Comments on: Friends With An Ex: Possible, Important and Part of Growing Up http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Mon, 23 Nov 2009 11:29:40 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: e http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-60363 e Wed, 18 Nov 2009 03:32:31 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-60363 what if ur in love with him? how in the hell can u just be friends right now? its to damn hard. i tried it and it didnt work so we dont talk nemore. we have before but then stopped again. another thing, i dont want to see him with someone else or hear bout it. it would devastate me. what if ur in love with him? how in the hell can u just be friends right now? its to damn hard. i tried it and it didnt work so we dont talk nemore. we have before but then stopped again. another thing, i dont want to see him with someone else or hear bout it. it would devastate me.

]]> By: mimi http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-14200 mimi Fri, 13 Feb 2009 21:23:28 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-14200 I think you can only be friends with an ex if the break up was a mutual decision, otherwise there will always be resentment on one side. If you are dumped it always feels like they are trying to throw you a consolation prize for the crappy excuse they've given you for the break up. Give it a year or so and if you are both in happy relationships then maybe... I think you can only be friends with an ex if the break up was a mutual decision, otherwise there will always be resentment on one side. If you are dumped it always feels like they are trying to throw you a consolation prize for the crappy excuse they’ve given you for the break up.

Give it a year or so and if you are both in happy relationships then maybe…

]]> By: fakename http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-14199 fakename Sat, 08 Nov 2008 03:14:43 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-14199 ok, i dated this guy that i will never truly get over...and if you want to know why, it's because he was my soulmate and i know i'll never find anyone that could even come close to being half as good as he was, i will never love anyone like i love him, and that's just how it is, he left me for someone else after a very tragic event in his life really messed with his head, but knowing him as well as i do, i just took it to the gut for his sake, that's how much i love him. what i'm trying to say is that, i'll never be able to be his friend because i'll never get over him, i look at him and a see a huge part of me and that's something i consider a good thing, it just hurts that she has him and i don't. i'm just saying that some relationships touch so deep that trying to be friends after it's over will only hurt you. ok, i dated this guy that i will never truly get over…and if you want to know why, it’s because he was my soulmate and i know i’ll never find anyone that could even come close to being half as good as he was, i will never love anyone like i love him, and that’s just how it is, he left me for someone else after a very tragic event in his life really messed with his head, but knowing him as well as i do, i just took it to the gut for his sake, that’s how much i love him.

what i’m trying to say is that, i’ll never be able to be his friend because i’ll never get over him, i look at him and a see a huge part of me and that’s something i consider a good thing, it just hurts that she has him and i don’t.

i’m just saying that some relationships touch so deep that trying to be friends after it’s over will only hurt you.

]]> By: Bryan http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-14188 Bryan Tue, 04 Nov 2008 14:16:55 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-14188 Hi I'm a guy, sorry to invade. I'm still friends with most of my ex's. A few i'm not, mostly because it didn't end well and was very one sided either on mine or her's. While i enjoy being friends with people i have dated and don't find anything wrong with it, I've dated girls who can't seem to handle it. Some have said its not a jealous or trust thing but they just can't become comfortable around people knowing that at one point in time we were an item. I have no problem with this on the flip side and encourage people to rekindle the friend ship you once had without being lovers. While this article is about becoming friends with your ex's but can you can you handle your significant other being friends with ex's? Hi I’m a guy, sorry to invade. I’m still friends with most of my ex’s. A few i’m not, mostly because it didn’t end well and was very one sided either on mine or her’s. While i enjoy being friends with people i have dated and don’t find anything wrong with it, I’ve dated girls who can’t seem to handle it. Some have said its not a jealous or trust thing but they just can’t become comfortable around people knowing that at one point in time we were an item. I have no problem with this on the flip side and encourage people to rekindle the friend ship you once had without being lovers. While this article is about becoming friends with your ex’s but can you can you handle your significant other being friends with ex’s?

]]> By: DenverSteve http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-14198 DenverSteve Tue, 04 Nov 2008 05:29:17 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-14198 The guy perspective is right..... truly we have no reason to continue to be "friends" once the relationship is over. Unless if we were friends before the relationship than the chances of converting an intimate relationship into a friendship is nearly impossible. I have friends that are girls I don't need more that carry extra baggage. The guy perspective is right….. truly we have no reason to continue to be “friends” once the relationship is over. Unless if we were friends before the relationship than the chances of converting an intimate relationship into a friendship is nearly impossible. I have friends that are girls I don’t need more that carry extra baggage.

]]> By: Lauren, University of Michigan http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-14197 Lauren, University of Michigan Mon, 03 Nov 2008 17:35:08 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-14197 I disagree. I think people want to stay friends after for many reasons, mostly because it makes them feel less crappy about breaking up with you. In time, however, I think being friends is a great thing because you have so much in common. I disagree. I think people want to stay friends after for many reasons, mostly because it makes them feel less crappy about breaking up with you. In time, however, I think being friends is a great thing because you have so much in common.

]]> By: Guy Prespective http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-14196 Guy Prespective Mon, 03 Nov 2008 15:30:20 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-14196 Women are sooooo stupid. The only reason and i mean the ONLY reason men keep an ex as a 'friend' is because of a sexual attraction to them...NOTHING ELSE (well unless you have season tickets to their favorite sports team). Grow up and move on...move COMPLETELY on! Women are sooooo stupid. The only reason and i mean the ONLY reason men keep an ex as a ‘friend’ is because of a sexual attraction to them…NOTHING ELSE (well unless you have season tickets to their favorite sports team). Grow up and move on…move COMPLETELY on!

]]> By: sara http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-14195 sara Sun, 02 Nov 2008 18:24:47 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-14195 I broke up with my ex because of all the lies he told me and because he was unfaithful... I don't want to be friends with him because I no longer trust him and couldn't stand to see him do the same to another girl. And it shouldn't have to be my responsibility to be his friend and make sure he doesn't, either. I broke up with my ex because of all the lies he told me and because he was unfaithful… I don’t want to be friends with him because I no longer trust him and couldn’t stand to see him do the same to another girl. And it shouldn’t have to be my responsibility to be his friend and make sure he doesn’t, either.

]]> By: Cassie http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-14194 Cassie Sun, 02 Nov 2008 07:17:36 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-14194 It is hard to do but definitely possible. I think the key is giving it time. My ex and I broke up 4 years ago, and we have been best friends for the last 3. As more time goes by, it gets easier and easier. It is hard to do but definitely possible. I think the key is giving it time. My ex and I broke up 4 years ago, and we have been best friends for the last 3. As more time goes by, it gets easier and easier.

]]> By: Rachel http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/01/friends-with-an-ex-possible-important-and-part-of-growing-up/#comment-14193 Rachel Sun, 02 Nov 2008 06:53:42 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/13541#comment-14193 I break up with them because they have issues I can't handle. Why would I tolerate them without even getting the perks of a relationship? I break up with them because they have issues I can’t handle. Why would I tolerate them without even getting the perks of a relationship?

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