rach says:
Thu, 5th Mar 20094:47 am 

i recently gave it up (age 23) with my current bf. i dont know if i was "in love" with him at the time but we cared a lot about each other and i knew he wouldnt up and leave in a week. for me it was being with someone i trusted. i'm glad i waited until then. the night wasnt anything special but i know i will never regret my decision.

scout122 says:
Thu, 5th Mar 20095:06 am 

I am looking for that right person to have sex with for the first time.

I had a boyfriend all last year but did not give it up to him because there were shady things going on with his ex and never completely trusted him, which in hindsight was a good idea cause he broke up with me for her in the end.

I don't want to look back and regret who and when i did it and to be honest i'm scared to have sexxx.

Me being scared about sex is like getting your ears pierced.

I used to be jealous about the kids who got their ears pierced young and couldn't remember the hesitation and fear before you did it.

Now that i haven't had sex and I am 20!! I think, would it have been better just to have gotten it over with earlier, so i could enjoy it now?

btw got my ears pierced at 16.

Who knows, anyways.

I'm waiting till i find the right guy that will put all my hesitations at ease.

Gwenivere says:
Thu, 5th Mar 20095:42 am 

I waited until I found someone that I loved and felt completely comfortable with. I was 18. Now I am 23 and I am engaged to the same person I lost my V-card to.

I didn't plan to sleep with only one person my entire life but I am kinda happy it happened this way. I have heard some horror stories from my friends who slept with guys that are HORRIBLE in bed and they immediately regret doing it. I lucked out. My guy already knew what he was doing and well…

Some people ask me if I am really ok with only having sex with one person forever. The only I can say is, If you are have great sex then it doesn't matter that it is the same person. I feel bad for those people who think they are going to have great sex and then are left dissapointed.

Sam says:
Thu, 5th Mar 20096:18 am 

I waited until I was in college aka 18.. just because my parents were pretty strict about no boyfriends when I was in High School (not that that stopped me.. I just hid it pretty well) But in High School I didn't feel I was ready. I'm glad I waited until I was older.

brooklynbabe347 says:
Thu, 5th Mar 20096:26 am 

I recently gave up my virginity (we exchanged v-cards as a matter of fact for similar reasons) just last month to someone who I definitely do love. You'd think I would've realized this ten years sooner (I've known him for that long)! Ew…OK, maybe not then 'cause I was 12 at the time…

Lauren, University o says:
Thu, 5th Mar 20096:27 am 

I lost mine pretty late and found myself spending many college nights thinking that i just wanted to "get it out of the way."

How awful is that!?

Angie Marie says:
Thu, 5th Mar 20099:20 am 

As a Christian, I'm waiting til marriage. I'm also waiting for oral sex and basically everything beyond making out. And, you know what? I'm actually really happy with my decision…I get lots of attention from guys (no boyfriend, currently!) and they all respect my virginity as far as I can tell. I never get any flack for going to church Sunday mornings; haha, if anything I've had one or two guys pretend to be interested in religion just because they were into me. I like being a "hot good girl"…ha, I feel like it makes me stand out a little bit.

Of course, one thing I will say is that I have to be very careful when it comes to dating guys…if you girls want to retain that virginity, be choosy about who you go out with and avoid the ones who will be pushy about sexual stuff.

Katie says:
Thu, 5th Mar 200912:31 pm 

Wow I loved this article, Out of my friends I am the only virgin and I was beginning to think something was wrong with me. Next week I'll be twenty and I feel like Steve Carrell's character in forty year old virgin. I'm not a prude, but I just haven't found someone I trust to lose my virginity to, well I did but in the heat of the moment he decided he didn't want to be "that guy" I've done everything but sex but my reasons for not having sex yet are simply because I don't want to lose it when I'm annihilated and with someone I don't know/care about. It's just difficult because the only thing stopping me from going all the way with people I had hooked up with is the fact I havent been all the way yet. I do want to lose it hopefully sooner than later… a girl has needs, but I'm still keeping my head about it.

snowgirl says:
Thu, 5th Mar 20093:32 pm 

I lost mine pretty early, on my 15th birthday. I had been going out with this guy for a year, and we were in love (such as it is in middle school). We were together another year plus change after that, and I don't feel like I made a mistake. We were safe, but both woefully inept, which is kind of charming in hindsight.

I was raised in a really sex-positive, feminist household, and I went into it with a pretty rational idea of what sex was about. I think having a healthy attitude towards sex does a lot towards making your first time, whenever that may be, a lot more positive experience. Nowadays I am definitely in the hook-up scene in college, and I can happily say that I've never woken up regretting a scandalous night

Sarah says:
Fri, 6th Mar 20099:47 am 

I gave my v-card to my ex-boyfriend when I was 17 because I thought he was losing interest in me. In hindsight, it may not have been the best reason, but I don't regret it. I loved him at the time and just wanted to make him happy (oh yeah, and he was hot, lol). What's funnier is I specifically remember saying after the deed was done, "Finally! I'm so glad I got that over with!"

