Comments on: The V-Card: All It’s Cracked Up to Be? http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Tue, 24 Nov 2009 05:01:52 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: bluerose http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-32928 bluerose Thu, 21 May 2009 10:26:29 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-32928 Wow, so nice to see that there are so many "romantic prudes" out there. I'm 22 and still holding on to my v-card dearly! Although I'm sure in this day and age 22 sounds ancient. Wow, so nice to see that there are so many “romantic prudes” out there. I’m 22 and still holding on to my v-card dearly! Although I’m sure in this day and age 22 sounds ancient.

]]> By: SD http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20616 SD Tue, 17 Feb 2009 07:45:07 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20616 Way to go Beth and e! My fiancee' and I are also saving our v-cards til the wedding night. We have been dating for almost 5 years (and will be getting married on our 5 year anniversary this May). Yah, it is for religious reasons, but all that aside, I truly believe it is a gift you can never re-give. And to never have anything to compare sex to, you will never have to worry about it not being as good as it had been in the past with another partner. Who cares if it is really bad and awkward at first. All we have to do is practice! And the whole hype about making sure you are "sexually compatible" is ridiculous. After all, she's a woman, I'm a man. My body is compatible with hers. :) To everyone who has not saved themselves, I am not here to look down upon you, but rather to help you realize why some of us have made the decision to save such a beautiful gift for his/her bride/groom to be. Way to go Beth and e!

My fiancee’ and I are also saving our v-cards til the wedding night. We have been dating for almost 5 years (and will be getting married on our 5 year anniversary this May). Yah, it is for religious reasons, but all that aside, I truly believe it is a gift you can never re-give. And to never have anything to compare sex to, you will never have to worry about it not being as good as it had been in the past with another partner. Who cares if it is really bad and awkward at first. All we have to do is practice! And the whole hype about making sure you are “sexually compatible” is ridiculous. After all, she’s a woman, I’m a man. My body is compatible with hers. :)

To everyone who has not saved themselves, I am not here to look down upon you, but rather to help you realize why some of us have made the decision to save such a beautiful gift for his/her bride/groom to be.

]]> By: e http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20620 e Mon, 09 Feb 2009 04:00:07 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20620 my fiancee and I are still virgins and will remain so until we are married my fiancee and I are still virgins and will remain so until we are married

]]> By: shelbs http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20595 shelbs Sun, 08 Feb 2009 00:48:03 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20595 BreaD, I'm in the same situation. I very much look forward to my wedding night. It'll just make it even more important. :) BreaD, I’m in the same situation. I very much look forward to my wedding night. It’ll just make it even more important. :)

]]> By: Erinnn B http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20619 Erinnn B Thu, 05 Feb 2009 01:00:00 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20619 I lost mine to my wonderful boyfriend of one year tomorrow :) It was not all rose petals and candles, but it was perfect for us. Your "v-card" is what you make of it. Don't think that you're a "prude" because you're "older" and still have yours; if you haven't found the right guy, you haven't found the right guy. Waiting for my boyfriend now was the best decision I've made. :) And Sara, when you feel like you're ready for it someday, I know you will end up enjoying it. You will find the guy who's right for you and your experience will probably be COMPLETELY different than the one you wrote about here. Good luck! :) I lost mine to my wonderful boyfriend of one year tomorrow :) It was not all rose petals and candles, but it was perfect for us. Your “v-card” is what you make of it. Don’t think that you’re a “prude” because you’re “older” and still have yours; if you haven’t found the right guy, you haven’t found the right guy. Waiting for my boyfriend now was the best decision I’ve made. :)

And Sara, when you feel like you’re ready for it someday, I know you will end up enjoying it. You will find the guy who’s right for you and your experience will probably be COMPLETELY different than the one you wrote about here. Good luck! :)

]]> By: BreaD http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20618 BreaD Wed, 04 Feb 2009 04:46:40 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20618 I am 18. I am a carrier of my v-card and I have a feeling I'm going to be keeping it until I meet that oh-so-special someone. And since I'm going to marry that oh-so-special someone I might as well not swipe it until I get that ring on my finger. Whatevs. I can wait till then. :P I am 18. I am a carrier of my v-card and I have a feeling I’m going to be keeping it until I meet that oh-so-special someone. And since I’m going to marry that oh-so-special someone I might as well not swipe it until I get that ring on my finger. Whatevs. I can wait till then. :P

