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Why Are Girls So Mean To Each Other?

Girls are constantly judging other girls.

Girls are terrible to each other.

Girls are each other’s own worst enemies.

But…WHY?

Why is it that guys can be each other’s brothers but girls can’t seem to get it together enough to be each other’s sisters? Why are girls so goddamn catty? Where is the love? Where is the loyalty?

I want answers and I want them now. Yes, I’m being serious. I have questions and I want answers. So, give em to me. Explain the reasoning behind this girl on girl hatred.

1. Why do girls call another girl pretty or skinny with a tone of disgust? You know what I’m talking about. Imagine this sentence being exchanged from one girl to another girl, about a girl passing on the street: “Oh my god…..she is so….skinny…(or, if you prefer, skinnnnayyyyy).” Why the attitude problem?

2. Why do girls call other girls sluts? Any girl who has thought about the meaning of the word ‘SLUT’ knows it is offensive. The thinking girl knows that this word can be used to describe a woman who flirts with another woman’s boyfriend or a woman who has slept with people she didn’t love. The thinking girl knows that there is no definition to this word and that it is hurtful to all women alike, so why do some girls say it?

3. Why are girls so judgmental? Why do you have to break down 1,000,000 walls before a girl will let you in to be her friend? I feel like tons of my friends sit at the bar ready to claw any girl who is nice to them. What does a girl have to do to make some freakin’ girl friends?

4. Why do girls assume that every girl their boyfriend and/or aspiring lover is friends with is either f*cking him or wants to f*ck him? Girls should know better than anyone that we can be friends with a boy without wanting to do him. So why don’t girls give other girls this benefit of the doubt?

5. Why do girls gossip? Why do girls swear they can keep a secret just so they can have dirt to tell everyone else? Why are girls such bad friends to each other sometimes?

I want to know your answers.

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    1. Sam says:

      Girls are lame. This is exactly why I stick with having male friends.

    2. Jade says:

      I agree, i remember telling a friend of mine a very personal secret and within a week everyone knew, and she was "so sorry".

      I must say i do prefer male friends when it comes to judgement and gossip.

    3. J says:

      I don't have drama with my close girl friends…I understand that other girls do, but I don't get it. Perhaps you just haven't found the right niche of friends yet.

      1. v.c says:

        you're right, my friends are really nice and no once seems to do that in our school either

    4. Rovelyn says:

      There's no such thing as a "sisterhood" and men are just as or even worse than women. Also, women do the same thing as we do. Don't just make this about women.

    5. Rovelyn says:

      correction:

      Also, MEN do the same thing as we do.

    6. jes says:

      I agree, I've always had guy friends, and never really been close to any girls…

      Its really sad, and I feel odd sometimes, but I just cant seem to get with the whole 'bonding' thing. I dunno. I have no problem making close friendships with guys, but I always feel uncomfortable around most girls.😦

      I even went out of my way to be girly and try to be one girl's friend and she completely talked shit about me to her boyfriend 24/7. Although she was the creepy one who called me nonstop.

      I just dont get it… oh well.😦

    7. jes says:

      I guess I should mention she was completely in love with my boyfriend and made all kinds of crazy 'he doesn't love me' cds and crap too.. she even played one for me on a road trip once.

      creepy.

    8. Kaley says:

      Ha, I definitely know guys gossip. Everyone does. (Well, not everyyyyone, forgive me for generalizing.)

    9. Jill says:

      Oh man. This guy I'm "involved" with was talking to another girl in our class the other day and I thought my head might explode.

      I felt terrible afterwards.

      Would I have felt so terribly jealous if the girl had been fugly and at least heavier than me?

      Not a chance.

      What a terrible feeling.

      -J

    10. Emily says:

      What rule is there that says we have to be nice or even like other girls? I'm sorry to break your "sisterhood" idea but there is no such thing. There's only an "every girl for herself" idea in the world. We're only nice to each other if we can get something out of it.

    11. what says:

      Might be a throw back to guys hunting in packs for a kill. A girl's living being improved if shes with a tribe leader.

      Maybe… I really don't know, all I do know is it's stupid but girls do value their friendships more in general when they do get along.

    12. Shay says:

      Insecurity. People tend to put others down when they are insecure. They feel better about themselves when they point out the flaws in others.

      Society and culture tells us we have to be a certain way. TV…female violence towards eachother, everyone strives to be perfect weight not too skinny or fat etc;

      A womans brain is different than a mans. It's proved that we are much more in-tune with emotion and show more empathy.

