Comments on: You Cheated. Now What? http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Tue, 24 Nov 2009 23:51:54 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: eva http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-29161 eva Fri, 17 Apr 2009 06:05:27 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-29161 my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 5 months(this time around) (we dated before for about almost 5 years). the first time i broke it off because i was tried of the same old stuff (no cheating involved). this time around, he promises me that we will do more thing, you know have more fun together, so far nothing. right now he is out of town visiting with his family and I'm here thinking about wanting to cheat on him. I just don't know what to do, I do and I don't want to cheat on him, I just keep thinking to myself, I don't want to be that person who cheats, because I wouldn't want him to do that to me. I'm just mad at him for not keeping him promises. Sorry I just kept rambling on.. I would like to hear what anyone has to say. Thanks :-) my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 5 months(this time around) (we dated before for about almost 5 years). the first time i broke it off because i was tried of the same old stuff (no cheating involved). this time around, he promises me that we will do more thing, you know have more fun together, so far nothing. right now he is out of town visiting with his family and I’m here thinking about wanting to cheat on him. I just don’t know what to do, I do and I don’t want to cheat on him, I just keep thinking to myself, I don’t want to be that person who cheats, because I wouldn’t want him to do that to me. I’m just mad at him for not keeping him promises.

Sorry I just kept rambling on.. I would like to hear what anyone has to say. Thanks :-)

]]> By: sarah http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-19563 sarah Tue, 13 Jan 2009 15:24:02 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-19563 I have been with my boyfriend for four years...i thought he was an asshole so i cheated on him a couple of times early on in the relationship. but i have come to find that he is actually a nice guy. this year i kissed someone right in front of him when i was drunk. i dont remember a thing. he just told me he doesnt love me anymore and wants to remain friends. i want to tell him how sorry i am and how much i love him but he just doesnt believe anything i say anymore. its hard to let go of someone you feel like you are meant to be with I have been with my boyfriend for four years…i thought he was an asshole so i cheated on him a couple of times early on in the relationship. but i have come to find that he is actually a nice guy. this year i kissed someone right in front of him when i was drunk. i dont remember a thing. he just told me he doesnt love me anymore and wants to remain friends. i want to tell him how sorry i am and how much i love him but he just doesnt believe anything i say anymore. its hard to let go of someone you feel like you are meant to be with

]]> By: Ryan http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-19553 Ryan Mon, 05 Jan 2009 19:14:23 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-19553 Confuckingfused, I can relate to your situation, although I have no sage advice for you. I find it amazing that my girlfriend still has strong feelings for her exboyfriend from high school. Although even I have a hard time prescribing to this advice, I would recommend moving on and no longer talking to either of those guys. Especially the one that you feel has some sort of power over you, that guy will taint any relationship you have. Start anew, stay devoted. Confuckingfused, I can relate to your situation, although I have no sage advice for you. I find it amazing that my girlfriend still has strong feelings for her exboyfriend from high school.

Although even I have a hard time prescribing to this advice, I would recommend moving on and no longer talking to either of those guys. Especially the one that you feel has some sort of power over you, that guy will taint any relationship you have. Start anew, stay devoted.

