Comments on: The V-Card: All It’s Cracked Up to Be? http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Sun, 21 Mar 2010 07:21:54 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Kaitlyn http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-63177 Kaitlyn Wed, 23 Dec 2009 07:54:30 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-63177 I lost mine this past august to a guy I had been dating for 3 months. I was 18 and I thought I was in love with him and thought he felt the same about me. It didn't hurt as much as all my friends had told me it would. It definitely wasn't what I expected, afterwards it was like that's it? We broke up a month later due to lack of fidelity on his part and now I really wish more than anything I could have my virginity back. I lost mine this past august to a guy I had been dating for 3 months. I was 18 and I thought I was in love with him and thought he felt the same about me. It didn’t hurt as much as all my friends had told me it would. It definitely wasn’t what I expected, afterwards it was like that’s it? We broke up a month later due to lack of fidelity on his part and now I really wish more than anything I could have my virginity back.

]]> By: marse http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-61136 marse Sat, 28 Nov 2009 08:02:58 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-61136 i swiped mine at 18 to my boyfriend i was completely in love with turns out not so much on his end it wasnt all romantic and yea it hurt. sometimes i regret it but hey life goes on the whole stituation was a learning experience i swiped mine at 18 to my boyfriend i was completely in love with turns out not so much on his end it wasnt all romantic and yea it hurt. sometimes i regret it but hey life goes on the whole stituation was a learning experience

]]> By: Heather http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-61133 Heather Sat, 28 Nov 2009 07:38:54 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-61133 I lost it when i was 17 to a guy i ended up dating for like 4 years. the sex meant a lot at the time, but now that weve broken up it doesn't seem that special to me anymore. i've come to think that the person is what makes sex special, not sex itself. i've had hook up sex that was totally meaningless to me, and sex within the context of a relationship that totally meant something to me at the time. thus, i think as long as you are ready for sex, it doesn't matter when you lose your virginity, and that losing it is overrated, because when you really meet someone special, it'll feel like youre losing it all over again (minus the slight discomfort). I lost it when i was 17 to a guy i ended up dating for like 4 years. the sex meant a lot at the time, but now that weve broken up it doesn’t seem that special to me anymore. i’ve come to think that the person is what makes sex special, not sex itself. i’ve had hook up sex that was totally meaningless to me, and sex within the context of a relationship that totally meant something to me at the time. thus, i think as long as you are ready for sex, it doesn’t matter when you lose your virginity, and that losing it is overrated, because when you really meet someone special, it’ll feel like youre losing it all over again (minus the slight discomfort).

]]> By: bluerose http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-32928 bluerose Thu, 21 May 2009 10:26:29 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-32928 Wow, so nice to see that there are so many "romantic prudes" out there. I'm 22 and still holding on to my v-card dearly! Although I'm sure in this day and age 22 sounds ancient. Wow, so nice to see that there are so many “romantic prudes” out there. I’m 22 and still holding on to my v-card dearly! Although I’m sure in this day and age 22 sounds ancient.

]]> By: SD http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20616 SD Tue, 17 Feb 2009 07:45:07 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20616 Way to go Beth and e! My fiancee' and I are also saving our v-cards til the wedding night. We have been dating for almost 5 years (and will be getting married on our 5 year anniversary this May). Yah, it is for religious reasons, but all that aside, I truly believe it is a gift you can never re-give. And to never have anything to compare sex to, you will never have to worry about it not being as good as it had been in the past with another partner. Who cares if it is really bad and awkward at first. All we have to do is practice! And the whole hype about making sure you are "sexually compatible" is ridiculous. After all, she's a woman, I'm a man. My body is compatible with hers. :) To everyone who has not saved themselves, I am not here to look down upon you, but rather to help you realize why some of us have made the decision to save such a beautiful gift for his/her bride/groom to be. Way to go Beth and e!