    13. Caroline says:

      I think about 85% of women have a pageant mentality to life. To them, there can only be a limited amount of slots to things, particularly social influence and men. It's really pathetic of them and I'm glad more women are pointing it out.

    14. Mel says:

      Oh god…this makes me so sad. I got called a slut today, and it's the first time I've actually heard somebody say it about me, though they didn't say it to my face. I'm not, that's all you need to know.

      All I can say is, I've never been a girl with girl friends, so i've never had opportunity to gossip much. But, man, I'm gonna be extra careful not to gossip.

      And I don't understand how they can judge me. the girl who said the word doesn't know me from Adam.

      i'm sooo pissed, i'm crying. i didn't want to start a bitch fight, so after class i just turned to her and said, "do me a favour and don't talk about me behind my back" (she was sitting right behind me).

      But I think it would have been better if I could deal with it the way guys supposedly do: "you, me, outside". Then I wouldn't be stuck with this horrible anger. I think that eliminates a lot of cattiness from boy's interactions.

      Hey, sisters though, I'll be your friend, I won't stab you in the back. And I'll fuck who I want to fuck without being a slut because I have a love for all of humankind, even though soulless bitches who attack me.

    15. Brittney says:

      I gossip, but that's about the only point listed that describes me. I agree though, I wish women were more loving towards others.

    16. ashley says:

      wow I love how the first comment is "thats why i have more guy friends" but this really isn't about your "girl" friends it's more why are girls just mean in general. Yes every girl has done one thing on list list at least once but you wouldn't do any of these things TO your friends, just WITH them lol.

    17. E says:

      I used to wonder the same things, then I realized. Girls are just bitches. We all are, one way or another. Some are overt, blatant bitches and some are subtle, conniving bitches. You might not think you're a bitch but when you think, "man, that girl is a slut… She slept with 3 different guys this week!" or "That girl is soo freaking skinny. I hate her!/I would kill to be that skinny…", you're being a bitch. In order to make female friends, you have to let go of your insecurities that causes you to think these thoughts. You have to have faith and trust that this girl will not stab you in the back. And only when you can be a friend too, then you'll get a friend. The reason why many females find it easier to bond with males is because they don't feel the competition that they feel with females. When you're surrounded by guys, you can't really mentally judge and compare yourself with them. It's kind of hard to think, "Man, this guy has bigger boobs than me, so jealous!!" When you're around guys, you let your guard down and become the friendly person that makes guys enjoy being around you, if you can act that way around girls, then you will find that it is easier and nicer to be around girls.

    18. C says:

      In all fairness, girls judge guys pretty harshly too. We're just not competing with them so we don't vocalize it as much, but let's not pretend that we don't think "OMG he is too skinny" or "what a slut!" about guys too.

    19. Tiffany says:

      Wow, what a bunch of pessimistic responses. It's a little silly to be asking why are girls to mean to each other when you just judged the general female population. Why did YOU do that?

      I think we need to stop this illusion that girls are worse or bitchier than guys… Sorry, but girls aren't the only ones who stab each other in the backs. You should see what guys will do when they like the same girl or just because of a girl.

      It IS insecurity, it IS human nature, but don't go blaming /females/ and casting a halo over the heads of men. They hurt each other, too.

    20. patrick says:

      hey, i have more female friends than guys and anyone of them can bitch like crazy to anyone but then the next day be friends with them. You all do it! it's mad. i think guy are way more loyal but that's only cause they don't give a crap if someone saying they're to skinny or if they see a proper buff guy walking past. But if they do fall out then they stay fallen out with them and therefore are only friend with guys they really get along with.

      what i've seen is they'll be a big group of girls. not everyone gets along, but yet they are nice to there faces just to keep the group together. but yet they'll bitch about them behind there backs but they're not bitching about there friends just girls they dont like.

      so it not really that bad.

      you all just need to relax and be more lay back tbh..

    21. kaybee says:

      Bitch means a female dog in heat. The term is accurate for girls going into heat and competing for males. Women have tremendous sexual power and can and will use sex as a weapon. Not just against other women but him and herself as well. Once she secures a mate, she usually isn't such a competitive conniving bitch anymore.

      The prettier and the smarter she is, all the meaner she is maligned by other women, so take it as a compliment if girls are mean to you. The meaner they are, the prettier and smarter you are. My Dad taught my brothers how to find the most beautiful women by following all the malicious gossip by the other girls. And she really does need a friend. If you think guys are being your "friend in need" we must talk about that. Believe me, he is hoping it gets to you so bad he gets some sympathy sex from you. When they grow up, the girls who didn't really understand why they were so rotten do feel bad about being such a jealous bitch.

