He Said/She Said: Guys and Porn

November 5, 2008     Posted in Relationships, Sex

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By CC Staff

I remember the first time I slept at my ex’s apartment. He ran out to get some pizza and I asked if I could use his computer to check my email.

“Yeah, just don’t look at my browsing history, k?”

Right – because you can tell a girl that and expect her not to wonder why on earth you would make that request!

He wasn’t out of the room for 30 seconds before I did just that. And the first site on the list? MamaLovesC*ck.com.

For real.

It was at that moment that I began to wonder just how prominent porn was in guys’ lives. I mean, I always knew they looked at it, but how often? For how long? And why, especially when they have a girlfriend spending the freaking night?

I asked a close friend for the answers. What did I find out? More than I ever wanted to know.

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16 Comments on "He Said/She Said: Guys and Porn"

  1. Casey says:
    Wed, 5th Nov 20087:13 pm 

    guys definitelly are not the only ones who look at porn or masterbate daily. Everyone's different.

  2. Laura says:
    Wed, 5th Nov 20088:19 pm 

    yeah, i feel like this conversation was pretty judgmental of guys. too many "ew"s.

  3. what says:
    Thu, 6th Nov 20081:26 am 

    Too many women need to have this conversation. Then I think there might be a few less "ew"'s around.

  4. Heather says:
    Thu, 6th Nov 20087:55 pm 

    im still upset that playgirl folded. I guess thats all that this made me think of.

  5. Emma says:
    Fri, 7th Nov 20083:38 pm 

    im female and i look at porn…. just not every day.

  6. Jon says:
    Fri, 7th Nov 20089:34 pm 

    umm, is it just me, or is it much worse for a girl to get off thinking of past experiences with other guys than for a guy to get off from watching a video of two people doing their jobs?

  7. Jon says:
    Fri, 7th Nov 20089:34 pm 

    to clarify the above: I don't mean that it's wrong per se, just that it's really hypocritical

  8. Camk says:
    Fri, 7th Nov 200810:10 pm 

    I've never understood why some girls have such an issue with their boyfriends using porn. I guess I could understand if the guy seemed less attracted to you because of… but still. o.0

    And I for one LOVE porn, I enjoy some at least once a day and masturbate two to three times a day. Hell my boyfriend and I even exchange porn. :P

    Perhaps if a girl is that worried about it she should try watching porn with her boyfriend, its fun and it can be a turn-on. :P

  9. michael says:
    Sat, 8th Nov 20083:10 am 

    i think a common misconception is what men think of porn. what i mean is, i look at it nearly everyday, but tomorrow i wont remember what it was i was looking at.

    its strictly for the moment, and i hold no sentiments towards it at all. It doesn't matter to me once i am done with it.

    what did i eat for dinner yesterday, i dont remember

    what kind of porn did i watch yesterday, i dont remember

  10. That Guy says:
    Mon, 10th Nov 20081:52 pm 

    Porn really isn't a big deal at all. It's just a tool us guys use to get off. I've never understood why girls seem so surprised that we have tons of porn on our computers – WE'RE GUYS. THAT'S WHAT WE DO.

    Girls, it's not that we don't think you're hot – it might be sometimes, though – it's mostly that you aren't around when we get horny. If my girl isn't around when I need to blow my load, then that's why the internet is there. That's the reason it was INVENTED. Not military communication, not helping companies, but PORN.

  11. Amy says:
    Mon, 10th Nov 20087:13 pm 

    It's not appropriate to generalize, "oh, that's what guys do–we watch porn."

    from the time i graduated from high school, i thought that WAS what guys did. but then i decided to go to an institute of technology where the male to female ratio was…3 to 1.

    every guy i've talked to there has admitted to watching porn a few times. a FEW times. and every one said that if they were in a relationship, they'd have no interest in it.

    i even tried to watch some with my boyfriend…but it didn't do much for us. once the computer was turned off, things really got going. :)

  12. dragonflyaries27 says:
    Fri, 5th Dec 20083:25 pm 

    OK…

    Try this one on for size…

    This guy watches alot of porn regarding shemales or girls with big tits. He turns off his computer when his girlfriend's car pulls up and comes home horny and he wants nothing to do with sex. WHAT'S THE PROBLEM?

    She confronts him about a shitload of porn on the browsing history. His excuse??? That was just pop-ups, and that he is only into his girlfriend – no one else. BULL!

    Anybody care to comment?

  13. Sven says:
    Fri, 12th Dec 200812:44 pm 

    dragonflyaries27:

    First off, male needs, if you compress them down:

    Sex. Competition. Stroked Ego preferably by partner. Beer. Male comrades to drink said beer with.

    If you think your boyfriend doesn't want sex because of porn, it might be because porn is easier and you're a pain in the ass. Sex is a time commitment and requires a lot of effort and energy he may not have. You sound like a pain, at any rate.

    Sometimes men are just tired or not in the mood. You're oversimplifying men if you don't acknowledge this. Have you ever not been in the mood for sex? Did he angrily post comments on a blog about "my girlfriend is spending too much time doing X and it's preventing her from fucking me"? Unlikely. Probably pulled up youporn, took care of business and left you the fuck alone because you didn't want to fuck. If there wasn't porn, I can guarantee you men would invent it. Either that or they'd harass you even more for sex.

    It provides an outlet for any of our excess sexual energy that you don't want to deal with. It's either that or we go off and seduce some other chick when you're not in the mood. Count your blessings that porn stills his sex drive.

    Also, lastly: Haha, your boyfriend looks at shemale porn. Haha.

  14. Dave says:
    Tue, 23rd Dec 20089:43 am 

    I remember when this conversation came up with my past girlfriend. It went a lot of directions but ended up in one very nice place.. I remember asking her about the female novels she reads all the time and she actually reads fanfiction of a couple of tv shows that she enjoys that get very raunchy.. I called it porn. In the end we decided to try out watching porn together = had a new way to have sex so we could change things up.. and she ended up making some porn for me to use instead of the websites.. and I ended up using it quite a bit.. with a bit of the websites thrown in too since the same pics and videos do get boring after being replayed THAT much :D

    oh yeah.. and lol Sven xD

  15. Sam says:
    Wed, 8th Apr 20095:57 am 

    What a lot of bollocks of course constant porn usage isnt good…your all fooling yourselfs be intelligent about it

    READ THIS AND STOP FINDING EXCUSES…THANKYOU

    http://www.porn-free.org/porn_is_bad.htm

  16. tisha says:
    Tue, 3rd Nov 20096:23 pm 

    porn all the time is not good if you are in a relationship with someone that doesnt agree with it. ive read up on this because i thought i was the only one who thought that way. in my situation ive been with the same person for 5 yrs and we have kids together and we have sex a good amount per week and even if i dont feel like full on sex i pleasure him. he never goes without but yet he feels the need to look at porn either when he thinks im sleeping or not home. not all guys look at porn so when people say its what guys do then thats bull..ive tried to learn to deal with it but its like when i get on the computer thats not what i need to see first thing or when i open a cable bill i dont need to see all these charges. weve made videos together and he would use that but we lost them so maybe i should give that a try again. in the end when you think about it at least they arent cheating but it still doesnt sit right with me.

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