5 Reasons to Rob The Cradle…er…Date a Younger Man

robinson.jpgDating a younger man may be taboo, but people have been doing it for years. Mrs. Robinson? Donna Martin and David Silver? Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher?

Obviously, they are doing it for a reason.

Got a younger dude? Friends making fun of you for robbing the cradle?

Ignore them and keep that boy around! Here are 5 great reasons why:

1. More energy.

Okay, so this isn’t true for all younger guys, but they generally DO have more energy and enthusiasm than their more aged counterparts. That means they’ll usually be happy to try new things, they’ll expend a lot of energy doing things to impress you, and they won’t necessarily be as quick to complain as older guys will.

2. Youthful exuberance and enthusiasm.

Remember: to a younger guy, you are “the older woman.” Even if they deny it, the relationship will always be a little bit like The Graduate to them. They’ll be happy to have you, and they’ll brag to all their buddies that they’re dating you. Instead of being just another girlfriend, you’ll be a point of pride.

3. You can take the lead.

Sometimes, it’s true that the older you are, the more experienced you are. You can take that in whatever context you want, but it’s true for a variety of things. If you’re a college graduate and your guy is still in his senior year, you can give him great grad-school or job-searching advice. Basically, the lead is there for you to take in the relationship.

4. They’ll be loyal.

This is also an arguable point, but especially if you’re a lot older than the guy (say, five years or more), you can bet he’s not dating you just for kicks. Odds are, there’s something about you (yes, the essence of you—not your looks, and not your cash or job security) that he likes, and that’s important for building loyalty in a long-lasting relationship.

5. They die later.

Is this morbid? Because it’s true. If you’re dating a younger guy and you feel like there’s a possibility the two of you might stay together for a long, long time, you won’t necessarily have to worry about being a widow at the age of 50 because your dude was 20 years older than you. Women live longer than men. Date a younger guy. ‘Nuff said.

17 Comments on "5 Reasons to Rob The Cradle…er…Date a Younger Man"

  1. Emily says:
    Thu, 25th Sep 20081:01 pm 

    So a 20 year old guy with a 25 year old woman is a huge age difference? Really? I don’t know. That doesn’t sound like a huge difference.

  2. Lauren, University of Michigan says:
    Thu, 25th Sep 20081:11 pm 

    Maybe 5 years doesn’t seem like a big deal, but think about the maturity level. And the fact that the dude cant legally get into bars!

  3. Star says:
    Thu, 25th Sep 20087:51 pm 

    Where did you get 20 and 25? Did I miss that somewhere?

    Anyway I have to say I’ve always worried about the widow part. I know that’s mean of me but I don’t want to spend like 20 years of my life alone because I met someone amazing and they were a lot older than me. But I suppose we can’t be picky with love…

  4. Mike says:
    Fri, 26th Sep 20081:11 am 

    I’m 22 and she’s 24.5, and compared to the ex who was only 2 months younger then me, I find that older girls aren’t such little babies about the little things, but I did learn one thing, all girls (young and older), love to get attention and be treated like they were the center of your world.

  5. Matthews says:
    Fri, 26th Sep 20086:53 pm 

    I was in one of those cases… Although she was 10yrs. older, her mind was still 17yo. And me being at mind & body somewhere in the middle; it didn’t work out well. So, I feel that the mental age aka maturity level is a strong factor in all of this. Also, for guys, it does help to like Cougars and have a maturity level higher than your age.

    Mr. Matthews to you mame.

  6. Teri says:
    Thu, 2nd Oct 20087:33 pm 

    Re Star asking “Where did you get 20 and 25? Did I miss that somewhere?”

    Well, since this is on the “college candy” site, there was probably an assumption that most women posting here will be somewhere between 18 and 25. Under point 4, Carly wrote “especially if you’re a lot older than the guy (say, five years or more)”. So Emily was questioning the implication that 5 years was a “lot older” for women in the typical college age range, especially grad school. (It might justifiably be considered so in high school, though.)

    [I'm a 54 year old woman (not in college) who wandered in here via the link to the VP Debate drinking game from a general political blog, and saw this thread over in the Whats Hot column. It was of interest, since when I was 53 I dated a 35 year old man for a while.]

