Comments on: I Don’t Remember How to “Make Love” http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Mon, 23 Nov 2009 00:44:10 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Dave http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17113 Dave Wed, 24 Dec 2008 10:14:03 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17113 Some Guy.. I wholeheartedly agree. Plus these comments about how empowering and promiscuity do not go hand in hand. Amen to them. Noa.. it looks like you broke yourself... you'll sort it out eventually.. if not you could always just keep on doing random men to keep yourself busy(/feeling empowered?) Some Guy.. I wholeheartedly agree.

Plus these comments about how empowering and promiscuity do not go hand in hand. Amen to them.

Noa.. it looks like you broke yourself… you’ll sort it out eventually.. if not you could always just keep on doing random men to keep yourself busy(/feeling empowered?)

]]> By: Some Guy http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17112 Some Guy Wed, 01 Oct 2008 09:30:30 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17112 If some chick told me that she wanted to "wait until the time was right", and I found out that she was banging other guys, I'd not only drop her like a bad habit, I'd give any of my friends a warning to keep their distance. If some chick told me that she wanted to “wait until the time was right”, and I found out that she was banging other guys, I’d not only drop her like a bad habit, I’d give any of my friends a warning to keep their distance.

]]> By: Some Guy http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17111 Some Guy Wed, 01 Oct 2008 09:22:08 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17111 This story is a great example of why men should avoid college girls. Guys, if you're still in college, go find yourself a full-grown woman (30 should do it), and let these silly little bimbos like Noa spend a decade or so crashing and burning after one-night stands. This story is a great example of why men should avoid college girls. Guys, if you’re still in college, go find yourself a full-grown woman (30 should do it), and let these silly little bimbos like Noa spend a decade or so crashing and burning after one-night stands.

]]> By: Emily http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17110 Emily Wed, 24 Sep 2008 14:03:44 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17110 I'm sure your mothers, who spent years fighting for womens equality, would be so proud to know that you college-age women are now using it as an excuse to sleep around under the guise of empowerment. It's a shame that your generation thinks that female empowerment is throwing your body around for your own satisfaction and "doing it like a dude." What a joke. What a waste. I feel sorry for your generation - you have been so desensitized to sex that you have to question whether you'll ever be able to have the emotions that are supposed to go with it. Maybe you should take a second to re-evaluate what you are really looking for. I bet it isn't just a good lay. I’m sure your mothers, who spent years fighting for womens equality, would be so proud to know that you college-age women are now using it as an excuse to sleep around under the guise of empowerment. It’s a shame that your generation thinks that female empowerment is throwing your body around for your own satisfaction and “doing it like a dude.” What a joke. What a waste. I feel sorry for your generation – you have been so desensitized to sex that you have to question whether you’ll ever be able to have the emotions that are supposed to go with it. Maybe you should take a second to re-evaluate what you are really looking for. I bet it isn’t just a good lay.

]]> By: Tyler http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17109 Tyler Wed, 24 Sep 2008 12:34:01 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17109 I agree with Casey. I don't see the link between being promiscuous and being empowered. I don't see a problem with being promiscuous. Who anybody wants to hook up with is his/her own choice. I just don't see a reason that women talk about being empowered because of it. You hook up when and who you want to, I think it's as simple as that. It makes you feel good to go and have sex and feel attractive/wanted. I'm not sure if there's really much more beyond that. I agree with Casey. I don’t see the link between being promiscuous and being empowered. I don’t see a problem with being promiscuous. Who anybody wants to hook up with is his/her own choice. I just don’t see a reason that women talk about being empowered because of it. You hook up when and who you want to, I think it’s as simple as that. It makes you feel good to go and have sex and feel attractive/wanted. I’m not sure if there’s really much more beyond that.

