5 Guy Tendencies You’re Just Gonna Have To Deal With

Sadie says:
Sun, 22nd Mar 20092:43 pm 

Really, I don't understand how being born with a penis makes these things okay…

Vivian - Undecided says:
Sun, 22nd Mar 20093:02 pm 

You completely hit the nail with the 'Money' one.

lane says:
Sun, 22nd Mar 20093:03 pm 

The money part is the only one I disagree with. To an extent anyway. Yes, it's his money. But if you've agreed on a common goal–such as a house together–then I think the woman has a right to voice her opinion. And when you have a home together, you have a right to make sure your partner spends responsibly so that you can keep that roof over your heads.

However, having said that, I don't believe it's exclusively a male issue. Many women are bad spenders, emotional-shoppers for example.

Bills need to be paid. Goals met.

It's wrong to nag over little things when it comes to money, if he wants a new video game, a night out, or she wants a new outfit, some girl time, whatever it may be. But if the spending is out of hand, your partner has a right to call you on it in my opinion.

Tiffany says:
Sun, 22nd Mar 20094:10 pm 

I'm not sure that the lack of the "you need me" syndrome makes a guy a "girly guy"…but possibly and hopefully just a guy whose not on a power trip.

Ayla says:
Sun, 22nd Mar 20095:10 pm 

You DO realize that everything you've listed is a socially created gender behavior, and that you're pretty much just perpetuating a stereotype? Not saying it's completely invalid or anything (Lord knows, plenty of dudes conform to their roles as listed), but I gotta call you on the "girly guy" comment. Way to be sexist, there.

Jenny says:
Sun, 22nd Mar 20096:16 pm 

I agree with everyone who has pointed out the blatant sexism in this post. Not all men behave like this (in fact, some women behave like this, too!) and women shouldn't have to just deal with it. People who are repeatedly guilty of numbers 1, 2, and 5 need to grow up and get their priorities straight. And I have no words for number 3. No words.

Brittney says:
Sun, 22nd Mar 20096:37 pm 

I disagree. I have guy friends who are way better at handling money than girls are. Like saving up $3000 to build his own computer. nerdy, but very admirable.

Gloria says:
Mon, 23rd Mar 20097:01 am 

What a great article about stereotypes!!!

Please do continue to write crappy fluff pieces!

Faggots says:
Mon, 23rd Mar 20097:52 am 

Hurray for generalizations and antiquated stereotypes!!

ampersand86 says:
Mon, 23rd Mar 200912:15 pm 

Thank you for feeding into an age old stereotype and encouraging guys to be heartless, unemotional douchebags. I feel like this article feeds more into a caricature of an average guy than anything worth putting stock into.

Also, I think anybody – male or female – could attribute to this if you look at them on the surface and don't really make the effort to get to know them.

Jon-Paul says:
Mon, 23rd Mar 20092:39 pm 

I really love what you folks are doing over here! This blog is designed very nice–layout and paste-up–and it's a pleasure on the eyes.

I commented earlier today in the form of a post; however, I wasn't clear as to if it was appropriate to post my blog adddy here.

Therefore, I'm the one who wrote 'just generalities' that's posted up ^^ there. This blog is awesome, and I do enjoy the writing…in particular, the tone, meter, jovial type attitude.

Keep up this great work!

jps

The Thinker

JT says:
Mon, 23rd Mar 20094:21 pm 

Two can play at this game:

1) Women talk way more than men, some studies cite women using on average 20,000 words per day while men only use 7,000 per day. How about women try remembering nearly 3 times as many words as they use in a day? To quote Chris Rock “How was your day is a 45 minute conversation to a women”. It’s funny b/c it is true.

Further, this is a perfect example of the assuming that Guys are exactly like you. The comments and the he said/she said article here on CC, allows one to see that that women assume that guys understand what is going on with them. Which is not true, guys can’t read your mind and we don’t expect you too read ours. You communicate by telling guys concisely what is the issue.

2) Pot meet kettle. Both sexes are flaky, just as a majority of the population isn’t too bright and also flaky. As if it isn’t clear to anyone over the age of 5, people are flaky when they don’t care. He’s just not that into you, then he will be flaky. Just like a girl will blow off a guy she doesn’t care about. “When you want to do something you’ll find a way, when you don’t you’ll find an excuse.” Nuff said.

3) Men need to feel like men? There’s no way they are wired for that. It’s no so much a need to feel needed as it is more better suited for the task. For example, who’s more well suited for picking up something heavy? Who’s a better driver in general? (j/k) Good thing there’s lots of wussy girly boys for girls like you who don’t want real men. It almost seems like the people who believe men and women are the same want girly boys.

4) So women won’t look at brad pitt or chippendale dancers walking around? Men may be visual creatures but their not the only ones.