]]> By: the cheater http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-19562 the cheater Sun, 04 Jan 2009 20:47:46 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-19562 Well, I am the cheater. First timer... I have no idea why i did it. It was with my ex who was my first love. I am guessing i never really let that die after we broke up. I did however meet my current ummm boyfriend?(we are trying to work it out) just after me and the ex broke up. I broke up with him because he didnt seem happy. he was avoiding me we had a very messed up relationship. Anways when thr dust semi settled from that I met john while i was on night shift and he was on night shift. He disappeared for a while and then out of no where he msged me on nexopia or maybe he didnt but whatever in the end we got together. We have been together for a year and a half, maybe more we never really had an official day when we got together it just happend. I love him more than anything but due to my lack of brain when i slept with my ex he won't believe a thing i have too say. Understandable. But hey things are even more fucked... he replied to a personal ad on craigslist... at 4 in the morning to some girl looking for sex. like really... really... and he still wants to get back together and work things out. He was just emailing someone to have a revenge sex. I bet he did but you know I have no idea what to believe honestly. this is just f#$%^ed. Now I am not even sure i want him back.. really... Obviously i did that for a reason. I know it was because my ex has some weird thing over me really i do some really messed up stuff when i am with him. with out even thinking like really. He messes with my brain. anyways I will stop ranting sorry -Confuckingfused Well, I am the cheater. First timer… I have no idea why i did it. It was with my ex who was my first love. I am guessing i never really let that die after we broke up. I did however meet my current ummm boyfriend?(we are trying to work it out) just after me and the ex broke up. I broke up with him because he didnt seem happy. he was avoiding me we had a very messed up relationship. Anways when thr dust semi settled from that I met john while i was on night shift and he was on night shift. He disappeared for a while and then out of no where he msged me on nexopia or maybe he didnt but whatever in the end we got together. We have been together for a year and a half, maybe more we never really had an official day when we got together it just happend. I love him more than anything but due to my lack of brain when i slept with my ex he won’t believe a thing i have too say. Understandable. But hey things are even more fucked… he replied to a personal ad on craigslist… at 4 in the morning to some girl looking for sex. like really… really… and he still wants to get back together and work things out. He was just emailing someone to have a revenge sex. I bet he did but you know I have no idea what to believe honestly. this is just f#$%^ed. Now I am not even sure i want him back.. really… Obviously i did that for a reason. I know it was because my ex has some weird thing over me really i do some really messed up stuff when i am with him. with out even thinking like really. He messes with my brain. anyways I will stop ranting sorry

-Confuckingfused

]]> By: matt http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-19561 matt Sun, 28 Dec 2008 00:59:41 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-19561 we should create a group for guys who have been cheated on and want to speak out... say how much they hate the bish that messed with them or whatever... we should create a group for guys who have been cheated on and want to speak out… say how much they hate the bish that messed with them or whatever…

]]> By: Ryan http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-19560 Ryan Sat, 27 Dec 2008 06:34:17 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-19560 Mo, even if he could forgive you, he'd never forget. It would be this ugly thing hanging over every argument that you two would have. I noticed an abrupt change in my girlfriends attitude towards me, and one day, I took a little adventure on her laptop. Needless to say, I know a lot more about computers than she did and found more information than I had intended. I even intentionally left search data open so that she'd know I was snooping, in the hopes that honesty would prevail and she'd come clean. Unfortunately, she just lied to me and I became more and more fucked up emotionally. I love this girl still, but I question if she's really someone I need in my life. Betraying someone's trust and abusing their loyalty is unforgivable. Even though I violated her privacy, which is almost as inexcusable, I never betrayed her, AND I still love her. Its fucking ridiculous and borderline pathetic, and I know its not the end. I feel bad for the guy shes currently "investing" her time in. That dude is in for a world of emotional volatility and distrust. Karma fucking sucks if you're a cheating, fucked up slag. Enjoy. Mo, even if he could forgive you, he’d never forget. It would be this ugly thing hanging over every argument that you two would have.

I noticed an abrupt change in my girlfriends attitude towards me, and one day, I took a little adventure on her laptop. Needless to say, I know a lot more about computers than she did and found more information than I had intended. I even intentionally left search data open so that she’d know I was snooping, in the hopes that honesty would prevail and she’d come clean. Unfortunately, she just lied to me and I became more and more fucked up emotionally. I love this girl still, but I question if she’s really someone I need in my life. Betraying someone’s trust and abusing their loyalty is unforgivable. Even though I violated her privacy, which is almost as inexcusable, I never betrayed her, AND I still love her. Its fucking ridiculous and borderline pathetic, and I know its not the end.

I feel bad for the guy shes currently “investing” her time in. That dude is in for a world of emotional volatility and distrust. Karma fucking sucks if you’re a cheating, fucked up slag.

Enjoy.