      Life evens the score and humbles us all. Yeah, and those insides catch up with the outsides in a hurry so if he or she is rotten inside, it doesn't take much or long for it to show in a few years.

      I will walk a mile around men or women who talk trash and especially if it is about women. Misogyny and malicious gossip are red flags of toxic people. You can't expect a healthy friendship or partnership out of a sicko. You get what you give. If you trash women, you attract women haters.

      There is nothing more beautiful on a woman than kindness and humanity. The doors are wide open all over the world and whereever you want to go in life if you know this beauty secret.

    22. Taylor says:

      I think this is really sexist. yes, us girls are extremely bitchy, rude, and hateful. but guys are exactly the same way, only they show it through different ways.

      girls name call and gossip and yell at each other, and go lie about what was actually said. but guys just go and knock the shit out of each other, then also go lie saying they won the fight.

      guys and girls are actually very similar, but different. I like to phrase it as "Girls are too classy to get their nails dirty, while guys prefere brute force"

    23. JD says:

      girls need to get in line and bk into the kitchen where they belong

      1. Jeanne says:

        Go to hell.

    24. anonymous says:

      Because being judgmental makes said girl feel better. Think about it — we live in a world where women are supposed to be "beautiful," so it's always like one big competition. I don't think it's right, no, but I am guilty of gossiping to other girls.

      But I try to be nice to them upfront because, and listen closely.. I know THEY'RE not the real problem. I can recognize that I'm just jealous. I feel some girls can't recognize what the real problem is, so they're directly mean to other girls. They don't want to accept their insecurities.

      No one is perfect. There is always gonna be someone who's prettier and unless you put on tons of makeup so you can try and become a different person (keyword there is "try,") you really can't match up. In the long run, a guy can be annoyed by a pretty girl. There has to be some point in which personality comes into play.

    25. anonymous says:

      Just want to add one more thing..some people may think that by talking about a person one second and being nice the next makes you fake. I don't believe that in this scenario, since the reason I'm gossiping doesn't have anything to do with who she really is. Looks are only skin deep.

    26. blah says:

      well thankyou for letting our ugly truth come out but boys also do the same , and worse girls bite call each other names flirt with already hooked boys to make their girlfriends annoiyed and staff , but men do it between them very secretly too , they are known as emotional breakers ! they treat other men very very bad and YES men gossip too

      we might be sluts and all but at the end of the day it's a Women who gived you birth , so no matter what somehow in a bizzare way when we see a girl getting hit or a crying boy , we gently gather to see what we could do for the situation

      MEN SEE HELL AND STILL LOOK AT THE OTHER HATED PERSON AND SAY : I WISH YOU WERE THERE , BUT DON'T WORRY ILL MAKE ALL MY EFFORTS SO THAT I CAN SEE MY WICH COME TRUE !

      sorry fr the bad english

      1. reader says:

        shut up

      2. Vannessa says:

        No, no, no. Please, DON'T SHUT UP. Keep speaking!

    27. Nate says:

      I really agreee with this. I'm a guy in nursing school with 130 girls. It's ridiculus what they will do to each other. I get along with all of them individually, but sometimes when there are some of them in a group talking sh*t about another girl, I really just have to leave or tell them to stop when I'm around. They all confide in me secrets and get mad when I'm not always on their side.

      There is this one girl though. I wish they could all be like her. You know its a good girl when she will stand up for someone when all the other girls are talking smack about that girl. She is funny, cute, and girls: if you get the opportunity to do the same, please do so. You might not think anyone notices or is watching, but I sincerely think it is one of the most attractive things I have ever seen a girl do.

      I think one of the worst mistakes that girls make is non-confrontation. They will not say anything to another girls face unless they have been saying 100X more than that behind their back before. I've seen lots of girls get hurt, and it really hurts me. One girl is on anti-depressant drugs now because her friends started being so hostile to her.

      Really, just be caring, keep your "girlfriends" accountable when it comes to gossiping or talking smack about other girls. You will get noticed by guys more, I guarantee it.

    28. AC says:

      This may be an old article, but I feel compelled to comment on number 4. Every girl that would pop up as a new friend on my ex's facebook, also popped up in his text inbox with dirty texts and questions of "would you ever fuck me?" soooo… that should answer a couple of those questions. Girls are shaaaaadddy, and it takes a lot to trust em.

      1. Alice says:

        You're ex is shady!

    29. jas S says:

      1. Why do girls call another girl pretty or skinny with a tone of disgust? You know what I’m talking about. Imagine this sentence being exchanged from one girl to another girl, about a girl passing on the street: “Oh my god…..she is so….skinny…(or, if you prefer, skinnnnayyyyy).” Why the attitude problem?

