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Q: Okay, so I’m a guy, and I’m having trouble finding a girlfriend. I’m 20, about 6 foot, 165 lbs, average build, white (but not pale) skin, well groomed, short hair, shower daily. I’ve dated ten women, two serious relationships. My most serious relationship was two years. I’m not really into sports, but if I’m hanging out with some friends and they’re watching a game, I’ll watch too. I strongly believe in treating women with respect.
Generally on the first date I bring flowers, walk up to her door to pick her up, take her to her favorite food restaurant, always open the door (even car door) for her, and always pay (I don’t know why girls let guys get away with not paying). I’m more of the romantic nice guy than the hardcore-work-out-football-beer-blah type guy. I’m not into drugs, don’t smoke, and only have a drink occasionally. I hardly ever curse unless I’m mad. I use correct English but don’t correct others for not using it. I don’t have an accent or a lisp.
I’ve been told I’m attractive, hot, cute, average, normal, etc. I think I have a easy going personality, definitely not pushy. I smile a lot and always make eye contact. I love making people laugh, but most of all, helping them. I have a few close friends, and enjoy small groups rather than large groups. I love to cuddle. I pleasure her before myself, or try, if you know what I mean. I don’t obsess over a relationship and call her all the time, and I don’t get jealous unless the relationship is threatened. I have a clean rep.
I’ve been on a few dates within the last few months, but none of them seemed to develop into anything more than just friends. That spark never came. I’ve talked to some girls that I know and asked them to dinner but they don’t seem interested in “that way.”
I’ve tried to think of everything that describes me. I know it’s hard to figure this out without knowing me, but I do appreciate you trying. Maybe I’m trying too hard? Maybe I need to buy a motorcycle and become a bad-ass? I dunno. Can you give me any tips to improve my search for love?
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