Comments on: Why Do Men Cheat? Because We Freaking LET THEM

By: kevin norman

kevin norman — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 01:40:21 +0000

Well, even Allen Ginsburg said that the idea of monogamy terrified him. But for monogamous couples I think articulation is important. But even if a man escapes the seven year itch…he still has to deal with the reality of “eating ashes” when he reaches his early thirties and experiences “eating ashes” and/or “hero death”. This is a time when he begins to look at his life and what he is becoming as if time is passing him by and he is longing for the earlier days in his pristine life of his “stomping grounds” when he may or may not have had casual sexual encounters. He may think that picking someone up for casual sex will somehow rejuvenate him and prove to him, that inspite of maturing through hero death years, there still is hope that his youth and best physical attributes are not wasting away. He in fact, in lue of “hero death” seeks to save himself by becoming his own hero.

By: Joe

Joe — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 05:48:56 +0000

when you’re married and heavily invested in that marriage, for reasons other than “love”: financial, house, kids, shared social circles, it is not easy to just wake up one day and say lets end it. Lives can be ruined. And if you’re trapped in a sexless marriage, it is hard to see a way out. Cheating provides a way out, although by US standards it’s pretty sleazy, but in the long view, it certainly can be a “pressure valve” that allows the marriage to continue, along with all the positive aspects it entails. The US is so puritan in its sexual mores. The Europeans are way ahead of us in this regard, and view mistresses and affairs as just a trivial part of life. whereas the US views this as a national scandal – Monica Lewinsky anyone?

Look at how painful the McCartney divorce was.

By: Some Guy

Some Guy — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 09:50:39 +0000

Men and women cheat for all kinds of reasons. The only thing you really need to know is whether someone has cheated on you. If so, boot them out of your life. No second chances, no kidding.

By: Johnny Northwest

Johnny Northwest — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 09:34:22 +0000

Obviously, you haven’t been in a long term relationship — may factors and variables exist to be together — friends, family, expectations, the bliss of a new person, etc.

I divorced, and it was the best thing…after 8 years together, we didn’t compliment eachother, had different goals by that time, grew apart, etc.

I didn’t cheat, we just woke up one morning, had breaksfast, and I said, “Are you up for the big D?”

That was that — now I can go to concerts (VIP style), play pool for money, Sundays are my Fantasy Football time, drink on a Friday AND Saturday, meet lots of lovely ladies, go swimming at 3am, make my meals, ride my ride, hike ANYTIME I want, smoke a cigar! Drink WHOLE milk, get up when I want, have the WHOLE bed to myself, my own alarm clock, get out of the house, with out having to excuse myself, eat out where and what I like, go to a baseball game — OMG my life is sweet!

Of course, in the future, when I find someone to compliment my oddities and lifestyle then — BOOM, I’ll call her girl friend…but for now — It’s my time

Johnny : hardestworkingamerican@yahoo.com

By: jim

jim — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 15:14:54 +0000

Get your man some of these underpants http://www.numberpants.com

By: Nat

Nat — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:00:25 +0000

I have always thought that cheating was definitely a symptom of a problem, and not just the problem itself, but honestly? I don’t buy this “unappreciated” crap… If you feel there’s a problem, you use your words.

By: what

what — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 07:34:24 +0000

Here was me thinking that women cheated more than men….. XD

Shouldn’t we be asking why anyone cheats, not just “them!”….? maybe? no?

By: ela

ela — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 20:02:12 +0000

manes him for for the slut(??) = makes him go for that slut… shouldn’t have had that last beer.

By: ela

ela — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 20:00:27 +0000

guys feel unappreciated if a guy passes him on the highway in a better/faster car, if his partner at work makes more than him, if his gf’s friend is taller than him…and other ridiculous bullshit they can rationalize into pitying themselves. it doesn’t have to be about his partner it’s his own damn inferiority complex that manes him for for the slut at the bar bc he doesn’t have anything to prove to her- for that 1 night HE.IS.THE.MANNNN. and that, coming from a primitive and realist standpoint, is what happens 9/10 times they cheat. MEN ARE SIMPLE.

By: Cat

Cat — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 17:03:08 +0000

To Jes:

Yea, true, some women also cheat, but I think since this Neuman guy’s whole argument is on male cheaters only, and he stresses that when men cheat, feeling unappreciated by their female partners is the only possible reason, it is completely unfair to women. There’s no way that that is what happened in every case, and even then, the cheaters still should take responsibility.

If someone wants to say when PEOPLE cheat, SOMETIMES it is because they don’t feel appreciated by their partners, then I have no problem with it. His view is just too extreme.