      -Some girls are jealous and would wish to be as skinny as the other girl and/or like to pick flaws from other girls to make them feel better. Some girls have nothing better to do than Gossip. Some teenage girls have nothing else better to talk about because they are bored. When girls are mean in high school its kind of a symbol of being in power. Many Girls think Being a BItch is cute and cool and people will follow them and like them better. Many girls are scared of bitchy girl and tend to follow them. “Its cool to be mean and stuck up” I have noticed that in groups. The Bitchy bossy mean girls are the most insecure.

      2. Why do girls call other girls sluts? Any girl who has thought about the meaning of the word ‘SLUT’ knows it is offensive. The thinking girl knows that this word can be used to describe a woman who flirts with another woman’s boyfriend or a woman who has slept with people she didn’t love. The thinking girl knows that there is no definition to this word and that it is hurtful to all women alike, so why do some girls say it?

      -Some girls just say that to others because they don’t like them or want to put them down. Slut in some girls can be another term for bitch. The girls who call people a slut for no reason have the intention of being REALLY mean.

      3. Why are girls so judgmental? Why do you have to break down 1,000,000 walls before a girl will let you in to be her friend? I feel like tons of my friends sit at the bar ready to claw any girl who is nice to them. What does a girl have to do to make some freakin’ girl friends?

      -Girls are judgement because they are ignorant and like to pick at others because it makes them feel good. Well people in general are judgemental. Its a bad quality. Some girls deep down in side are insecure and/or have been hurt so much they act nasty to girls. I think its retarted how girls think its wierd when a girl is nice to them and they treat them like shit! Wouldn’t you want people to be nice to you? Its because people also like to attack people they think are weaker than them. Being mean can be a symbol of power. Some girls have nothing else better to do in their pathetic miserable lives. People treat others the way they have been treated. Example If a girl had been treated like shit her whole life she might treat others like shit. I have stopped caring what girls think of me cause they suck as friends. Too catty, competitive, and jealous! If someone doesn’t want treat me well they don’t deserve to be my friend.

      4. Why do girls assume that every girl their boyfriend and/or aspiring lover is friends with is either f*cking him or wants to f*ck him? Girls should know better than anyone that we can be friends with a boy without wanting to do him. So why don’t girls give other girls this benefit of the doubt?

      Cause they insecure and jealous. and maybe possessive.

      5. Why do girls gossip? Why do girls swear they can keep a secret just so they can have dirt to tell everyone else? Why are girls such bad friends to each other sometimes?

      Cause they have big mouths and like to talk. Because they are catty, competive., jealous, insecure, unhappy, miserable. Stupid. losers
      But not all girlsare like this luckily there are a few chill girls.

      I want to know your answers.

    30. Jeremy says:

      Girls are only good for fucking. End of subject. Oh yeah! They are also good for ironing, making my lunch and sucking my dick.

      1. celestej says:

        God youre a horrible douchebag. kill yourself

      2. meh says:

        your such a wanabe lad. but i know you a VIRGIN!!!

      3. ellen says:

        Haha, no. You're a virgin, sexist bastard.

      4. Amanda says:

        Fuck you asshole! did you mom touch you when you were sleeping?!

    31. abbey says:

      Its called the pecking order. If a rooster takes notice of a hen the other hens will attack her and peck her to death. Thus when girls feel threatened by another girl the pecking begins. I had a beautiful friend in high school, she was friendly to most and very soft spoken. the problem was, that she was truly beautiful. She was thin shapely long blond hair and she got lots of attention from the guys at school. Other girls were ruthless to her, calling her names and even pulling cruel pranks on her.But she remained who she was and became one of the most popular in school.

      s

    32. Mike says:

      Haha this is awesome.

      Girls are so bitchy. It's such a turn on. I LOVE BITCHES.

      That is all.

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    34. Sarah says:

      Don't lose hope. There are some of us who have learned from our mistakes and moved on.

    35. viv says:

      Females mature faster physically. But mentally they take far longer than males so like many things, respecting others (and consequences for ones own actions) is something they cant yet wrap thier minds around.

    36. Girl says:

      Their only mean because their gelous that why they say ohh she so skinny in a snarky way. I mean like I used to always want to be with the mean girls they were always the ruling clique ang they always make fun of people that arent perfect and if your not with them they tease you. And their also mean because their mad and thats how they get their anger out

    37. criolle johnny says:

      Call me a pig, Women DO NOT have friends! You have mutual interests. When the interests pass, so do the so-called friendships.
      Men, on the other hand, feel more deeply than women. That's why we can throw ourselves in front of a train to defend our loved ones. That's why we can go to war to defend our families and countries. That's why a man will die to defend his fellows in combat.
      Women will turn on each other in seconds.

