Comments on: The Difference a Degree Makes: Dating Undergrads and Grad Students

By: Andrea

Andrea — Sat, 15 May 2010 15:17:10 +0000

Dating a Doctorate student right now. I see him probably on average, 1.25 times a week. He forewarned me of feeling like he'd be a "half-ass" boyfriend. But I couldn't help but fall in love.

I just got my BA and now i'm in my pre-professional leveling classes for PharmD. He's almost done with his Doctorate.

We manage to squeeze in quality time here and there but It's not ideal.

Space can be nice I guess. I expect to be very busy once I start my Doctorate program. The tables may turn once I'm a grad student.

By: Marie

Marie — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 23:28:05 +0000

PEERs. POINT-GRAD

Sorry but I prefer a guy to have friends that he can have conversations with that don't revolve around youtube, porn and beer.

Also….worse decisions as an undergrad.

By: Dave

Dave — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 12:36:28 +0000

Man this makes grad students out to sound like pretty boring cats. Believe me they still know how to party, and depending on how well they can manage their work it isn't all that bad. Don't expect to be able to drag one of em to a frat party though.. but I don't wanna generalize too much.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 14:51:58 +0000

I think I have the best of both worlds, because my boyfriend is a 24-year-old undergrad. Sure, as a geology major, he might not start making money until he's 30, but having supported himself on his own for his whole life, I think he's a lot more mature in the ways of the world than some pampered grad student whose parents put him through college. He's older than all of his classmates due to the years he spent travelling abroad.

This way I get to take part in all the keg-filled mischief of the UMass party scene, with a partner-in-crime as old as I am.

By: Hannah

Hannah — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 20:37:44 +0000

My adventure into the world of grad students came in the form of a 32 year old separated/married man who seduced not only myself but two of my friends as well while also having a long-term girlfriend. Not a very good guy, and not a very good situation.

By: B.A - Notre Dame

B.A - Notre Dame — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 13:36:37 +0000

All my life I have dated older guys, but not until recently have I dated guys that were significantly older than myself (ten years or more). I've also always had plenty of guy friends my own age, and one long-term relationship with one. After all of that- the maturity makes all the difference! Now, as a senior, I would pick a grad student over and undergrad any day- IF I WANTED A RELATIONSHIP. But when you come in as a freshman (and even when you're a senior), if you are just looking for a little fun, a grad student really isn't the way to go. The older a guy gets, the more he thinks about "settling down" (whatever that means), and the less appealing a hook-up is likely to be to him.

Also, I have lots of friends who are doing their masters, doctorate, and post-doc work right now, and they are all still very interesting people, who know both how to party and how to have an intelligent conversation.

By: Mylar Burnoose

Mylar Burnoose — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 12:43:53 +0000

I'm a grad student in English. In my department, sex is not PC, unless you're, like, GLBT or something. Straight guys are in the minority, and women not in a relationship are not interested in one. I drink alone a lot.

By: m.

m. — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 10:55:06 +0000

my boyfriend is a grad student right now and we are doing the whole long distance thing and it is working out really really well for us…he is super chill and laid back and really wants me to enjoy my undergrad years even if he cant be here with me all the time… this is something new that none of my other boyfriends in the past had ever really cared about, they were just interested in having as much sex as possible and when i wanted to go out with my friends they got mad.

i say grad student all the way… you just have to realize they aren't going to have a whole lot of time for you so that means like no 2 hour long phone convos at night and stuff…

By: fluffyhelen

fluffyhelen — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 12:18:12 +0000

I'm a grad student and we're awesome. The undergrads around here make me nauseous.

POINT: Grad student

By: Elise

Elise — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:57:36 +0000

Milton and Blake? SIGN ME UP.