]]> By: Mo http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-19559 Mo Thu, 25 Dec 2008 08:25:58 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-19559 I cheated on my boyfriend. We were on Winter Break, and I hadn't seen him in 4 weeks. He hadn't answered his phone all night, even though I called like 8 times. I was hosting a party for my friends and to make myself feel better I started drinking a lot. After I cleaned up, my best friend's (whose house the party was hosted at) little brother told me I could sleep in his room while the rest of my drunk friends slept downstairs. I agreed, and we slept in the same bed. But as the night went on, I kept thinking about my boyfriend and how I didn't understand how he didn't answer his phone, and I got more and more upset. And then I just snuggled up next to my best friend's brother, and we ended up exchanging orgasms (for lack of a better way to put that). We didn't have sex, and we didn't kiss, but we may as well have because I cried afterwards and wanted nothing more than my boyfriend. I told the boy that we were not to tell anyone (since he was dating someone at the time) and that we were supposed to pretend like nothing had ever happened. I feel so guilty, and I know that when I tell my boyfriend, he will hate me for such a long time that I will never be able to handle another relationship. This is the second time I've cheated on a boyfriend, and I already know how hard it is to confess. I don't know why I did it. I think I was just too lonely and upset over the fact that he wasn't talking to me, and I was coming down from a drunken experience. I just wish there was something I could do to keep him from hating me. I don't want to tell him, and there's essentially no way for him to find out, but I know that the right thing to do for both him and me is for me to tell him. I love him so much. And it's hard to tell someone you love that you've cheated on them -- but it's the right thing to do. It's better for the both of us, I think. I just really don't want to experience the horrendous heart-shattering pain that accompanies the knowledge that you've destroyed someone with your infidelity. It hurts so much. And it's my fault. I just wish he would be able to forgive me. I cheated on my boyfriend. We were on Winter Break, and I hadn’t seen him in 4 weeks. He hadn’t answered his phone all night, even though I called like 8 times. I was hosting a party for my friends and to make myself feel better I started drinking a lot. After I cleaned up, my best friend’s (whose house the party was hosted at) little brother told me I could sleep in his room while the rest of my drunk friends slept downstairs. I agreed, and we slept in the same bed. But as the night went on, I kept thinking about my boyfriend and how I didn’t understand how he didn’t answer his phone, and I got more and more upset. And then I just snuggled up next to my best friend’s brother, and we ended up exchanging orgasms (for lack of a better way to put that). We didn’t have sex, and we didn’t kiss, but we may as well have because I cried afterwards and wanted nothing more than my boyfriend. I told the boy that we were not to tell anyone (since he was dating someone at the time) and that we were supposed to pretend like nothing had ever happened. I feel so guilty, and I know that when I tell my boyfriend, he will hate me for such a long time that I will never be able to handle another relationship. This is the second time I’ve cheated on a boyfriend, and I already know how hard it is to confess. I don’t know why I did it. I think I was just too lonely and upset over the fact that he wasn’t talking to me, and I was coming down from a drunken experience. I just wish there was something I could do to keep him from hating me. I don’t want to tell him, and there’s essentially no way for him to find out, but I know that the right thing to do for both him and me is for me to tell him. I love him so much. And it’s hard to tell someone you love that you’ve cheated on them — but it’s the right thing to do. It’s better for the both of us, I think. I just really don’t want to experience the horrendous heart-shattering pain that accompanies the knowledge that you’ve destroyed someone with your infidelity. It hurts so much. And it’s my fault. I just wish he would be able to forgive me.

]]> By: Dave http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-19558 Dave Tue, 23 Dec 2008 18:09:50 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-19558 Alfredo.. amen.. I dunno about the whole resenting all girls part but definitely screw that bish. I went through the EXACT same situation. Seriously.. I forgave and everything and what ended our relationship was when I found pic's on her phone.. proof that she was still lying to me. "While it’s normal to have a few bumps in the road as you try to work things out, don’t let your guy guilt-trip you forever. Remember, you were honest enough to come clean and work things out, but you don’t deserve to have your mistake hanging over your head for the rest of your life." - As for this.. umm.. you cheated on him! Who cares if you had the heart to come out and tell him.. yeah it shows that you wanted to work the issue out.. but for your benefit? his? Guilt can really physically affect a person and I can see why someone would confess to feel better, themselves, and not for their partner. Alfredo.. amen.. I dunno about the whole resenting all girls part but definitely screw that bish. I went through the EXACT same situation. Seriously.. I forgave and everything and what ended our relationship was when I found pic’s on her phone.. proof that she was still lying to me.