      1. Jeanne says:

        Don't call yourself a pig, Johnny-boy. You are deluded.

      2. sonja says:

        I somewhat disagree.women have fighting instincts to protect their children.other than that women have hated me ever since i can remember ….young old,it doesnt matter.

      3. Megan says:

        What in the world makes you think the only men can do those things? Courage isn't sexist, but you sound like you might be… I can go to war just like you and I would die to defend my brothers AND sisters in arms, even if i don't like them.

      4. Whatever says:

        actually..girls are more developed than boys..whether its anatomically, emotionally and psychologically..
        so yeah..if u don't believe me, google it up. so don't you dare look down on us girls, you don't know what you're talking about

    38. gabe l says:

      I know. It’s pretty depressing but no matter what I’m going to keep trying to break through any walls I need to if it will get me a gf.

    39. gabe l says:

      I would do anything for this one girl I know but she just says she doesn’t like me like that. I had to stay up all night crying.

      1. Ashley Gomez says:

        Dude Dont' Act Desprete !

    40. gabe l says:

      If chicks really can’t feel as intimately as guys, can’t they at least understand we feel that way about them? Like I said, It’s just depressing.

      1. Ashley Gomez GHS says:

        Hey You Dont' Have to stay Up all Niqht , You can Have me ;D

    41. hektiik says:

      soo im a girl and if i had a choice i would be a guy because of all the bitching going on ..girls thrive on it and i have noticed that the more beautiful you are and the more you stand out the more people choose to judge you . So girls bitch about other girls to feel much better about themselves and it makes up for thier imperfections an it lowers the victim and makes you feel good / it about yourself..girls are catty because they are bitches … Lemme tell you a good fist in the nose solves all your problems

    42. jasmine says:

      i think the girls are just strait up bitches i grew up with brothers and really wasnt that girly type dont get me wrong iam a pretty ass girl but have sum tomboyish in me wen i staryed chillin with girls they wud talk shit bout girls but then in there face act like oh hi u look so pretty today and ill be like two seconds ago u were just saying how much u hate her over the years i jus cudnt get why were girls so mean to each other until i notice when me and man go out bitches will purposely be loud or stare at my guy to get attention i dont think iam insecure or jealous its jus ill be thinkin like man that bitch is so insecure she needs to go after some other girls guy dey have no respect seriously there are sneaky u cant trust no girl honestly that whole girls jus wanna be friends with there boyfriends without the girl being so possessed yeh rite !! Bitch i know how bitches roll they get too comfortable and start with that flirting and flaunting and they try to get the guy to like dem cus jealousy kiks in.

    43. sal says:

      Girls can be evil. Some bad stuff happened when i was 13 and my 'friends' made things worse. i ended up a social recluse from then until uni. part of it was confusion but most of it was just general sneeriness and jealousy i think. girls get high from making others feel bad, and if your the one who tries to make others happy you end up feeling worse. these 'friends' were cruel when i was ill an even worse when i was getting better. quite a 'stiff upper lip' person- not self-pitying, so don't think i was particularly annoying…. even at uni my best girl friend is sometimes really horrible. guys are much easier to hang round with- downside is as the only girl you are always slightly outsiderish!

    44. Noah :) says:

      Girls are BITCHES but I love them to death mostly cuz I’m not gay but ya love them hate the you tell me

    45. her says:

      it's true, so many girls are like this. I am a girl, but I don't get along with other girls, ever since grade eight when all of my best friends started talking shit about each other. I couldn't handle it, the way they looked at me when I stood up for others, the looks I got when walking past, wondering what they were saying about ME. All my life girls have been saying that boys are stupid, but that's not true. Boys are SIMPLE. in a good way. They don't over complicate things and just concentrate on having fun. I have very few girl friends, because I can't handle most girls. I hope that when we're older they'll realize they're being stupid, but for now I'll just let them be.
      I'm not ashamed to admit that on more then one occasion, I've wished I was a boy. I'm not lesbian, though several girls have asked if I am. I just can't stand the complicatedness that girls put themselves and others through.

      1. rohit says:

        wow what an reply
        im a boy
        liked u a lot

      2. Will says:

        agreed.:).

