy, fun, amazing people that accept me exactly as I am, and I'm worried that I won't find that again.

But realistically, I think it's just a matter of waiting it out (even though I'm sure you, like me, are tired of waiting). You sound like a great person, and I think that good friends will come in time. Maybe try joining more clubs, but focus on things that are REALLY important and interesting to you, because the people will there will at least share your interests. That's what I've been trying, although I've only met a few people that way- the clubs are really big, still.

Good luck, I hope that everything works out for you!

By: Allison

Allison — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 04:43:15 +0000

Everyone experiences the same thing you are right now- very few of the people I knew freshman year are still in my current circle. Everyone is eager to make connections, so they all reach out to grab as many people as they can.

Things start to calm down when you know them and after awhile realize what you do- and don’t- have in common. You’ll find people with the same love of cheesy Disney movies (lord knows I did) it just takes some time to feel comfortable enough to show that side of yourself again. Once you do, someone else is bound to pipe up and say “I thought I was the only one!”

By: snarktastic

snarktastic — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 18:08:31 +0000

seriously don't worry about it. i was decidedly not friends with the same people freshman year and the rest of my college experience. it takes some time to develop actual friendships and think about it this way: not everyone deserves a friend like you [provided you're not a total douchebag deluxe].

things change, people change, focus on studying for now and the rest will work out on its own.

By: Lauren, University o

Lauren, University o — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 17:48:41 +0000

Don't worry! The first month of school is hard, but if you get involved in activites, make an effort to reach out to new people and just continue to be yourself you will find your true friends. I am still best friends with the girls i met freshman year and will be forever.

By: Beth

Beth — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 17:34:13 +0000

Same here. I just started a month ago and pretty much the only people I'm really friends with are all in the same little section of my hall. Some of them I think I'll continue my friendships with, but a lot of others are just kind of…there. I don't know, haha, I need to meet more people outside of my hall!