“While it’s normal to have a few bumps in the road as you try to work things out, don’t let your guy guilt-trip you forever. Remember, you were honest enough to come clean and work things out, but you don’t deserve to have your mistake hanging over your head for the rest of your life.” – As for this.. umm.. you cheated on him! Who cares if you had the heart to come out and tell him.. yeah it shows that you wanted to work the issue out.. but for your benefit? his? Guilt can really physically affect a person and I can see why someone would confess to feel better, themselves, and not for their partner.

]]> By: Alfredo http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-19557 Alfredo Fri, 19 Dec 2008 22:58:02 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-19557 By the way, if anybody is bored and looking for something to do, dickhead #2's contact info follows. NOTE: I want to make this point very clear: I am not advocating anyone to do anything that may physically hurt Henry in any way at all. Please don't. That wouldn't be funny. Do something witty, and post it here. Everyone can vote on the winner. Henry Jongerling Citigroup Center 153 E. 53rd Street New York, NY 10022 tel: 212.559.5654 toll free: 800.662.2484 ext. 55654 fax: 212.793.3476 http://fa.smithbarney.com/henry_jongerling/emailfa.htm Feel free to call and tell him what a dick he is. Or just text him a picture of your balls. I did. Just to fuck with him. Again, please NOTE: I am not advocating anyone to do anything that may physically hurt Henry in any way at all. By the way, if anybody is bored and looking for something to do, dickhead #2’s contact info follows. NOTE: I want to make this point very clear: I am not advocating anyone to do anything that may physically hurt Henry in any way at all. Please don’t. That wouldn’t be funny. Do something witty, and post it here. Everyone can vote on the winner.

Henry Jongerling

Citigroup Center

153 E. 53rd Street

New York, NY 10022

tel: 212.559.5654

toll free: 800.662.2484 ext. 55654

fax: 212.793.3476

http://fa.smithbarney.com/henry_jongerling/emailfa.htm

Feel free to call and tell him what a dick he is. Or just text him a picture of your balls. I did. Just to fuck with him.

Again, please NOTE: I am not advocating anyone to do anything that may physically hurt Henry in any way at all.

]]> By: Alfredo http://collegecandy.com/2008/11/24/you-cheated-now-what/#comment-19556 Alfredo Fri, 19 Dec 2008 22:39:21 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/13853#comment-19556 My bitch of a girlfiend cheated on me twice. The first time with an old boyfriend. Later with some guy she hardly knew. I forgave the skank after the first one. I actually believed that she was sorry, that it was an accident, and that she loved me and wanted everything to workout. After the second time I realized she is like every other woman on the planet: a dirty whore who thinks she can do whatever the hell she wants and simply cry her way out of it. I found pictures of her with the second guy dated a year before she actually had sex with him. These photos, by the way, were taken only a few weeks after she told me about what happened with her ex. I will now cheat on every girl I date for the rest of my life. Why not, right? Blame yourselves woman. It's your fault that us men are the way we are. Bitches! My bitch of a girlfiend cheated on me twice. The first time with an old boyfriend. Later with some guy she hardly knew.

I forgave the skank after the first one. I actually believed that she was sorry, that it was an accident, and that she loved me and wanted everything to workout.

After the second time I realized she is like every other woman on the planet: a dirty whore who thinks she can do whatever the hell she wants and simply cry her way out of it.

I found pictures of her with the second guy dated a year before she actually had sex with him. These photos, by the way, were taken only a few weeks after she told me about what happened with her ex.

I will now cheat on every girl I date for the rest of my life. Why not, right? Blame yourselves woman. It’s your fault that us men are the way we are. Bitches!

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