As for shaving this is what I find works best. Let your hair grow in so that it is a little more than just stubby (for the first time atleast; kind of like if a guy doesn't save his beard for a day or two). Make sure you exfoliate the night before and in the shower before you shave. Exfoliate. Then let it be under the warm water while you deal with the rest of your shower. Use a moisturizing shave gel or cream. Start by shaving in the downward direction. Don't do more than like 2 strokes in each spot. Too many strokes = razor burn. Then generally I shave at like a 45 degree angle going up. I do the whole area in one direction and then the other. I have very coarse hair and this usually leaves me very well shaven. It lasts a few days but once it starts to come back you can do the process again.

Whether you try this or waxing, good luck!!