      3. Anna says:

        You have just described me. I'm 30 and I'm still struggling with girls/women. I GIVE UP!
        I too love guy's simpleness. There's way too much slagging of men's uncomplicated approach to life since the 90's, post-feminist world view. Women could learn a lot from men, not just the other way round.
        Also- WOMEN, you could do a lot for yourselves if you stopped viewing yourself through the eyes of men. Have some self-respect and stop reducing yourselves to your looks or manipulative talents. Real men love real women- strong and independent but with an elegant spirit and an open heart. That's real feminity.

    46. Kevin says:

      ROFL… I’m a guy and I never knew girls did all of that:P But honestly, guys do alot of those things themselves…

      We guys compare muscles and the amount of weight we can lift and getting six-packs… It’s excatly the same as talking about being skinny or pretty…

      Oh and one more thing… Guys gossip too… They do it all the time… Except we gossip about call of duty or other shit like that…

      1. Lilly says:

        Lolwut gossip about call of duty O.o

    47. Dave says:

      Id agree With kevin. Except i wouldnt say that we gossip about call of duty and stuff like that. I would say we brag about it. Its not like i would not like a guy just because he gets more kills than me… He could be my best friend but i would just keep playing untill i am better than he is or id just stop playing and find something that im better at him than.And we also brag about our friends like for example someone says they can bench 210. We might say that we know his one kid that can bench 300… And that would just shut the kid up. Everyone kept on saying hat guys just fight instead of gossip… But iv only been in one fight before and it was just because this one kid was being a dumb ass, it didn have to do anything with gossip.. He was just gettin on my nerves in the spur of he moment. In the end though i would say guys and girls both have their problems and although they arent allways the same there are just some bad people; male or female.

    48. Peej says:

      I am a male and am rather big-boned at that. I also have a big bubble butt for a boy as most of my friends would say. The other day, on a warm summer’s evening, I went for a walk around my neighbourhood. I was wearing shorts and stripy t-shirt and along the way I passed a few shops, at the corner of my eye, I was quite shocked to see that my butt was enormous and was bulging out from my shorts. I carried on walking, down this alley way when I heard three little girls laughing wickedly behind me; as they got closer, one started shouting: “Look at that big fat fatty, with his big arms, big legs and he’s got fat man-boobs!” They followed me around and kept saying this. She also yelled at me and said: “Fat arse, fat boobies!” Very embarrassing!! A good case of girl bitchiness?

    49. alisha. says:

      welll guys,immmma girl and i have friends i love to death. and we never talk about eachother at all . we gosssip tooo much tho.

    50. Libbie says:

      MOST (not all) girls put others down so they feel better about themselves. They gossip because we like to talk about other people, but sometimes people take it too far and criticize, attack, stab in the back, etc. We think guys don't do this, but they do, just in a less dramatic and obvious way. I have a boy in my class named Andrew. He plays football and he's a bit chubby. Guys rip on him all the time for that. They insert insults into conversations, but sometimes they are placed so well that you can't tell if they are teasing or they are actually being super mean. We don't do that. We talk in private and spread the insults.

      When I was in middle school, I was very quiet and shy. I had 3 friends. It wasn't until I went to high school that I realized how CRUEL they were. Yes, it is sad that my middle school years became torture because of them. At least now I know how awful mean people are and how I will never sink to their level. I know that they won't go far. Our high school reunion will show that. Mean people don't make it far, unless they learn to be NICE.

    51. Gogo says:

      Mother nature wired female brain different.
      From evolution POV, female can reproduce once every 9 months and then must take care for the offspring.
      So they are more vulnerable and more insecure. Therefore in their best interest is to get the best and the most as fast and as painless without using muscles.
      From this follows a social game that evolved and twisted during the evolution of society. It drives girls to be more competitive not only in the company of other girls.. and because in the past they had no 'voice' in society, their only tools for achieving something is by "acting", trash-talks, doing things in behind people's back, doing things while being unannounced, using makeup to be more attractive and competitive… etc – you name it – it's girl for it doing it. You can make comparison with boys fights when they are young. But while some boys keep "fighting" while growing,ALMOST all (but not all) girls keep doing crap in their entire life. Sometimes behavior correction happens if the human is with high enough IQ and think of what consequences are – therefore getting measures for preventing of the sh1ts occur in 1st place.. and applying more self-observation helps a lot as well.
      Sh1t yeah I know..