5) Who statistically makes more $? Regardless of the reason, making more results in more power. Want to talk about wasteful spending? Do the names Gucci and louis vuitton ring a bell? Paying thousands for a bag just so you can feel better than other girls? Guys don’t know crap about purses so it doesn’t make you any more attractive and can even signal high maintenance OR even financially irresponsible! Oh and 30+ pairs of shoes while guys have a couple of pairs? At least the shoes can make you look attractive…

Bottom line is that a vast majority of the population is not financially responsible. Just look at how many people don’t have the discipline to use a credit card responsibly. (See CC article about debit cards).

Conclusion:
Men and women are different. Expecting the same behavior from men and women is a stupid expectation and assumption.

JW says:
Mon, 23rd Mar 20095:37 pm 

Oh yay, another typical male bashing female who thinks every guy came from the exact same mold and there for acts the exact same way as every other guy out there. Not only is your article sexist, it is not original by any means and no thought was put it into it. In other words, more research is done on the stories you find in the tabloids than what you did here.
Allow me to shed some light that many ( not all) women not only hate to admit, but will deny it to their dieing breath. That is simply women can be and often are , worse than men. I am sorry I do not want to hear about how your friend broke a nail today at work, but that does not give you the right to say I don’t care. When a woman forgets something or makes a mistake, most men do not make her feel utterly useless. In fact guys I know try to comfort the woman and tell them its ok to where most women will not let an issue go and brow beat guy over something even as simple as “that pot does not go there! How many times do I need to tell you the non-stick pots go over here!” Never mind a thank you for taking the time to try and clean up or the fact he tried to give you a break and cook dinner you just ate. Since you love statistics, here is a couple of real ones, not ones you thought up. In todays society, stay at home DADS ( thats right..the guy) is/has become more common than stay at home moms. Not to mention Roughly 90% of male suicide (mostly in teenagers) is due to issues with the opposite sex, aka, women. So you see, I have already placed you in the “worse than men” category because apparently to you men are toys ready to be tossed once you are fed up or bored with one.

now lets talk about what you listed shall we? You complain men do not remember what is important to you. Granted, if most guys marked their date books with reminders etc they would recall things better. Many a female has told me they recall things ( dates etc) because they have it marked on their calendar, which is fine, I know plenty of guys who do the same thing.However, I have had women, even the cheating spouse of mine ( but you said guys are the sex mongers right?) forget my birthday or even me come home with flowers and say happy anniversary and she says really? is it? And she was not joking. Memory is selective as well as circumstantial. You can wake up in the morning and go, ok I need to do this today, turn around and have a tressed out day at work and all you can think of is I jus want to get home, only to get home and then go, oh crap…

Flakey? Ok maybe its my age, but flakey means something completely different than how you use it. Every single one the guys I know, has been stood up ( aka as you put it, had his date flake out on him) To say one sex is more prone to this than the other is sheer non-sense for this is something BOTH sexes are extremely guilty of, and any one who says diffent is just trying to put down the other, end of story.

Your feel needed syndrome is something that has been programmed into REAL MEN. How do you tell you have a real man, or as I like to call us, Gentlemen? He will open the door for you. He will pull out your chair, he will want to spoil you, buy you things, TREAT YOU like the treasure he sees you as. It sounds like you want the punks, or the children as I call them, that say “what your legs broke? get your own damn drink”. In short, the problem with you is not men, but your choice in them.

Ahhh sexuality in women, hehe Now I get to repeat some things. First off, and I will probably get stoned to death for letting this real life bit of information leak out, but be that as it may, it is a proven fact women are JUST as sexual as men. According to today’s statistics are even more prone to CHEAT than a man. My ex-wife is My ex for this very reason, she only knew how to keep her legs closed when at home. One of the others who left comment made a valid point as well. You mean to tell me you can honestly say you have never looked at someone like say, oh I don’t know, Johnny Depp or Vin Diesel or some “hot” guy, or girl, it is the new age after all, on the street and not talk to your girl friends about them? I will call you a spinster to your face if you wish to try to convince any one with at least one brain cell that works of this non-sense. You think its insulting that guy wants to buy you dinner or treat you like a decent individual by opening doors or offering to carry the groceries for you? We are not saying you are weak, we are trying to be helpful because, despite some, as well as yours apparently, beliefs, gentlemen really do exist. Again I say, men are not your problem in life, its the boys you select.