  7. suvendu says:
    Fri, 3rd Oct 200811:05 am 

    like to make 4ndship with woman whose r elder than me

  8. Angel says:
    Fri, 6th Feb 20093:13 pm 

    Women are like a fine wine…

  9. Jen says:
    Fri, 6th Feb 20093:21 pm 

    My last lover was 16 years younger than me… I certainly agree with #s 1, 2 and 3 :D

  10. ilovemyyoungin! says:
    Fri, 6th Feb 20093:40 pm 

    Well, I entered a relationship with a younger guy

    six months ago today. And i mean, we’re BOTH young (he’s a freshman in high school and I am a senior). I don’t date people often; I have only really been in two other serious relationships, but this by far has been the best (and longest). My last two partners were both older than me (one male and one female) and those relationships just…weren’t what relationships should be. My current relationship is long distance, but nothing has ever felt so right with someone. Perhaps I am being unrealistic, but I am really thinking I may have found my life partner. As I mentioned earlier, this is my senior year, but I honestly hope to keep this going while I go to college. It happened fast, I will admit. But…like I said, nothing has ever felt so great!

    I do find the above facts to be true (though I can’t really comment on death, since we’re both still so young). Now that I am getting ready to go to college, I realize how much I should have been thinking about when I first started. So I have definitely been able to share with him certain things that he needs to be doing now. He’s VERY loyal and loving. He has A LOT of energy, as I do myself. I often feel that at heart I am a bit younger than my actual age at times, and he’s fine with that. But he is also mature in that I can have serious conversations with him and he has even experienced things that I have not. He’s also very willing to try so many things with me that he admits he’s never really thought about. Being very open minded myself, I love that!

    I guess since we come from two completely different worlds, we just compliment each other really well. So, all said…I LOVE MY YOUNGIN’!

    And I kind of like the thought of being referred to as a ‘cougar’. lol go figure!

  11. Sherry says:
    Fri, 6th Feb 20093:48 pm 

    I married a younger guy and I don’t care what anyone says, It’s the Best!! He treats me like a queen. I’m 39 and he’s 26. We’ve been married for 3 yrs and I can’t ever see being with a guy my age now. Older women should be so lucky to have a young, hot man fall in love with them. If anyone says anything then they’re just jealous

  12. msdpok says:
    Fri, 6th Feb 20094:47 pm 

    Let me tell you mid 60’s women are great! They don’t create alot oof noise and they love sex!! Try it you always go back!!

  13. Racheal says:
    Fri, 6th Feb 20095:34 pm 

    I’m a 42 year old interested in a 20 year old I met while attending college last year…yes last year. I’m pursing my undergrad degree and belong to student organizations on campus, some that he belongs to. At first it didn’t even occur to me to even want to go out with the guy or even want him. But after building a good rapport and we can talk about anything, a year later I can honestly say, despite his faults, I’m falling for him. Logically, it doesn’t make sense, even to me, but I really like him, and yes, he’s reciprocated these feelings. He brings up the age difference occasionally, both sides, so he’s realistic about this. Just would like to know HOW to do this.

  14. Teresa says:
    Fri, 6th Feb 20097:18 pm 

    I just want to say I am 41 years old women and the love of my life is 21 and I have not been happier in my life he is my best friend and best lover in my life wouldn’t change anything about him !!

  15. Thomas Rueberger says:
    Fri, 6th Feb 20097:22 pm 

    Wow, Mike. She is 24 and a half and you are only 22?

    Boy howdy, two and a half years age difference is HUGE.

    You clearly know a thing or two about cougars and must be a man among boys for being able to stand out from your peers and attract this older woman.

    Sadly there are a TON of 18-24 yr old men who simply want to have sex with an older woman and as long as the older women are cool with this then its great but dont try pretending that they are looking at you for the longterm.

    If you are an older woman looking to get schtupped by an 18 yr old; go on and do it just try to not pretend that this is because “he will die later and as such you will not have be a widow”.

    At least older men admit why they want to nail an 18 yr old and its a shame that older women are afraid to admit the same for fear of how they will be perceived.

  16. "SALMA" says:
    Wed, 24th Jun 200910:15 am 

    I’ve been seeing a 23 yr.old and I’m in my fifties, have been going on 3 yrs. he tells me age is just a number it don’t make the person nor tell your heart how to feel.He’s so much more mature than the older guys I once dated. Love while you live,my life has changed for the better since we met,and I’m thankful everyday him.

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