Comments on: Your Ex and His Next: How to Deal http://collegecandy.com/2008/10/12/your-ex-and-his-next-how-to-deal/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Mon, 13 Feb 2012 17:17:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Ohbla http://collegecandy.com/2008/10/12/your-ex-and-his-next-how-to-deal/#comment-65776 Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:50:39 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12990#comment-65776 Well, firstly thanks for posting up this article. It really did freshen up my views again. I recently bumped into my ex and his gf, and omg, they were soo surprised to see me saying hi to them first. It totally blew them off guard and I later did hear that my ex was so impressed, and his friends told me that I was really cool and they all had tons of respect for me. So I guess that does work. The best way to show that you have moved on, is to act like your self and be totally okay. Dont go out of your way to show them anything, because honestly, you dont need to waste your energy on any of that. instead spend that energy on making your self feel better in all the ways that you can,

]]> By: kylie http://collegecandy.com/2008/10/12/your-ex-and-his-next-how-to-deal/#comment-31155 Sun, 03 May 2009 12:30:08 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12990#comment-31155 i liked this article very much but i still cant be happy for my ex and his new gf the thought of them being together and sharing everything that we did makes me so unhappy and want to cry .

He was my first love and first sexual partner and feel as if i will never be able to find another like him. he made me very paranoid and worthless which lead to our breakup but he tried to get me bk but i couldnt bring myself to get bk with him because of how much we argued i thought i was being smart and doing the right thing.

i honestly dont no what to do and my friends wont help me? they say im better off without him and he is no good but if that was true why has he found someone and i havnt. i dont think he will treat her like he did me which upsets me cuz it makes me feel like i am no good. he is with his ex before me who has always had i thing for him.

i txt him one day because i had missed talking to him thats when he txt and said he was with someone else and that it was all my fault that i should of got bk with him and cuz i was so upset i told him i was seeing someone also and then he called me a slut and told me to go die. i dont understand or no how i should be feeling. one min i think i dont deserve to be spoken to like this the next i love and miss him and feel that he has done better for himself to be rid of me.

]]> By: delphie http://collegecandy.com/2008/10/12/your-ex-and-his-next-how-to-deal/#comment-19029 Thu, 16 Oct 2008 06:19:08 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12990#comment-19029 Luckyinthesky, your post saddened me.

"I didn’t want him to be miserable, just as unhappy as I was." I think your remark shows that you truely love him…

]]> By: ela http://collegecandy.com/2008/10/12/your-ex-and-his-next-how-to-deal/#comment-19027 Wed, 15 Oct 2008 14:03:28 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12990#comment-19027 my ex is dating the chick who made a sex tape with mini me…what do i do? laugh.

]]> By: LucyInTheSky http://collegecandy.com/2008/10/12/your-ex-and-his-next-how-to-deal/#comment-19025 Sun, 12 Oct 2008 16:26:37 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12990#comment-19025 It took me almost a year to realize all this. Of course, there were variables, like the fact that he had dated both of us several times before (sort of like pingpong) and that our breakup was very sudden. But accepting her as his new girlfriend and trying to keep all three of us within the same social group was one of the hardest things I've had to do.

Once I decided to stop being "the other woman" and realized that he actually LOVED her, I finally found my way. She and I aren't friends, but we aren't enemies either. And it makes me feel good when I hear from him that she says such nice things about me.

What really helped me? Realizing that I didn't want him back… and if I didn't, then who was I to stop him from dating someone ELSE? I didn't want him to be miserable, just as unhappy as I was.

]]> By: Alma http://collegecandy.com/2008/10/12/your-ex-and-his-next-how-to-deal/#comment-19023 Sun, 12 Oct 2008 14:57:58 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12990#comment-19023 Its a really good article and i agree the most with the last parts. The part about be happy for him. Its really the only thing left. Things hurt, but on the bright side it opens opens open new opportunities to meet other really cool guys and do other things with your girls. Brake ups suck, but you learn from the experiences and mistakes and in the long run it makes you a better stronger person.

]]> By: hanabira http://collegecandy.com/2008/10/12/your-ex-and-his-next-how-to-deal/#comment-19021 Sun, 12 Oct 2008 14:04:25 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12990#comment-19021 i so wish my boyfriend's ex could have read this!

all is fine now since i just acted far too kind and lovely to her for her to be allowed to hate me (i actually do feel bad for her) but before she'd gained acceptance she didnt realise that the way she was acting was making people feel embarrassed FOR her

]]> By: Nikki http://collegecandy.com/2008/10/12/your-ex-and-his-next-how-to-deal/#comment-19020 Sun, 12 Oct 2008 13:27:11 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/12990#comment-19020 That's a really good article. Thanks for writing it! I do agree with everything that's said… well, its always easier said than done but it makes a lot of sense to do what was listed.

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