Comments on: Faked Tolerance: Being an Interracial Lesbian

By: Satori

Satori — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:13:30 +0000

I’m a lesbian in an interracial relationship and me and my gf recieve stares when we’re just holding hands.I live in the UK but im originaly from the states. I find there is less homophobia here,and more acceptance of mixed couples.To Stephanie last time i checked pda was legal maybe you should mind your buisness and look away if you’re so prejudice. I wish you and your gf nothing but the best,love is love no matter its color,sex,or creed.x

By: Tyler

Tyler — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 06:06:58 +0000

To stephanie…you have this great thing called free will which allows you to IGNORE PDA. try it, it might work for you.

By: Melisa

Melisa — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 02:54:18 +0000

I understand what your saying. Im also a lesbian and when im with my girlfriend i show affection were all humans we have the free right to.If your proud to be gay then why hide it? It is not affecting anyone that you and your partner.Im pretty sire some guy and Stephanie have been in public snd showed PDA as she says.But she is also stop acting like were in pre k but i remember getting in truble for showing pda in middle school mm so maybe she should grow up.&& another thing people should stop starin. It’s rude.

One love

By: rachel

rachel — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 01:33:23 +0000

Wow, I cannot believe the comments above from Some Guy and Stephanie… obviously they completely missed the whole point of the article, or they’re just idiots.

The things described that seem to make people so uncomfortable are totally normal things that say, straight people are doing all the time all over the place. I really doubt Stephanie would feel the same way about a 30 something white middle class couple sharing a smooch on a park bench.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 17:29:32 +0000

And we all have a right to not love to see them holding hands in public,

I don’t see how a look is disrespectful either, as long as no one is physically harming you stfu and deal. It’s the real world now, not pre-k.

By: nora

nora — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 06:10:38 +0000

Whatever man. You can’t deny that there is homophobia, and when I see a homosexual couple showing any signs of affection in public, there is usually some form of expression of surprise or even disgust. More power to you if you just keep playing your game. Eventually they will have to get used to it, and if something escalates, *they* will get in trouble, not you. All these people who are trying to justify the weird looks you are getting are probably not homosexual and have no idea what it is like to be in a world completely geared towards heterosexuals. Although I’m not homosexual, I respect your attempt to reach out to the straight community and plea for a little respect. A little respect is not even close to what you deserve, which is equality, and the right to hold your girlfriend’s hand in public.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 22:21:09 +0000

” with my girlfriend, whether we’re , I’ve been catching several looks.”

Meaning you’re quite aware that there are tons of people around and you proceed to “hold hands, play flirt and kiss”

So. Yeah.

By: Olua - Washington College

Olua - Washington College — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:32:02 +0000

Some Guy and Stephanie, what exactly are you considering PDAs? I’m not making out with my girlfriend in public. I just mean holding hands – like I said. I don’t go further than that because it makes me a bit uncomfortable and I wouldn’t make anybody feel the same way because of something me and any significant other should keep to ourselves.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 16:47:38 +0000

I agree with “Some Guy”

I give “those looks” to ANY couple that displays PDA. Get a grip on yourself and stop being so self-conscious.

By: Some Guy

Some Guy — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 09:02:26 +0000

Have you considered the possibility that public displays of affection are in poor taste, no matter who’s doing it?

When someone reacts negatively to tacky behavior on your part, don’t assume that they have an issue with whatever groups you identify with. If this happens to you a lot, then you’re probably the one being a jerk.