Money , you have got to be kidding me on this one. Lets step into the typical stereotype for a moment then mention statistics shall we? Who is it that it is said loves to go shopping? Answer, women. Now funny as it may be, again statistics actually state women do more shopping than men. Statistics also show men are better shoppers than women why? Not because we look for the buy one get one free bargains that many women play victim to ( buy a $100 pair of shoes and get a second pair at half price and the third pair free. Am I the only one who is going, your still spending 150 bucks on shoes that you can get 60 to 80 at easy spirit, wal-mart or some other place that has decent or nice shoes at affordable prices?), no. Men are considered pin point shoppers. In other words, we go to the store, we know what we are there to get. We get it and we get out. You send us to the store for bread and milk, we will come home with, omg, bread and milk.Yet we get home only to hear you chew us out because we did not bring home toilet paper, Mr. Clean, pine sol, eggs, bacon, juice, soda, chips, dip, ranch, salad dressing, steaks, hamburger, salt, pepper and cat litter.

My advice to you is simple. Next time you decide to do an article, research it first and second, stay away from your own opinions. For you know what they say about opinions…

Mignon Ariel King says:
Mon, 23rd Mar 20094:43 pm 

I really want to say something about perpetuating sexist stereotypes, but you're totally right. Oh, well, I love them anyway–especially their flakiness, bad memories, and need to be needed Thanks for making me laugh!

Jen says:
Wed, 25th Mar 20095:22 pm 

Sure the article is perpetuating stereotypes, and there are many mannyyyy exceptions, but the stereotypes exist for a reason. And it's funny! Get over it! =)

Anyway, i think some things about men that many women complain about are great because men and women are supposed to be different and they complement each other. With the memory bit, it's a fact that, not women, but feminine people (so this includes homosexual men), have larger corpus callosum's (up to 14X bigger) than masculine people (including homosexual women) because feminine people use both sides of their brain more, resulting in better listening and talking skills. This is a generalization though.

And also, with men feeling the need to be men, I think this is just their way of showing they care. Women often show intimacy by talking and sorting through feelings, while men tend to offer instrumentality- trying to do things for you and solve problems for you.

I don't think genders should just 'put up' with each other, it's better to truly understand where we're coming from.

Shea says:
Wed, 8th Apr 20097:04 am 

Seriously if you don't like stereotypes just shut up and don't read anything on this website (i don't know if this is new to you but nothing is going to change because of some person ranting on how this article is sexist)…so just exit out of this page any other blog, turn off the tv, close the cosmo, men's mag, etc… this pop iconic world is full of stereotypes and this article was meant to poke fun not meant to be taken ridiculously seriously.

Leo says:
Tue, 23rd Jun 20098:20 pm 

I was going to have this big angry post but kudos to JW you beat me to it and did it well. Good work sir.

Now Jen… do you really think that we should be taking this as a joke. If I wrote an article that said women were whiny and emotional, never shut up about irrelevant things, spend too much money on unnecessary items, like to complain more than make things work, and are just weaker and less intelligent than males (i.e. an article seriously proposing female stereotypes as being true) you would not be saying that I should just brush it off as a joke. You would do what women do best… complain (j/k).

This does sound a little mean on re-reading so I'm sorry, but rewording it entirely would lose some of the meaning and I don't wish to do that. Sorry.

Now interestingly a new study was done that actually proves the male corpus callosum is larger than the female, which is basically because of the overall larger size of the male brain. Now if your study took proportions into account then it is probably still accurate, this is just what I read.

Memory, however is in the Hippocampus so… that is kinda unrelated.

I do like that you are trying to stick up for us men though so I won't nit pick too much :p

And you got right the being nice thing. We really just want to make you all happy and keep you safe and protected from bad people and bad things. In other words we care and this is the best way we know how to show it. It's too bad that there is a new school of thought that this is unacceptable, it really is sad.

Yes! Understanding is what is key. Putting up with differences isn't helpful- it promotes misunderstanding and causes anger.

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MrSmartyPants says:
Wed, 19th Aug 200912:19 pm 

Here's the thing about women… they whine and whine and talk about their feelings… yackity yackity yack.

All we men want is a beer and a sandwhich so how's about doing what you're told and getting us those two items with less attitude and more puttin' out?

J says:
Sat, 30th Jan 20101:35 pm 

I'd just like to say that I'm dating a guy who is NOTHING like this. Some guys actually respect women and when they don't they should be dropped. How 'bout we NOT encourage douchbaggery?

A MAN says:
Thu, 27th May 201012:33 am 

I AM SPEAKING MY MND AND THATS COMPLETELY SEXIST

Not all modern men act like that, Many men today have been brought up with girl and understand them more and there can also be Women who act like this!! You as a writer probably do. I for instance was brought Up bothering with girls and well I dont act like this! But yet I dont know how to act arround girls to get one or I dont know how to act arround boys because I bothered with girls! So shut it you loud mouth who probably wrote this because you just broke up with somebody!

Personallity is the thing that counts grr STUPID

And If I did a sexist column about women like this you wouldnt be too pleased yourself! Its rude and ignorant! I noticed that some girls forget things!

STUPID WRITER!