After our break-up, I've only had one casual sexual experience (repercussions of dating an emotionally abusive boy…I became very self-destructive)–showing that losing it early on doesn't necessarily lead to a future of promiscuous sex. Other than that, I've only slept with my two other boys (one of which I'm with right now!). Ultimately, all that matters is whether you're emotionally ready for it.

Blockhead says:
Sat, 7th Mar 200910:29 pm 

I'm a 21-year-old guy and I lost my virginity at 19. What I'm doing on this site, I have no idea. I'm glad I found it, though, because I've been feeling really guilty lately. Last week, I went on a date with an 18-year-old girl who I'm interested in. We wound up having sex, and it was her first time. I didn't force the issue; I didn't even want to. It happened really naturally. The next morning she woke me up and wanted to go again. The night before it was a too painful for her even though I was very gentle, but that morning I stayed with her until her toes curled. I'm not in love with her, but I think she's fallen for me. I feel just terrible that I took someone's V Card without being in love with them

Thoughts?

Ziggy Stardust says:
Sun, 8th Mar 20092:21 pm 

I am turning 19 in 8 days and I have, not only not lost my v-card, never been kissed. I wish I had been kissed long ago so I wouldn't be so nervous about it.

Nana89 says:
Mon, 9th Mar 200910:31 pm 

I lost it a month shy of my 16th birthday. I did it because I thought I was in love, and perhaps I was. Either way, I ended up breaking up with him a year later, due to boredom and fear of commitment (our moms were best friends, and would casually bring up marriage, our wedding… yeah, terrifying.)

I've slept with two guys since then (I'm 18 now), one that I was seeing casually (which ended shortly afterwards) and another when I was quite intoxicated. I don't regret any of my experiences. I learned many lessons about love, life, and sex, and that is invaluable. Sex is completely a personal choice, so whatever you are doing, more power to ya! (as long as you aren't screwing someone else's boyfriend or spreading disease, of course.)

Avenged Infatuation says:
Mon, 16th Mar 20098:36 pm 

I lost it to someone I loved at the time. We've long broken up since but I don't think I regret it.

not Jen says:
Tue, 17th Mar 20097:09 pm 

I lost mine this year to my now ex-boyfriend. I'm 19 and he was 21 at the time and it was both of our first times. I was in love with him but he has a lot of issues and we ended up breaking up a couple weeks later. All in all I'd say we rushed into things but at the same time I don't regret anything. He was only my second boyfriend (I had my first kiss at 18) but it was important to me to be in love when I had sex. It's a little weird to me to not have it anymore but a part of me is proud of having lost it before I turned 20. It's definitely a different experience than I'd expected but I'm happy all the same.

ana says:
Wed, 18th Mar 20094:16 am 

i lost mine when i was 19. he was my x-bf he loves me so much but i didnt thats why ive given my Vcard but i didnt regret it cause he deserves it.

Jes says:
Wed, 18th Mar 20099:30 am 

to blockhead:

I can't help but feel your pain. As much as I hate to say this (with so many virgins on here who could take it the wrong way) that's why people dont want to sleep with someone for their first time. Because there's always the *possibilty* (not a sure thing) that that person will take it to mean something WAY more than casual sex, and then the other person feels guilty and suffocated afterwards.

I've actually taken 2 guys' virginity (oops) and BOTH of them went ballastic & clingy on me, even when I told them beforehand I wasn't looking to date anyone exclusively.

Point of the story is- they're gonna be sad, but the girl will get over it. She doesnt love you, is just infatuated and if she really wanted to wait until she (mutually) fell in love with someone, thats her fault for giving it up without knowing that beforehand.

College Girl says:
Fri, 27th Mar 20091:19 am 

I lost mine on an overseas New Years holiday in a public spa to a nameless guy I had known for 15 min, who was 6 years older than me and who turned out to have a girlfriend. I don't regret it at all! I just wanted to get rid of it to be honest. I worried about it quite a lot, and now I don't!

Anne says:
Fri, 17th Apr 20097:52 pm 

There was a guy that I liked but he "dropped me like third period French class," and of course I was heart-broken. I was fed-up with with being a virgin, so I lost it to a guy 'friend' in the group of people I know. The sad part was that I didn't particularly like this guy.

