Goodbye Sex: The Pros and Cons

January 18, 2009 11:30 am     Posted in Relationships, Sex  Sarabeth - University of Texas g+ page

train station kissThis semester break I have some company at my home – my boyfriend. Neither of us really wanted to be apart for the long 5 weeks of break. Well, that and he’s allergic to his mom’s cats. But he had to go home for a week to take care of a few things; he’s been gone for 4 days, gets back in 3.


By Sarabeth

This is really the first time I’ve been in a serious relationship, so it’s the first time I’ve been away from my serious relationship. This also means this is the first time I’ve had honest to goodness goodbye sex. And let me tell you, I can’t wait for the BF to get back. I miss having him around I’m can’t wait for the welcome back sex! (3…more….days….)

So, why not take this opportunity to do a little comparing? Here are my pros and cons about Goodbye Sex. I’ll get back to you in 3 days when I finally enjoy a little Welcome Back Action…

Pro: Neither of you want it to end

Since you know it’s going to be a long time before you get to do it again, the sex lasts longer! I’m not saying I have a minute man, but it was a welcome change.

Con: It can last too long

It took me a good half hour to recover from our session. I was beat. Sex shouldn’t be THAT exhausting.

Pro: Goodbye sex is romantic

The sex you see in movies is almost nothing like real life. But when it does happen, it’s wonderful. I swear, what happened in my bedroom could’ve been a scene from The Notebook.

Con: There’s crying afterwards

Yes, it’s cheesy, but I cried because I knew he was leaving the next day. Yeah, I know it was only for a few days, but leave me alone; I love him.

Pro: He leaves with you feeling loved.

There’s nothing like a night of sex to make a girl feel good. Especially when it’s with someone special. Sex releases endorphins, so it’s not just me, it’s science saying it makes you happy!

Con: He leaves

*Sniff*

17 Comments on "Goodbye Sex: The Pros and Cons"

  1. Jasmine says:
    Sun, 18th Jan 20097:20 am 

    the biggest pro of goodbye sex is welcome back sex. AMAZING.

  2. brooklynbabe347 says:
    Sun, 18th Jan 20098:32 am 

    Definitely. The welcome back sex is worth it. :D

    It sucks though, because my sweetie's 600 miles away from me in college…we can only see each other once a month for a week at a time until he graduates…in two years. So the cons of goodbye sex REALLY suck.

    …I can't wait for the summertime. :(

  3. Annie says:
    Sun, 18th Jan 20091:54 pm 

    It was a freaking week! Get a life other than your boyfriend!

    pathetic

  4. Samantha says:
    Sun, 18th Jan 20093:25 pm 

    I think it's cute.

    Congrats on finding a boy you miss that much.

  5. jodi says:
    Sun, 18th Jan 20096:23 pm 

    Annie: seriously? It's not pathetic at all to miss your boyfriend. I thought it was for the longest time and then I realized, after dating my current boyfriend, that what was pathetic was my previous inability to really care about somebody else. It's not about whether or not you have a life, it's about whether or not you've found that someone who is worth missing.

  6. Robin says:
    Mon, 19th Jan 200912:40 am 

    Aw, I'm the same as you. Even though I know that my boyfriend is only going to be away for a few days, I still miss him like crazy and always cry when we have to say goodbye!

    I don't think it's pathetic at all, it just shows that you care enough about someone else to actually miss them and cry about them.

    The best part about him being away for a week or more is the coming back! The can't-get-enough-of-you, want-to-spend-every-moment-in-your-arms welcome back sex! ;)

  7. Lucy says:
    Mon, 19th Jan 20096:50 am 

    Yeah, I agree..this is sort of pathetic.

    Boo hoo, he's only gone for a while…Christ!

  8. Annie says:
    Mon, 19th Jan 20096:55 am 

    Jodi: you can care about someone without being completely obessed.

    This article reflects poorly on women. Are we all that dependent on men that we can't let them leave for a couple days without writing some whiney little article?

    This is way guys don't want to get into a serious relationship. They'll get some little leech like this that won't leave them alone for a week!

  9. melissa says:
    Mon, 19th Jan 20098:02 am 

    Totes agree with Annie

    and LOL @ "I love sex"

  10. c2m2 says:
    Mon, 19th Jan 200912:01 pm 

    I agree with Annie as well. I was in a long term relationship where I didn't get to see my boyfriend until he came home for breaks and we only spoke once or twice a week.

    Being apart for a week is no huge deal.

  11. Kiwi says:
    Mon, 19th Jan 20093:36 pm 

    I think how much you miss your significant other greatly varies with the amount of time you've been together.. Right now for example, I've been with the same guy for about 2 years.. At the beginning, a week would have seemed like a LONG time, but now, it doesn't seem that long anymore! Of course I still miss him, but it's not as intense as it was in the beginning.

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    Tue, 20th Jan 20094:52 pm 

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  13. Denver Steve says:
    Tue, 20th Jan 20097:40 pm 

    You chicks are CRAZY!

    Listen to Annie and whoever else backs her up, cause if you can't go a couple of days without being depressed, you obviously have issues. Wait until you hit a rough spot you'll be the girl running him down and he'll end up screwing you over. (unless if he's a loser too)

  14. Jess says:
    Wed, 21st Jan 20097:36 am 

    I think it depends on the person and the relationship you are in. I've been in relationships where one week is no big deal and also a relationship where just a few days is the end of the world. It's not obsessive and her boyfriend will probably miss her just as much. Not every relationship is the same and not every guy is a douche.

    So even if you guys think this is obsession, open up and realize that not everyone thinks that way. I know plenty of people who are in healthy relationships and they genuinely miss their significant other for even a day. You can also be in a healthy relationship and it might be easier for you to be away.

    Everyone is different. But I'm pretty sure we can all agree with the article that good-bye sex is pretty amazing =)

  15. FOFAH efe says:
    Wed, 2nd May 20127:25 pm 

    Well for me l really want to have fun but l can’t do oh.

  16. FOFAH efe says:
    Wed, 2nd May 20127:26 pm 

    Cos am a virgin

  17. Katarina says:
    Wed, 23rd May 20121:50 pm 

    I'm leaving the COUNTRY for 2 WHOLE MONTHS and my boyfriend says we probably can't have goodbye sex. :'(

    Worst thing ever.

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