]]> By: Sara http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20617 Sara Tue, 03 Feb 2009 03:25:30 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20617 I feel like I should comment here about my very different experience. I was 18 when I lost my virginity, and although I loved my boyfriend of 6 months at the time, i still regret it now. I was always really prude, and all of my friends made fun of me and called me the "next forty-year-old virgin". Although I tried to ignore them, I think it was because of this harassment that I finally gave in. Sex was very painful for me, and honestly, I think this was because I just wasn't ready for it. I'm still really confused about sex, and I don't enjoy it at all. Its a big deal for some people, and a very minor one for others. Just don't ever let another persons choice get in the way of your own. I feel like I should comment here about my very different experience. I was 18 when I lost my virginity, and although I loved my boyfriend of 6 months at the time, i still regret it now. I was always really prude, and all of my friends made fun of me and called me the “next forty-year-old virgin”. Although I tried to ignore them, I think it was because of this harassment that I finally gave in. Sex was very painful for me, and honestly, I think this was because I just wasn’t ready for it. I’m still really confused about sex, and I don’t enjoy it at all.

Its a big deal for some people, and a very minor one for others. Just don’t ever let another persons choice get in the way of your own.

]]> By: Steph http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20615 Steph Mon, 02 Feb 2009 05:30:38 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20615 I lost mine this past summer when I was 17. Haha, we did everything backwards. Sex first, then "I love you," and then a relationship. We were best friends in love with each other and we decided to have sex. Of course, having sex on a camping trip is a little hard to achieve. But with our sleeping bags and bug spray we managed it somehow. It wasn't all "rose petals and scented candles" but it was perfect for us and our strangeness. Afterward he said to me, "At least you can tell your friends you lost it under the stars!" I lost mine this past summer when I was 17. Haha, we did everything backwards. Sex first, then “I love you,” and then a relationship. We were best friends in love with each other and we decided to have sex. Of course, having sex on a camping trip is a little hard to achieve. But with our sleeping bags and bug spray we managed it somehow. It wasn’t all “rose petals and scented candles” but it was perfect for us and our strangeness. Afterward he said to me, “At least you can tell your friends you lost it under the stars!”

]]> By: Melody http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20594 Melody Tue, 20 Jan 2009 21:04:10 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20594 I was 16 when i lost my v-card. Me and my boyfriend had been dating a little over a month and i knew i loved him very much. We are still together over 2 years later at the same college and sex is better than ever. I dont think virginity is such a big deal it just depends on each person and how they feel about it. Some people dont care and some people wait for marriage with people like me in between. Its a personal choice and no one should ever make fun or make someone feel uncomfortable for being a virgin. I was 16 when i lost my v-card. Me and my boyfriend had been dating a little over a month and i knew i loved him very much. We are still together over 2 years later at the same college and sex is better than ever. I dont think virginity is such a big deal it just depends on each person and how they feel about it. Some people dont care and some people wait for marriage with people like me in between. Its a personal choice and no one should ever make fun or make someone feel uncomfortable for being a virgin.

]]> By: Katie http://collegecandy.com/2009/01/13/the-v-card-all-its-cracked-up-to-be/#comment-20614 Katie Tue, 20 Jan 2009 20:08:34 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/15743#comment-20614 I'm also a 20 year old virgin! I've often thought that I want to lose it just to get it over with, but I know I'll regret it. Not because I'm expecting rose petals and the whole shebang, but because it's just not who I am. Along with Maggie and CoCo, I'm very comfortable with my decision and I am all about other experiences. When it comes to sex, I'm really excited for it, but I am also confident that once I start, I won't stop. :-b I’m also a 20 year old virgin! I’ve often thought that I want to lose it just to get it over with, but I know I’ll regret it. Not because I’m expecting rose petals and the whole shebang, but because it’s just not who I am.

Along with Maggie and CoCo, I’m very comfortable with my decision and I am all about other experiences. When it comes to sex, I’m really excited for it, but I am also confident that once I start, I won’t stop. :-b

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