      1. Fobo says:

        Wait, are you saying most girls have low IQ? lol thanks

    52. Autumn says:

      I definitely agree. I hate it when a girl talks about me right in front of me and thinks I cant hear them or talk shit about me and think it won't come back to me.I'm not stupid and I'm not mean at all, in fact I hate to have to be a bitch, but if you need to say something to me you should say it my face.I think too MANY girls are insecure about themselves so they become jealous they talk about other girls in plans of ruining their lives. If I think a girl is pretty I'm not gonna turn to my friend and say "Ew, she's ugly." I'm not a lesbian but when I think a girl is hot I'll probably say it: "Dang, I wish I had her boobs." but I will never criticize a girl out of pettiness or jealousy.I'm not like that.

    53. L2l1999 says:

      ha i know so many girls are… well.. not the nicest. Usually they will be rude because they feel that the girl they're ranking on is prettier than them so they try to put them down to make them selves feel better. That is not always the case though some girls are rude to others in front of their friends to make them selves look cooler or the "leader" of there click. There are many reasons even some could be because the boy they like may be looking/flirtig with that girl so they will be rude alot of the times its related to relationship, making them selves feel better or being "cool" .. i do not understand why they do this but…. they do😛

    54. :o) says:

      girls are just as mean as boys!!!!!!

    55. Hannah says:

      It's because of our image. Girls are supposed to be sugar and spice and everything nice, while guys are more rough and tumble. Imagine this:

      You're standing in an elementary school play yard and a couple of shouts erupt. It's two boys, brawling it out over some little problem that they had with each other. Maybe it's a girl. It doesn't matter. The teachers get involved, and both boys go to the principal's office.
      Do you think that the way everyone saw those two boys would change? How much punishment would they get in? Or would everyone just shrug and say "Oh, boys will be boys."?

      Now imagine the same situation with two girls. That's right, two sweet, kind little girls giving each other bloody noses over some little thing.

      Everyone, school staff, other kids, parents, would be shocked. Because girls are sweet little things who are always nice. Suddenly, those girls would be bad kids.

      So instead of coming to blows, girls are passive aggressive. Little hate notes, exclusion, compliments that weren't intended to be nice. Because it's not flashy like brawls, the teachers don't notice it. And anyone who stands out and refuses to partake is a "bitch", or "cold", because she sticks with her own opinions. Anything can cause this form of bullying: jealousy, insecurity, a look, an unacknowledged wave, a need to climb the popularity ladder. Some girls will sacrifice others to make it into the close knit cliques.

      Since girls are raised this way, with mental assault possibilities coming from all sides, we can be very wary of other girls later on in our lives. Especially victims of this form of bullying.

    56. ABDUL says:

      after reading some para n coments i realized that i grlz are becoz of money n nothing else but y ????? can some 1 answer me ?

    57. selena says:

      thats how girls r
      none of u can change it
      most of them r like that
      n honestly im kinda mean too n im proud of it
      so stop it if u cant stand for a girl then dont complain thats who we r

      1. Drake says:

        Bitch…

    58. jeff says:

      I am a guy but I’ve been around girls all my life i no we gossip to but to me like guys will fight and get over it the next day but girls fight they remember and take it to there grave not to be sexist or anything but I’ve witnessed it with my many cousins.

    59. manoj says:

      what is think girls about the boys

    60. Jess says:

      I've talked to a lot of men who claim that this "jealousy" thing doesn't actually exist between girls. The only reason they claim that, is because they don't experience it and consequently don't understand it. This isn't to say ALL men don't see it. But I, however, see it daily.
      Since middle school, I've been a victim of the types of behavior mentioned in this article. I'll never forget the first girl who started to make my life a living hell at the age of 13. She would blatantly give me judgy looks and talk shit about me to MY friends. Which was a swift blow to the gut because, well, they were supposed to be there for me and they obviously weren't. I was her target, despite the fact that I'd always been extremely nice to her and had made an effort to be friends.
      High school was more of the same. The popular group of girls didn't like me for no apparent reason. A few of them I don't even remember talking to ONCE, yet I would hear that they all talked shit about me and my small group of female friends. I was called a slut (even though, at the time I had not been with anyone) and ugly. Yet I noticed that boys at my school asked me out constantly and would always try and make conversation with me. It was only the girls that didn't like me.
      I've always been a pretty vulnerable person. I've gotten A LOT better but I used to take a lot of shit that I probably shouldn't to heart. Everytime another girl would give me a mean look or talk about me behind my back, I would feel myself blaming my personality, or believing that I was actually ugly. But then I realized that the opposite was true.
      NOW finally to the point: Girls attack other girls that are threats.
      Yep, that's all it really is. It's actually a disguised compliment. Today, for example, I came to class from work so I had a nice outfit on. This girl, when I walked into class, gave me the meanest look I've ever seen. Her eyes started at my face and then slowly traveled down. And I just thought to myself, "thank you."
      Don't take anything to heart ladies. The prettiest girls get the most shit from other girls. Just the way it is.

