He Said/She Said: Sharing Hook Ups

February 18, 2009 4:00 pm     Posted in Advice, Reality, Relationships  Candy -- NYU g+ page

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By Candy

The first lesson I remember learning was the importance of sharing. I had to share my toys, I had to share my feelings and I had to share my gum with the rest of the class. Now, call me selfish, but I believe that some things in life should not be shared.

STDs, for example. Or guys?

In my mind, once a friend dates a guy, or cozies up with him for more than one night, he’s off the market to the rest of us. I mean, there’s a reason they call it “Sloppy Seconds,” right? But I’ve learned that it’s different for guys; they don’t mind hooking up with someone else’s leftovers. In fact, I know lots of girls who have made their way through an entire group of guys and none of them seemed to mind.

How can that be? Can guys really share hook ups like girls share tube tops? Let’s see what our guy had to say…

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8 Comments on "He Said/She Said: Sharing Hook Ups"

  1. Ally says:
    Wed, 18th Feb 200911:36 am 

    OHH, so that's why you go to a website called CollegeCandy! Honestly.

  2. Rach says:
    Wed, 18th Feb 200912:06 pm 

    i honestly think that if it was just a fling and there was not attachment and you hit it off with a person then its fair game. i think its really immature of a girlfriend to prohibit her friends from going near any guy she has touched. yes it may be weird and awkward but i want the best for my friends and if the guy i went on two dates with is what she wants then so be it. if it were my serious ex bf she just wanted to hook up with then thats a different story. but like i said, when there is low attachment i think the situation when handled appropriately is fine.

  3. Ana says:
    Wed, 18th Feb 200912:31 pm 

    Okay,I hv a question!3 years ago my best friend hook up with this guy on and off for almost a year…They eventually moved on and she now has a bf for the last 2 years..And now Im hving feelings towards her ex(which also happens to be one of my best guy friends).he seems to hv feelings for me too.Is it wrong to go for it? Even tho she clearly has no feelings for him anymore?

  4. Sarah says:
    Wed, 18th Feb 20092:24 pm 

    Ana…

    I think as long as you mention it to your best (girl)friend, going for her ex should be legit. Just make sure not to step on anyone's feelings, you know?

  5. Lucy says:
    Wed, 18th Feb 20094:08 pm 

    I don't think it's weird at all. It's not like their quarantined after someone else hooks up with someone you did.

    Although, I come from a super small town so it's not uncommon or strange to see shit like this go down all the time. It doesn't bother me and it certainly doesn't bother anyone else I know.

  6. Jenn says:
    Wed, 18th Feb 20094:30 pm 

    All of you should just spice it up!

    Go to
    http://www.ThePleasureEden.com

  7. Jes says:
    Thu, 19th Feb 20094:14 am 

    Ha, there was a girl who fell head over heels in love with my boyfriend several years ago… (while he and I were broken up) He never liked her but they were friends, however, she completely forbade her (super smokin' hot) girl friend from dating him just because she liked him so much!

    I think that's a definite exaggeration of friend rules… But luckily for me, he remained single and we've been together ever since! (2 1/2yrs) So I guess I should actually be thanking her, lol… :)

  8. ellen says:
    Sun, 22nd Feb 20095:02 pm 

    LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! to the joker that deleted me comment!!!!!!

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