Why do men do this? Constant rejection by women. The average guy is just that, common and average and let us not forget, “plentiful”. With great numbers comes great power. It is these very average guys who dictate to the market what sells (the sex they aren’t getting) and it it is these men who cause advertisers to target you with all sorts of things to make you feel inferior so you will go out and buy stuff to be hotter. The irony will make your knees wobble. The next time you turn your nose up at an average guy remember, he’s the reason you buy heels and makeup and try to look prettier than the next girl. You see, you think that your just “holding out so that you can preserve your integrity” and that’s a good thing, but it’s being exploited by a much more powerful entity offering men an alternative to you. They are playing men and women against each other to sell stuff. DUH! Wake up dingus. Of course they don’t want you having one night stands. That would put the porn, stripper, and prostitute businesses OUT OF BUSINESS, OVERNIGHT. Oh yeah it would also put a dent in many of the vices, women would stop buying so much stuff, I mean we’re talking serious problems for a lot of powerful and rich people here. They are NEVER going to let that happen. You will always be inundated with the same old antiquated notions that have kept people in power for years.

The guys you shrug off as boring or uninteresting or just not your type, (somehow there is always a reason), hmmm, I wonder why that is? , will get that same treatment by other girls over and over again until one day he goes – “I’ve got a pocket full of money and no one who loves me, and I might add they feel like no one ever will.” Then they think – I’ll go and give it to the whores. They will at least give me real attention and put some effort into it. And BAM the cycle repeats itself. (Women I hate to say it, but you are being TOOLED OUT by corporate America and even the underworld.)

This of course will lead to the age old cry… “where are all the men?” “I can’t find anyone.” Women by nature want the extraordinary man and they will harem around him, cat fight over him, and leave the rest to rot. This is normal in the animal kingdom, however, among highly intelligent, sentient beings, this becomes ridiculous quick.

The tall, smart, funny, articulate, reasonably good looking, well dressed fellow you blew off because he was a little quiet, nervous, or happened to be by himself, is THAT guy I’m talking about. Not the scrubs who don’t bathe, not the goofs that have no life. I’m talking about real men of real value that get discounted because women are looking for “Mr. Extraordinary.”

Stop blowing men off, believing the media hype, and assuming that they are all after your junk. Men and women are SUPPOSED to be hot for each other. Our current state of biology isn’t an accident, it is that which has allowed us to survive.

I’ll tell you this, women also give men buyers remorse. That’s right, if you hold something out and it turns out to not rock our world we’re going to be disappointed that I waited so long for that and leave. It’s like buying a great looking car that drives like crap. Why is this jacked up? Because you kept the guy around for the promise of sex and it was the only reason he was there. Get to know the guy and if the two of you make a connection go for it. That’s my rant, it’s the truth, and there is nothing anyone can do to change the truth except ignore it and hope it goes away.

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One night stands can be interesting because you can end up sleeping with somebody that knows or does something you've not experienced before.

The downside to one night stands is it isn't generally as much fun as with somebody you've slept more often with.

When you sleep with somebody quite often you work out their qwirks and learn how to push their buttons which makes things a lot more fun.

Casual sex can't replicate somebody that knows how you tick and can exploit that to their advantage.

Having said that though it can be pretty hard to find out who you have proper sexual chemistry with.

The problem of course is you are almost always going to enjoy sex but the question is could you enjoy it more?

The biggest issue is chemistry. If you have proper chemistry with someone you will enjoy things more but chemistry in bed is one of those things that is difficult to work out.

You may enjoy sex with the only guy you have ever slept with but as far as your aware that is as good as it gets and it may very well be it gets a hell of a lot better.

The benefit with casual sex if done correctly is you don't necessarily have any attachments but if things are fun you can create those attachments.