      1. dhanaangelamae says:

        Ditto … I have experienced all of this. And still is experiencing this now that I am 30. Stand tall yet humble. With me, I just brush it off and take care of my business even better. I hate none and generally likes people. I do understand that I can't please everybody nor am I trying to but I still try to be nice or civil with those that I know are hating on me. It doesn't mean I'm being fake. It's just that hating sucks a lot of energy out of a person and I would rather be happy than spiteful. ***fist bump***

    61. jess says:

      I've talked to a lot of men who claim that this "jealousy" thing doesn't actually exist between girls. The only reason they claim that, is because they don't experience it and consequently don't understand it. This isn't to say ALL men don't see it. But I, however, see it daily.
      Since middle school, I've been a victim of the types of behavior mentioned in this article. I'll never forget the first girl who started to make my life a living hell at the age of 13. She would blatantly give me judgy looks and talk shit about me to MY friends. Which was a swift blow to the gut because, well, they were supposed to be there for me and they obviously weren't. I was her target, despite the fact that I'd always been extremely nice to her and had made an effort to be friends.
      High school was more of the same. The popular group of girls didn't like me for no apparent reason. A few of them I don't even remember talking to ONCE, yet I would hear that they all talked shit about me and my small group of female friends. I was called a slut (even though, at the time I had not been with anyone) and ugly. Yet I noticed that boys at my school asked me out constantly and would always try and make conversation with me. It was only the girls that didn't like me.
      I've always been a pretty vulnerable person. I've gotten A LOT better but I used to take a lot of shit that I probably shouldn't to heart. Everytime another girl would give me a mean look or talk about me behind my back, I would feel myself blaming my personality, or believing that I was actually ugly. But then I realized that the opposite was true.
      NOW finally to the point: Girls attack other girls that are threats.
      Yep, that's all it really is. It's actually a disguised compliment. Today, for example, I came to class from work so I had a nice outfit on. This girl, when I walked into class, gave me the meanest look I've ever seen. Her eyes started at my face and then slowly traveled down. And I just thought to myself, "thank you."
      Don't take anything to heart ladies. The prettiest girls get the most shit from other girls. Just the way it is.

    62. Carissa says:

      OK I'm in high school and most girls that I have seen and some times even MY own friends they sometimes or most of the time act like total cows. For some of them it really effects their friendships and as a girl I know what it's like girls act like cows to me and boys sometimes when I haven't done anything. I think girls don't trust their own friends or people that we know it's stupid.

    63. Nirac says:

      I feel like we judge each other too much :S Honestly I feel that women's tendencies to gossip and judge other girls hatefully is something we need to fix. I personally like to respect everybody and think of everyone around me as equals, but I see a lot of drama going on around me that is usually started through girls who are mean to each other openly. Instead of sticking to first impressions, we should just be open about talking to people and really seeing what they are under everything. Most people stick too rigidly to what's expected of them as a certain gender that they don't see a way to just be open minded and accept those around them. All I can say is if you want to avoid being mean or being meaned on (it's late don't judge me) you just need to be yourself, be open, don't judge others and don't TRY to be mean. If you catch yourself thinking or uttering mean things you need to think about how that would effect you and how that other person feels.

    64. Dr. Medical says:

      When girls have attitudes and speak negatively about another girl there are reasons:

      Reason 1 – Those girls are jealous.
      Reason 2 – The girl being ridiculed has probably done/has probably not done something to provoke it.
      Reason 3 – The girls are bullying to make themselves feel superior; they are trying to mask their insecurities.

      Regardless of the reason, talking about someone especially to a "clique" makes them immature. Those kinds of negative behaviors are examples of women who are socially deficit–which is a sociological and psychological behavioral issue.

      Outcomes:
      Try looking at the positives by ignoring them. When I see girls acting a certain way, I avoid it. Lol.

    65. I am a lesbian but the girls in my school are too mean😦

    66. JadedDeathSprite says:

      Um…the word 'slut' does have a meaning to it. By the way.
      Isn't this bitch thing also applicable to bullying? Bullying is known and commonly done for the sake of feeling superior. Being the sensitive whores we are, I'm betting we do so because of that. I'm a lady, I'd know.
      What surprises me the most though, is when we slam our own friends. It's disgusting, but we do it.
      And then, at the end of the day, we wish ourselves a good ole boyfriend to go crying to when we hear of the nasty things stabbed behind our backs. I'm losing faith in humanity here.

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