Tuffy Luv Doesn’t Believe In Fairies

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By Sara

Dear Tuffy Luv,

I recently started dating a boy who is awesome. Compared to my total control freak ex boyfriend who never wanted me to go out and have fun, this new guy is awesome. He’s totally cute and fun to be around, and he’s always up for a good time. Whenever we’re out or just hanging out, his attention is totally on me, he introduces me to everyone, and I’m having a blast.

The thing is, his friends are total pigs. They cheat on their girlfriends almost every nght (I see them walk in and out with random girls…sometimes more than one a night…eww). I know guys are easily influenced by their friends, so I’m wondering if he has the same “whatever” attitude about being with more than one girl. When we’re together it doesn’t seem like that, but lord only knows boys change when they’re around their guy friends. Ugh, I just don’t want to be dragged along thinking I’m the only one with my boy. What do you think?

Love,

Cait

Dear Cait,

No matter what, I think you gotta talk to him. What you say and how you approach it… well, I guess it depends on how serious things are.

You said you started dating him recently – once it hits maybe two months, you have the right to know if you’re being exclusive or not. OR, of course, if you’re sleeping with him. If you’re sleeping with him, you definitely gotta know one way or the other. Protect yourself, girl!

But it sounds like he’s pretty cool. I mean, introducing you, paying attention to only you; these are usually good signs. It’s very possible that, in the past, he’s been a piggie, but now he’s changed his ways and that light of love is shinin’ down on him.

In any of these cases, though, there’s only one thing to do: talk to him. Don’t make it an argument; barely make it a conversation. Just say, “Look, either way is fine, but I was just wondering–are we exclusive?” You’ll get your answer and then you can think about where you want to go from there. How important is being exclusive to you? It’s all about what you want from him. Make sure you’re getting what you need.

And, look, if you think he’s lying–well, who wants a guy they can’t trust. Not you, honey. Not you.

Hearts & Skulls,

Tuffy Luv

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