Phone Sex: A Whole New Meaning to ‘Hotline’

For those of us in long distance relationships, or those of us are not near our significant others during this long winter break, it can be hard to keep in touch sexually when we can’t physically get it on. My guy and I are over 700 miles apart and recently found a fun and kinky way to keep ourselves occupied.

By S.E.

And it involves a cellular.

Yes, the topic is taboo and everyone feels all weird about it, but phone sex is a great way to stay close in a relationship even when you’re miles apart.

While some may be too shy to start talking dirty over the phone lines, I have a few tips to keep in mind when trying out phone sex.

First off, relax!! (Editor’s Note: A glass of wine may help…) Phone sex is something to have fun with, not get all worried about. If you’re nervous, just try thinking of what would happen if your partner was actually there. Take a deep breath and ask something general such as, “What would you do to me if you were here?” This might be easier to say then just asking “Wanna have phone sex?” because you end up taking the pressure off of yourself to start the convo, making him answer first instead.

Okay, now that you’re nice and relaxed, it’s time to get frisky on the phone. Phone sex is a great way to open up intimate conversation with your boy and say things you might not be brave enough to say to his face. If you’re too shy to start talking dirty, get him to open up first. When you see how eager he is to participate, you’ll soon be able to let loose. Don’t worry about sounding stupid or fake; the deeper you get into the conversation, the more you’ll ease up. The first time I tried phone sex with my boyfriend, I let him do most of the talking because I was too nervous about sounding dumb. Now that we’re more comfortable with each other, we can let our imaginations run wild.

Another way to start having phone sex is to remind your guy of a previous sexual encounter. Remember when Big used to call Carrie to “reminisce”? This eliminates any potential awkwardness, and when you two talk about past things you’ve done, it is easy to steer the conversation to things you’d like to do in the future. This gets the conversation flowing, which will instantly make you wonder what you were so worried about.

The next time you and your honey are separated, a good dose of phone sex will have you feeling closer than ever. My boyfriend and I have used phone sex as a way to learn each other’s turn-ons and to build anticipation when we’re not together. And believe me, nothing is hotter then finally reuniting and acting out those conversations!

So, give it a shot; just make sure to hold out for someone you trust and care about. This is a very intimate situation and one that shouldn’t be shared with just anyone.

Would you try phone sex? Why or why not?