Rich Guy, Poor Girl: Keeping The Economy Out of the Relationship

January 4, 2009 3:00 pm     Posted in Reality  Charlsie Niemiec g+ page

money1.jpgLet’s face it, the economy sucks right now. Not all of us can afford the things we want, and many of us are scraping by to make ends meet with the looming doom of student loans on our backs. It seems like the recession isn’t just some news-media craze, it is prodding its way into everything these days – even relationships!


By Charlsie Niemiec

Although talk of the economy seems to be everywhere, not everyone realizes the impact that it can have on relationships. Imagine your significant other having no worries because his parents dish out money at the drop of a hat (and then some), while you are fretting about next semester’s tuition. He may not understand the stress or the frustration because his financial situation (thanks to Mom & Dad) hasn’t changed like yours, and that in itself can complicate things.

Here’s some ways to keep money out of the picture in this economy:

1) Don’t make money an issue (or at least a big one) – This is very important! You are dating him because you like him, and whether or not you have money or you are having a hard time financially, it should not be a main staple in your relationship.

2) Communication – Be honest with him. If you think he bragging about his more fortunate life, tell him how it makes you feel. If you don’t feel right about going out to a fancy dinner that you can’t afford, tell him that. Although it’s important to not make money an issue (especially an underlying one in your relationship), it is important to talk about your worries.

3) Do not play the victim card – Even if you are having a hard time, it’s not right to throw your financial problems on someone else and expect him to pay for everything.

4) Gifts are nice – Presents and gifts are nice, but they aren’t required in a relationship. If your man tries to buy you nice things constantly, tell him that money can’t buy your love and let him know that you appreciate it, but you don’t expect it. And most of all, don’t forget to say thank you.

5) Dates don’t have to always be a dinner and a movie – If he has an off campus house, cook at his place. Play a couple games of Scrabble. If you must get out of the house, hit up a party – frats always have free beer. Check out local activities, many things are free and cheap.

6) Remember – Dating is supposed to be fun, not stressful because of money.

Although the economy may be impacting your life right now, it doesn’t have to nudge it’s ugly head into your relationships and dates!

10 Comments on "Rich Guy, Poor Girl: Keeping The Economy Out of the Relationship"

  1. Ally says:
    Sun, 4th Jan 200912:36 pm 

    Good job. I will be using all these tips in my relationship. Bella says meow.

  2. Mary, Schoolcraft says:
    Sun, 4th Jan 20096:21 pm 

    Nice, but what about if the girl has a job and the guy doesn't? I guess the same rules apply, but with all the stigma and double standards, it does get trickier.

  3. Matthew says:
    Mon, 5th Jan 20098:00 am 

    Very well written, and so professional looking. I am proud of how hard-working women can make the most of their situations and succeed, even if their boyfriends are spoiled brats.

  4. Matthew says:
    Mon, 5th Jan 20098:15 am 

    Also, a tip from a guy's point of view. Just because a guy buys you things doesn't mean he thinks he can buy your love. He might just love thinking about you, and when he sees something special that makes him thing about you, it is fulfilling to get it for her. As a joke, a romantic gesture, practical purposes (wart remover/bottled water), or something insightful that shows that he listens (a book/the perfect dress).

    But if it really does bother her, then the guy should listen, as long as you do it nicely. (maybe not while he is trying to get you the right size oxford, for example)

  5. Fiona says:
    Mon, 5th Jan 200911:39 am 

    Very nice article. I look forward to more from you!

  6. Jeffrey says:
    Wed, 7th Jan 20096:47 pm 

    in my relationship my gilrfriend has money but thats only cus she gets casino money we try to not make it a big deal but its hard when she tells me she just spent over $1000 on coach purse what is up with those things just looking at the price of one makes me want to go screeming out of the mall!

  7. sam says:
    Wed, 4th Feb 20094:30 am 

    nice article

  8. An Li says:
    Tue, 18th Aug 20093:55 pm 

    i can say any thing about it becouse i'm haveing my own problem. i mean i want help about my relationshipe. i'm from a very rich family and i'm in love with a lady from poor family. none of my friend suppoert my relationship. they allways told me that i'm crazy and don't know what love are. i can't go my own way becouse my parent didn't sen me any thing about thier money bewcouse i'm 17 years old in High School. in the other side i can live with her becouse i can't live in that life. every one hate me becouse of lady that i'm in love with. i'm help less. please help me what to do. my sending email at this email =same12000@gmail.com

  9. Susie says:
    Fri, 19th Aug 20117:01 am 

    Is it possible for me, psychiatrists (specialist doctor) to marry a rich and smart guy? and if possible, where on earth can i meet them?

  10. Riri says:
    Sat, 21st Jul 20122:29 pm 

    i think the most importanat thing is undertsanding. it is ok to date someone from a different class but also make sure that u both have different things you want to achieve and it is not just one person depending on the other.

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