]]> By: ela http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17108 ela Tue, 23 Sep 2008 15:16:37 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17108 oy yoy casey (what up girl!) and i find ourselves again in this situation where we have to somehow express how promiscuous ҂ (doesn't equal) empowerment. i think almost EVERYONE here went thru this phase. i did after a traumatic break up after 4.5 years, and sex was more about rebellion than anything else to me. i look back and i have to admit i'm pretty displeased with my previous choices but i guess it's all in the school of life. I think NOA had an epiphany that hey, maybe random sex really doesn't do it for me anymore. i hope this dude ends up being awesome and hold out just a little longer bc when you finally give in it will be that much more satisfying! oy yoy casey (what up girl!) and i find ourselves again in this situation where we have to somehow express how promiscuous ҂ (doesn’t equal) empowerment. i think almost EVERYONE here went thru this phase. i did after a traumatic break up after 4.5 years, and sex was more about rebellion than anything else to me. i look back and i have to admit i’m pretty displeased with my previous choices but i guess it’s all in the school of life. I think NOA had an epiphany that hey, maybe random sex really doesn’t do it for me anymore. i hope this dude ends up being awesome and hold out just a little longer bc when you finally give in it will be that much more satisfying!

]]> By: Capri Sun http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17107 Capri Sun Tue, 23 Sep 2008 13:19:11 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17107 I went through this stage too, except I was mostly just hooking up with my friends I'd always been kind of attracted to. Then when I got a steady booty call, it eventually morphed into a relationship somewhere along the line so there was no awkward transition from sex to love, it just happened. I don't think it works like that normally, but I feel like it's almost something you want to get out of the way. I don't recommend it for everyone, and that might make you look kind of easy I guess, but sometimes giving into your animal instincts early can get that tension gone and you can focus on making love when there's actually love to make. I went through this stage too, except I was mostly just hooking up with my friends I’d always been kind of attracted to. Then when I got a steady booty call, it eventually morphed into a relationship somewhere along the line so there was no awkward transition from sex to love, it just happened. I don’t think it works like that normally, but I feel like it’s almost something you want to get out of the way. I don’t recommend it for everyone, and that might make you look kind of easy I guess, but sometimes giving into your animal instincts early can get that tension gone and you can focus on making love when there’s actually love to make.

]]> By: Amelia http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17106 Amelia Tue, 23 Sep 2008 06:03:51 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17106 Rovelyn. that is an awful awful thing to say. #1. wishing someone to die is a bit extreme. #2. AIDS is a very harsh not to mention extremely painful and drawn out that I hope a compassionate human being would not want to wish upon any one else. To you the writer: I know exactly what you feel, I went through the same thing myself. The key is to remember what it felt like to be with those guys you didnt care about and transition that carefree nature into a controlled sense of self-confidence in a real life situatio with a guy you care about. If the guy is worth it at all he wont care about your silly mistakes or body or any of that. Just be real and truthful. Rovelyn. that is an awful awful thing to say. #1. wishing someone to die is a bit extreme. #2. AIDS is a very harsh not to mention extremely painful and drawn out that I hope a compassionate human being would not want to wish upon any one else.

To you the writer: I know exactly what you feel, I went through the same thing myself. The key is to remember what it felt like to be with those guys you didnt care about and transition that carefree nature into a controlled sense of self-confidence in a real life situatio with a guy you care about. If the guy is worth it at all he wont care about your silly mistakes or body or any of that. Just be real and truthful.

]]> By: Chauncey http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17105 Chauncey Tue, 23 Sep 2008 05:35:27 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17105 I can completely relate, but instead of realizing that I actually liked the guy I just jumped into bed with him. Needless to say things didn't really workout and I'm now learning the lesson you did, but with a bit more heartache! I've had so much fun and learned so much about myself over the last 8 or 9 months, but sometimes I wonder if it was really worth it. I can completely relate, but instead of realizing that I actually liked the guy I just jumped into bed with him. Needless to say things didn’t really workout and I’m now learning the lesson you did, but with a bit more heartache! I’ve had so much fun and learned so much about myself over the last 8 or 9 months, but sometimes I wonder if it was really worth it.

]]> By: Samantha http://collegecandy.com/2008/09/22/i-dont-remember-how-to-make-love/#comment-17104 Samantha Tue, 23 Sep 2008 04:25:59 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12440#comment-17104 This post really hit home for me because I'm feeling the same way. It feels so weird finding something that might be real and actually telling the real one to wait or trying to make yourself slow down for him when you've spent so much time just having fun and doing things with random people. I hope you find the kind of love that you're looking for, even if it takes awhile. This post really hit home for me because I’m feeling the same way. It feels so weird finding something that might be real and actually telling the real one to wait or trying to make yourself slow down for him when you’ve spent so much time just having fun and doing things with random people. I hope you find the kind of love that you’re looking for, even if it takes awhile.

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