That was an awful way to go. And I definitely wish that I did not do it then. I felt awful and empty.

diana* says:
Wed, 27th May 20097:48 am 

Hi. I did have sex once in high school, really dumb I do regret it! I kind of forgot about it, and God forgave me when I went to church and confessed. One part that is hard is to tell my parents and also one more issue. I had sex with a different guy and I think I may be pregnant. I am only 20, in college, and working. I don't think I could take it! I don't think I will be able to tell my parents ever. I have a doctors appointment tmrw and I was never excited to go to the doctor but what strikes me is i am not today either but I want to find out if I am or not. I took 2 pregnancy tests and negative both times. I just hate the guy's guts now! I understand it is not completely his fault but he didn't want to do it, and then he changed his mind. thanks for listening people. you don't have to respond just glad i put it out there.

Talia says:
Wed, 10th Jun 200912:15 pm 

No joke, every single one of the girls in my clique in high school lost their virginity when they were fourteen, apart from me. And to be honest the only reason I let it go was because I didn't like being the only virgin of the group. I don't regret it as such, I was just annoyed that it wasn't all my friends had cracked it up to be.

So I had just turned fifteen and I was happy enough with the "everything but" activities – like, BJs and stuff – but then the most UNLIKELY girl lost her virginity and I was like Oh God. I'm the only person left in the ENTIRE. WORLD. So I said to my boyfriend, I want to have sex. And we did. And it sucked. Not only did it hurt more than anything I can remember to this date (even when I pierced my own ear and it got infected, yummy), it was awkward and just weird. The good part is we went on to have some pretty good sex.

Still… I kinda wish I hadn't freaked out and thought I was a retardfreak for not having sex. I wish I'd just have waited until it felt like I should have sex.

J says:
Sun, 19th Jul 20092:50 pm 

I'm a 28 yr old attractive girl. I still have my "v-card". I never really planned it that way; the right person hasn't come along and the older I got/get the more embarrassing it becomes. It is MORTIFYING to think about wanting to be w/ someone and have to drop that bomb on the poor guy. That is what holds me back a lot in general. The embarrassment, not the sex itself. I'm old enough to want to have sex w/ someone I like (not have to be "in love"), and not "freak out" on them.

Jose says:
Fri, 21st Aug 20093:52 pm 

I lost it on my 18th birthday with my girlfriend who was also a virgin. We were in love & I waited because I was pretty scared of the potential consequences of sex (namely getting a gal pregnant). So I wanted to be with someone I trusted. We were in love & I don’t regret waiting to be with someone who was special to me & vice-versa.

Now I’m a father of 3 daughters (and possibly another 1 since we plan on having more kids). I’m terrified of one of my girls making a mistake; I knew plenty of guys & gals having sex at young ages (one close pal lost his at 12 & I knew plenty of people at 14 in grade 9 who were having lots of sex). So now I worry about my daughters; they’re smart, don’t get me wrong – they have good heads on their shoulders. My oldest is 12 going on 13 soon & I worry that some of her friends will rapidly age soon & become sexually active in the next year or so. So I’ve been casually bringing up the importance of self-respect & other people treating my girls with respect & being caring towards them; I’ll say something like “Whenever you do become interested in boys, or girls, and want to have a romantic relationship – remember that you deserve respect & so do they. Your body is your own & your feelings matter & must be taken seriously.” My daughter (the 12 year old) used to look at me like I was a freak & get annoyed, but now she listens to me & I think it’s because I told her it’s just because I care about her & love her. Any how – I suppose I’m just venting about my worries for my kids. I’m glad to see that there’s wide-range of first-time ages & that a lot of people waited based on being with someone they trusted & cared about. I suppose part of reason for commenting here is that I would appreciate feedback about what role daughter’s would appreciate their father playing in supporting them & being there for them. My dad was kind of inept when it came to talking about sex to my sister & I and relationships in general, so his example is largely one of “Okay, that kind of missed the boat – maybe you should have said….” Part of my worry is that I’m not being a supportive enough, or interested enough dad & perhaps eroding some of my kids’ self-confidence (my dad wasn’t very supportive or interested).

Any how – I’ve babbled, but I would love advice about what women think makes a dad with daughters a good dad towards them.

This is a cool site by the way.

Morganski says:
Mon, 7th Nov 201112:32 am 

Hey I'm pretty much right there with ya I'm 19 now and at the beginning of this summer I still hadn't been kissed so I totally know how you feel. Even now I've only had this one kiss and it was with one of my close friends, and I'm not going to say we were drinking but he doesn't even remember it (and there is no way I'm telling him). Now that all said it wasn't a bad kiss and I realized it wasn't a big deal. Later when I was talking to some of my friends I realized it wasn't so bad because when it happened I was relaxed and it just happened and because I was so "relaxed" lol. Oddly I can say it was kind of natural but I'm not saying "get drunk and make out with someone" I'm just saying as hard as it is try not to worry about it and let it happen naturally because if it does then you won't regret it. Thats all the advice I can give you on kisses considering I'm just as inexperienced as you are but I hope what I've said helps.