Tuffy Luv Deals With Bed Wetting (For Real)

January 6, 2009 - 1:00 pm By Sara - NYU

bedwetter Tiene una pregunta para Tuffita? Email her at tuffylove@collegecandy.com to be featured in her column, which runs every other Tuesday! She’s bi-weekly (wink, wink.)

Dear Tuffy Luv,

My brother Jeremy & I were bedwetters into our late teens. Jeremy until he was 17 & i until i was 18. Jeremy is 2 years younger than me. Our problem is that we wet (soak) the bed when we drink a little too much alcohol, beer in particular. I have wet in my pants on 2 or 3 occasions on the way home from the pub in addition to wetting the bed on those nights. Have you had any e-mails on this problem, or is there anyone out there that has the same problem that may have a solution to this problem? We do have our own apartment at school so we can have rubber sheets on the bed without anyone finding out about us wetting.

Dear Bedwetter,

Oh, honey. Oh. Honey.

Well, first of all, according to the Mayo Clinic, wetting the bed as an adult ain’t great. It’s called “secondary enuresis” and it could mean a whole slew of other possible problems. For inst, it could be diabetes, or bladder cancer, or a neurological problem, or any other number of big baddies.

In other words, get thee (and the Jerster) to a doctor!!! Immediately!!!

Or you could just be really, really screwed up. Tuffy don’t mean that in an insulting way. But if you had something really horrible happen to you (abuse, trauma, etc.), that could cause this little pooaboo too. If you think this might be why you’re having the problem, you should definitely seek psychological help immediately as well. This seems somewhat likely since you and Jer are both experiencing it.

Honey, and I’m gonna give you some tuf luv here–you don’t wanna be wetting the bed. If you wanna have any kind of a sex life, this is really gonna be a dealbreaker for you. Unless, of course, you want to attract creepy bed-wetting fetishists, in which case, yeah, go for it. You can tell them you and Jer are a two-for-one. Annnd I just threw up in my mouth.

Anyway, no matter the cause, it’s not normal (sorry) and you have to get it checked before something really f*cked up happens to you.

Hearts & Skulls,

Tuffy Luv

e says:
Wed, 7th Jan 20092:45 pm

What a horrible response. I don’t think the answer is to tell this poor woman that she can never be with a man if she’s a bed-wetter, as I can say for damn sure that if I were having this problem, my fiance would absolutely support me in anything we had to do to figure it out. He would NOT break up with me or stop having sex with me – any man for whom it’s a “deal breaker” isn’t gonna be worth your damn time anyway.

Completely idiotic.

fattestgirlever says:
Wed, 7th Jan 20092:50 pm

OH MY GOD! The author for this column, Tuffy Luv is SO officially fired! You should go hang yourself right now with a Hula Hoop for your complete and udder (pun intended) lack of compassion for a subject that probably ales (you guessed it, pun intended!) a large portion of the drinking public yet are too mortified to speak out about it! There is nothing worse than a columnist who is lacking both the specificity and the compassion to answer questions with decorum. You are so busted and so I will answer for you!

Dearest Bedwetter, Since your problem with bedwetting only occurs post-drinking, the clue to the solution is to be cognizant of what your limit is going to be. Never surpass that limit and if you do, make sure to take an empty drinking glass to sleep with you, so that if you wake up in someone else’s company, you can jump up and cry over the spilled “drink” in your bed and no one will be the wiser. You know the situation, you know your limits, you know you have choices. I have found that more people, especially males, have this problem than has ever been let on before!

Don’t worry too much about it! Urine is sterile. Know your intake limits. Some people seem to have a stonger sleep cycle than urine urge—and that’s all it is! (If you’ve already ruled out other medical conditions!) Get to know yourself and your limits intimately and stop before your poor, tired, party-weary, unconscious body can’t help itself! No, you’re not gross and it’s more common than one might think!

fattestgirlever says:
Wed, 7th Jan 20093:01 pm

College Candy, please replace me as columnist immediately. (Tuffy Luv has no heart.) I thank you in advance and look forward to hearing from you. I officialy pledge my care and concern to all those who write me for advice. Seriously, contact me before you allow Tuffy to answer anyone so incompletely or incorrectly ever again!

fattestgirlever says:
Wed, 7th Jan 20093:04 pm

My fastest typing fingers feverishly wishing to compose an answer inadvertenly left out an “l” in the paragraph above, in the word “officially.”

Lauren, University of Michigan says:
Wed, 7th Jan 20094:38 pm

I thought it was kinda funny…

tiffany says:
Wed, 7th Jan 20099:04 pm

That was the most insensitive response possible. All I can say is karma is a bitch and I would hate to be in your position right now.

Danyell says:
Wed, 7th Jan 20099:25 pm

wow, I mean, I know you call yourself “tuffy luv” which is obviously a euphanism for tough love, but still, this lady was asking for your help, and your completly trashed her dignity. You are supposed to be an ADVICE columnist, not a bitch.

your path was ok with suggesting seeing a doctor or therapist, but you didn’t have to be so rude about it. you’re obviously not helping this website, seeing all the negative responses to this article due to your faults.

TA says:
Thu, 8th Jan 200912:36 am

I’m really hoping your computer was hacked and you really didn’t give that response yourself. I agree w/ the above, tough love does NOT mean BITCH. If you did write that response yourself, please CC, stop using “Tuffy”. By no means does she have the drive to do proper research or the compassion to respond tastefully. Really, I think this response was an embarrassment to your site.

MK says:
Thu, 8th Jan 20093:32 am

Alright, I usually don’t comment on any of the posts on this site but I thought this was the most childish response to a serious question. Just because the author of this column is ignorant of this happening to any one else doesn’t mean they have the right to down right insult the person writing in. This site is mostly amateur writers from what I understand; however, someone in charge should have omitted the last paragraph and a half from the answer.

In short: Rude/Immature authors should not have their own advice columns about serious questions. Doesn’t this sort of behavior deter people from writing in?

College Candy: I believe you ladies need to take all of the negative feedback on this post to heart.

sara says:
Fri, 9th Jan 20093:44 pm

Seriously, this is a question I would have liked to have some more information on, instead of jumping to the conclusion that it is a medical problem. Wetting the bed after drinking is quite common, which is what this was, not bedwetting in general.

Sara - NYU says:
Sun, 11th Jan 200910:31 pm

dear outraged responders,

i apologize for upsetting you, and i mean that sincerely. however, i received this email in several different forms which made me pretty certain that it was spam, and so i answered it mostly jokingly (although, you’ll note, just in case, i referenced some actual information).

sorry to have upset you. but, after all, that IS the tone of this column.

sara

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