How To Tell If He’s Faking It

[The following post is courtesy of our homegirls over at YourTango. Well, their male perspective. They’ve been through it all and know just about everything about love, so we thought we’d bring their expertise to you. Enjoy!]  

In our piece, The Myth Of The Male Orgasm, we wrote about men who have trouble coming—it’s not as uncommon as you think. In fact, an AskMen survey found that 23% of guys have faked it at some point.

Women impersonate the O for various reasons; a common excuse is not wanting to hurt his feelings. AskMen says that guys do it for the same reason. “The prevailing opinion is that men should be able to climax whenever, wherever and under any circumstance,” which simply isn’t true. Your dude might have trouble peaking if he’s tired, stressed or drunk, or if he’s already climaxed that day. And if that’s the situation, he might fake it.

Of course, it’d be better to postpone sex or talk to your partner about why you’re not hitting the high note, but real life doesn’t always work the way it should. People will continue to fake orgasms, and for men who have never done it before, AskMen provides a handy guide. Ladies, here are some signs he might be faking it.

1. His moans sound like those kooky cat noises you hear late at night. AskMen tells guys to avoid doing anything too emphatic: “overacting will kill this performance.” Look for unusually intense cries, thrashing or weird facial expressions.

2. You usually come in missionary position but this time he moves behind you before climax. One of the joys (or predicaments) of face-to-face sex is seeing the other person’s expressions when they come, and that contortion is pretty hard to fudge. AskMen warns, “a girl who has been with you before will recognize if your orgasm face is not consistent. So, when faking an orgasm, it is best to do it doggy style or in any other position in which you are not facing one another.”

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