He Said/She Said: Does Size Matter?

March 4, 2009 - 4:00 pm By CC Staff

big-woman1.jpgLast week one of the CollegeCandy writers asked a question that I have been thinking about since I started crushing on boys in the 4th grade: would you date someone who weighs less than you?

Many people weighed in (tee hee) on the topic via the comments, and most of them seemed angry that we even brought up the issue. I mean, weight shouldn’t matter! But I really felt that a lot of people were missing the point.

This is not a question of body image or beauty, but rather a question of comfort, societal expectations and the role of men and women in a relationship. I was curious to see if weight was something guys considered when dating someone (beyond the whole preference for a girl with big boobs and a negative waist).

And based on what this guy said, I think weight and size matter more than most people are willing to admit.

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9 Comments on "He Said/She Said: Does Size Matter?"

  1. Lindsey says:
    Wed, 4th Mar 20098:04 pm 

    I dated a guy once who told me he would never date a girl who weighed more than him. Funny thing – I weighed 20lbs more than him and he didnt even know. When i brought it up he felt like an asshole. He actually was an asshole but that’s a different story.

    now, i have been dating my current boyfriend for a year and he is 6′ 175 and i’m 5′6″ 190 (i weigh alot but look like I weigh about 175) and he doesn’t care at all and neither do i.

    I was sleeping with a kid once who I could probably bench press and that made me feel like a rhino.

    So in short, I think it depends on how much bigger/taller one is than the other and what you look like togther and more importantly what your chemistry is together. Size doesn’t really matter if you work well together and can see past it all.

  2. Cassie says:
    Wed, 4th Mar 20098:25 pm 

    The thing is, if a girl actually has some curves, she is going to weigh a little more. I am not fat but I do have some curves, and usually end up dating skinnier guys (idk why) but most of the time they had no idea how much I weighed or it really didn’t matter. I think unless I dated a really petite guy, it wouldn’t matter how much they weighed.

  3. Jenny says:
    Wed, 4th Mar 200911:38 pm 

    I can’t really answer the weight question because I’ve never been in a situation where a guy weighed close to my weight. Well, there was one time. One of my exes had an eating disorder and weighed less than I did, and I’m skinny to begin with! It wasn’t weird because of the weight issue, but because it was clear that he was really unhealthy.

    I know for sure that height is not an issue for me. I’m only 5′2″, and I’ve dated guys whose heights ranged between 5′4″ and 6′2″. I actually prefer the shorter guys, surprisingly. :P

  4. Nina says:
    Thu, 5th Mar 200912:33 am 

    Almost all of the guys that I’ve dated were at least over 6′. I guess feeling protected is important for me in a relationship. I’ve only dated one guy that was skinny and I broke up with him because one time he tried to pick me up and fell on his ass. I’m 5′4″ and a size 6! I broke up with him immediately after.

  5. belle says:
    Thu, 5th Mar 200910:47 am 

    I’m one of those short girls that goes for guys a foot taller than her and I have no shame. Everyone has a type and as long as you’re willing to see outside of it for the right reasons I see no problem with it. Plus, I think biologically we are wired to want a guy to bigger than us. Otherwise how can we trust that he will ward off menances from our cave home.

  6. Sarah says:
    Fri, 6th Mar 20093:00 pm 

    “Otherwise how can we trust that he will ward off menances from our cave home.”

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA…You’re awesome.

  7. Ashley says:
    Mon, 25th Jan 20108:35 am 

    I love me some skinny runner boys! My ex weighed a lot less than me (and then we went to college…), but my current boyfriend is 6′ tall and just lost 30 pounds, but still weighs more than me. I definitely felt weird dating a guy who weighed less than me, but at the same time, I’m pretty curvy and 5′4″, and have a lot of muscle (I’m a runner too…but not super skinny), so I’m obviously going to have some more mass on me. In the end, all that matters is if you keep a healthy lifestyle and don’t focus too much on what number is on the scale.

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