What They SHOULD HAVE Taught Us in Sex Ed

October 18, 2008     Posted in HaHa, Sex

sex-education-for-teens.jpgWhat’s a political campaign without sex? A McCain campaign ad recently accused Obama of trying to pass a bill incorporating sex ed into kindergarten classrooms. Of course, Obama doesn’t even need to utter the “s” word when McCain’s running mate, Sarah Palin, has the poster family for the need for sex education.


By Kathryn S

Maybe Palin’s daughter should’ve been given a sex ed lecture in kindergarten. Maybe, in the wake of the Gloucester school girls and celebrity teen momdom, we should consider revamping our sex ed policies, rather than letting Ellen Paige serve as an instructor when Juno comes out on DVD. I took sex ed. And now, I have sex. Sometimes quite freely.

There’s still a lot that I don’t know, and some stuff I know now that I wish I’d learned in sixth grade sex ed class:

-Sex is NOT synonymous with love. It can be, but it isn’t always. Sex is synonymous with physical attraction, hormones, and judgment (note that I didn’t specify “good” or “bad” judgment).

-Sex changes everything. It can burn bridges, create awkward situations, and ruin friendships. However, it can also take a relationship to the next level, or allow you to see your partner in a completely different light. It can be good, it can be bad, but either way, once you’ve crossed that line… there’s no going back.

-Sex can be fun. Why don’t they talk about Kama Sutra, tantra, sex toys, or kinky fantasies in sex ed? It’s all “have sex and get pregnant,” or “have sex and get herpes” talk. But if you’re safe and consenting, sex can turn into an amusement park with all of the different rides it has to offer.

-Sex doesn’t always work. There’s sloppy sex. There’s the sex that just isn’t going to end in mutual orgasms. There’s sex that you thought you wanted to have, until it happens. Shake it off — we can’t all be stars in a Brad Pitt love scene.

-Sex can be good for your health. The endorphins released when a female orgasms acts as a powerful painkiller*. Cramping from killer PMS? Mild exercise (like sex) can help ease the pain as well.

-Sexually active does NOT mean slutty (or stupid!). Did you know that women with college degrees are more likely to enjoy giving and receiving oral sex than high school drop outs*? How about that women with PhD’s are twice as likely to seek a one-night-stand than those who stopped at the Bachelors*?

I still feel like I’m coming up short here, ladies. All of our sex ed regimes were different– what did your teachers neglect to inform you during 5th period Health Class?

*Facts courtesy of The Sex E-Zine. Learn all you wanted to know (and a lot you didn’t want to know) about knocking boots here!

16 Comments on "What They SHOULD HAVE Taught Us in Sex Ed"

  1. Kala says:
    Sat, 18th Oct 20081:24 pm 

    Eh. I don't know. Sex ed isn't supposed to show you how to have sex it's only supposed to inform you about the dangers and consequences. But, whatever. Also, regardless of the "statistics," I would never give a guy oral sex. There are too many germs. It's kind of gross when you've already learned what kind of germs live on the genitalia. Also, HPV on the penis going into your throat can now give you throat cancer. No thanks you to that.

  2. Casey says:
    Sat, 18th Oct 20081:50 pm 

    The statistic about the one night stands may have something to do with the fact that most men are intimidated by a woman with more education than them, therefore it is harder for those women to find a relationship. Hence the one night stands.

    It doesn't mean they are slutty, but also, just because a woman has a PhD doesn't mean she's not a slut, or lacking in common sense.

  3. Samantha says:
    Sat, 18th Oct 20085:12 pm 

    kala – i guess that's okay if you don't expect a guy to ever give you oral sex…but then you are really missing out

  4. Sara C - Fordham says:
    Sat, 18th Oct 20085:25 pm 

    Umm, how about break-up sex is almost always a bad idea? Oy.

  5. Bri says:
    Sat, 18th Oct 20086:09 pm 

    how about ex-sex in general? never a good idea.

  6. ccmm says:
    Sun, 19th Oct 200811:59 am 

    I really didn't have a problem with the sex ed in my health class. She taught us what we were supposed to know and how to stay healthy. All of the other stuff, I feel like you should be able to openly talk to your parents to learn more about the experiences and the different things that can happen.

  7. heather says:
    Sun, 19th Oct 200812:01 pm 

    i totally agree with this article, but mostly because i had no idea of basic sexual information. lets take stds for example. upon reaching college, the only ones i knew of were herpes and HIV. and until i took a college-level health class, i really had no idea how prevalent herpes was or that gonorreah and chlamydia are quite common but also easily curable with a single week of anti-viral medication. i also didnt know that most stds, other than herpes which i knew this for, show no signs or symptoms until theyve done a good share of damage. now we all know that horrifying statistic that 1 in 4 girls has an std (and probably about the same for men, i once again question why the study was on women only). now… knowing that statistic made me think of how little i was taught when in school, and not everyone goes to college let alone has a college professor who thinks these things suitable to teach. shouldnt there be a hell of a lot more we should be teaching our kids in schools? the correlation of an abudance of stds and people not even knowing what they are is quite obvious to me.

  8. Ellie says:
    Sun, 19th Oct 20085:28 pm 

    They should also teach that bigger isn't always better…and that bigger can hurt if you're smaller or inexperienced.

    I seriously thought something was wrong with me or that I was doing things wrong when sex with my boyfriend (who is quite a bit on the larger side) was a little painful…until a friend of mine was talking about an experience she had and said about a boy she had slept with, "He was medium-sized, which was really good because it didn't hurt at all."

  9. Steph says:
    Mon, 20th Oct 20084:29 pm 

    Just as a side note, the McCain ad was false. Obama said that sex ed should be medically accurate and age appropriate and that kindergartners should be taught to tell somebody if they are molested.

  10. Joe says:
    Wed, 22nd Oct 200811:50 am 

    Heather,

    It looks like you still need more sex education. Gonorrhea and chlamydia are not viruses (like HIV, HPV or herpes), therefore they will not go away with a week's worth of antiviral medications. That is just plain wrong.

  11. Candice says:
    Tue, 28th Oct 20084:50 pm 

    Joe,

    Although you are right that these are not viruses-they can be treated and cured UNLIKE viral S.T.I.'s like the ones you mentioned–perhaps next time instead of making some feel ignorant you could research the subject better and educate them on it!

  12. Pan_thefrog says:
    Sat, 1st Nov 20083:41 am 

    Parents and schools need to be able to discuss sex with kids. Everything, from what it is like to what to do, and not do. Birth control, how to get and use a condom, why they need to use a condom (Yes, even when she says she is on birth control), each person is different, there is more then one way, etc….

    Problem is often we got some guy who knows nothing except what he learned from his buddies in high school, and watching porn, trying to teach his son about sex.

    Meanwhile mom who married the first guy she dated in high school, and had a 30 second discussion with her mom the week before she got married trying to teach 16 year old Suzy about sex.

    The 'barely knows anything' leading the clueless.

    This means it is in the hands of the teachers… and the parents of some kids don't want their kids to be told anything at all about sex. Seems they think if the kid doesn't get taught anything about it, they will not ever know that it exist. Yeah, 'cause no kid has ever turned on the TV, or seen a PG-13 movie.

    So these parents try to get all sex education classes shut down….

    Meanwhile I recommend the MidWest Teen Sex Show: http://midwestteensexshow.com

    It's what we should have been taught.

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