Comments on: He Said/She Said: Dudes and Random Hook Ups

By: Get Up Close and Personal With Your Dating Deal Breakers : College Candy

Get Up Close and Personal With Your Dating Deal Breakers : College Candy — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 16:01:55 +0000

[...] college, the Land of Random Hook-Ups and Other Unplanned Physical Attractions, it’s completely impossible to predict whom you’ll [...]

By: Dave

Dave — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 14:18:35 +0000

Lol Theo.. I like your first blurb, makes plenty of sense to me.. I mean.. who wouldn't want an ego boost for the night by having a girl, albeit not a very attractive girl but a girl nonetheless, that thinks you're a stud.

I, like a few others that have commented, have fairly high standards when looking for a girl to kindle a relationship with.. the high standards tend to be on the personality aspect of it all though. As long as a girl takes care of her body (not too far on the heavy side) she's pretty much got a chance with me if our personalities click. Yeah I'd love to bag an absolutely gorgeous girl with my personality standards in mind but my partners tend to grow on me physically/visually the longer we're together.

By: Theo

Theo — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 11:03:27 +0000

Btw, you want a really fucked up biochem concept? Check out the effect of the pill on female mate selection.

For a quick overview: if a pill tricks your body into thinking that you’re already pregnant, is your body likely to make you disposed to find:

a) high-testosterone males with highly viable (because non-kin) sperm but risky behavior; or

b) males with lower testosterone and/or less viable sperm (because more likely to be related or remind of kin relations), but low-risk behavior?

–> pregnant women search for people who are likely to take care of them, i.e. kin or those who remind them of kin (men included).

Eeewww.

By: Theo

Theo — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 11:03:05 +0000

Fun convo. On topic, studies show guys have a strong reaction to the apparent interest of girls, (i.e. find her more attractive if he thinks she finds him attractive –> as chances of getting laid increase, willingness/enthusiasm increases, mostly disregarding man’s initial impression of attractiveness of woman).

As for why you don’t always see the effects of this responsive appetite — the brain involves many layers of motivation which often inhibit each other. The pre-frontal lobe is responsible for the sort of self-censorship and greater awareness of causal relationships (social cost of behavior, etc.) that would inhibit this sexual response from the male’s limbic system to the perceived interest of a potential mate. BUT, the pre-frontal cortex is:

a) not fully developed in men until ~26 y.o. (slightly younger but similar in women);

b) shut off by alcohol; and

c) thought to experience neural pruning associated with andropause, potentially describing the neurobiological basis for a “mid-life crisis”

So basically, a lot of guys will become interested in fucking anything that shows the slightest interest in having them. Even if they think the girl’s ugly. One of the few reasons why they wouldn’t is if they think it’d hurt their chances with a specific more attractive mate and they’re sober enough that their pf cortex is still in play.

By: John

John — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 04:24:04 +0000

I think it totally depends on the person. I have pretty high standards, even when I'm drunk, and as a result I had sex less often then some guys who had lower standards. It's a quality vs. quantity thing – some guys prefer one over the other. Most guys I know have standards though – it's definitely not a "I'll take anything" world. I totally agree though, you have to be physically attracted to be able to even hookup, I've turned down girls that I wasn't attracted to.

By: Matt

Matt — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 23:39:42 +0000

I was at a party a few months ago, and was mostly just hanging out with guys, when a girl comes up and starts talking to me. She was on the big(huge) side, and I politely responded to her drivel, no matter how dumb it was. However, it quickly became obvious that she wanted me to go back to her room with her. I don't remember how i told her no, but I think I said something about jury duty. She wasn't pleased, but I wasn't going to hook up with a fatty. NO WAY. Even if I was trashed, I still wouldn't.

All in all, I'd like to tell everyone that us college guys DO have standards, even when we're drunk. Those standards are lower when we're drunk, but they're still there.

By: Joe the Drunk

Joe the Drunk — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 17:48:34 +0000

Don't forget the rejection factor. When you've hit on the girl you're most attracted to and she's turned you down, or its a sausage fest and you just can't compete, it's much easier to accept the girl who throws herself at you. Its nice to be with someone who finds you attractive too (which usually makes for hot sex).

By: Ryan

Ryan — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 00:34:18 +0000

As a freshman at a college that is 80% guys who are obviously struggling to laid i think its a lie. guys dont just have sex with anything… if we did we would all be gay(which is so morally wrong). There has to be something there or it just isnt gonna happen!

By: Lully

Lully — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 22:57:21 +0000

It's the opposite where I live. You see all these cheap tarts getting totally wasted and going home with whoever. It's disgusting.

And standards definitely go down the drain when you've had a lot too much to drink. Trust me.

By: Word

Word — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 03:51:59 +0000

I feel like the whole "attraction is a prereq for sex" dealio is wayyy influenced by beer goggles, and definitely the type of guy who is involved, but I think alcohol and drugs aren't given enough credit in influencing just how low these guys will stoop to get laid. http://ridiculove.blogspot.com