My fiancee’ and I are also saving our v-cards til the wedding night. We have been dating for almost 5 years (and will be getting married on our 5 year anniversary this May). Yah, it is for religious reasons, but all that aside, I truly believe it is a gift you can never re-give. And to never have anything to compare sex to, you will never have to worry about it not being as good as it had been in the past with another partner. Who cares if it is really bad and awkward at first. All we have to do is practice! And the whole hype about making sure you are “sexually compatible” is ridiculous. After all, she’s a woman, I’m a man. My body is compatible with hers. :)

To everyone who has not saved themselves, I am not here to look down upon you, but rather to help you realize why some of us have made the decision to save such a beautiful gift for his/her bride/groom to be.

]]> By: e http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20620 e Mon, 09 Feb 2009 04:00:07 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20620 my fiancee and I are still virgins and will remain so until we are married my fiancee and I are still virgins and will remain so until we are married

]]> By: shelbs http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20595 shelbs Sun, 08 Feb 2009 00:48:03 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20595 BreaD, I'm in the same situation. I very much look forward to my wedding night. It'll just make it even more important. :) BreaD, I’m in the same situation. I very much look forward to my wedding night. It’ll just make it even more important. :)

]]> By: Erinnn B http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20619 Erinnn B Thu, 05 Feb 2009 01:00:00 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20619 I lost mine to my wonderful boyfriend of one year tomorrow :) It was not all rose petals and candles, but it was perfect for us. Your "v-card" is what you make of it. Don't think that you're a "prude" because you're "older" and still have yours; if you haven't found the right guy, you haven't found the right guy. Waiting for my boyfriend now was the best decision I've made. :) And Sara, when you feel like you're ready for it someday, I know you will end up enjoying it. You will find the guy who's right for you and your experience will probably be COMPLETELY different than the one you wrote about here. Good luck! :) I lost mine to my wonderful boyfriend of one year tomorrow :) It was not all rose petals and candles, but it was perfect for us. Your “v-card” is what you make of it. Don’t think that you’re a “prude” because you’re “older” and still have yours; if you haven’t found the right guy, you haven’t found the right guy. Waiting for my boyfriend now was the best decision I’ve made. :)

And Sara, when you feel like you’re ready for it someday, I know you will end up enjoying it. You will find the guy who’s right for you and your experience will probably be COMPLETELY different than the one you wrote about here. Good luck! :)

]]> By: BreaD http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20618 BreaD Wed, 04 Feb 2009 04:46:40 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20618 I am 18. I am a carrier of my v-card and I have a feeling I'm going to be keeping it until I meet that oh-so-special someone. And since I'm going to marry that oh-so-special someone I might as well not swipe it until I get that ring on my finger. Whatevs. I can wait till then. :P I am 18. I am a carrier of my v-card and I have a feeling I’m going to be keeping it until I meet that oh-so-special someone. And since I’m going to marry that oh-so-special someone I might as well not swipe it until I get that ring on my finger. Whatevs. I can wait till then. :P

]]> By: Sara http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20617 Sara Tue, 03 Feb 2009 03:25:30 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20617 I feel like I should comment here about my very different experience. I was 18 when I lost my virginity, and although I loved my boyfriend of 6 months at the time, i still regret it now. I was always really prude, and all of my friends made fun of me and called me the "next forty-year-old virgin". Although I tried to ignore them, I think it was because of this harassment that I finally gave in. Sex was very painful for me, and honestly, I think this was because I just wasn't ready for it. I'm still really confused about sex, and I don't enjoy it at all. Its a big deal for some people, and a very minor one for others. Just don't ever let another persons choice get in the way of your own. I feel like I should comment here about my very different experience. I was 18 when I lost my virginity, and although I loved my boyfriend of 6 months at the time, i still regret it now. I was always really prude, and all of my friends made fun of me and called me the “next forty-year-old virgin”. Although I tried to ignore them, I think it was because of this harassment that I finally gave in. Sex was very painful for me, and honestly, I think this was because I just wasn’t ready for it. I’m still really confused about sex, and I don’t enjoy it at all.

Its a big deal for some people, and a very minor one for others. Just don’t ever let another persons choice get in the way of your own.

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