5 Common Myths About Sex

March 28, 2009 5:00 pm     Posted in Relationships, Sex  Elizabeth-Baruch College g+ page


By Elizabeth

There are a plethora of factors separating teenagers from adults. You know you’re an adult when you start practicing various combinations of adult-like things. Paying your own bills, making important decisions by yourself, working, and having sex, amongst other things, encompass adulthood.

But when you’re a teenager looking onto your sexuality from afar, you’ll believe just about anything you’re told about sex, particularly if you’re being told by someone who has actually had it. Once you merge further into your adulthood and sexuality, though, you start to realize that a lot of things you were told about sex (or made to believe in some other way) are bullsh*t.

Some of the biggest myths about sex:

1. Men want sex more than women.

Um, no. There are always exceptions, yes. BUT, lots of women love lots of sex. Do women always love sex with a guy who’s being a punk? Nope. Do women always love sex when they’re exhausted or emotional? Nope. But none of this has to do with how much women want sex. In fact, I almost always want more sex than my boyfriends do.

2. Size doesn’t matter.

It doesn’t matter to everyone. But, sadly, size does make a difference. Sure, it’s ‘not about the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean’, yada yada yada. But, that will only get a guy so far if he’s greatly lacking in size.

3. Women don’t like porn.

Untrue. Not all women like porn, but saying women don’t like porn is about as barbaric as saying women don’t fart, either. While I completely respect the fact that some ladies view porn as derogatory toward women, I simply don’t (fully) agree. And I, last time I checked, am still a woman.

4. You can’t get pregnant when ______.

Here are some facts: You CAN get pregnant on your period. You CAN get pregnant if he pulls out. You CAN get pregnant from standing up sex, as well as shower sex. You CAN get pregnant while using condoms, the pill, or any other form of birth control other than abstinence.

5. Men can’t feel anything with condoms.

Men can feel stimulated with condoms on. Is it the same, or even close to the same, as how sex feels for them without a condom? No, but that doesn’t mean that condom sex has to suck. I’ve been having it for years and the men are always satisfied. With that said, if a guy gives you a problem about having sex with a condom, offer him no sex at all in exchange. There are far too many STDs running rampant these days to risk it, plus having sex without a condom increases the risk of pregnancy greatly. Are you really ready for that?

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38 Comments on "5 Common Myths About Sex"

  1. Casey says:
    Sat, 28th Mar 20092:11 pm 

    Great post! although I don't think having sex should be included in entering the world of adulthood since now a days most 13 year olds have lost their virginity, but none the less good post.

  2. maddie says:
    Sat, 28th Mar 20095:58 pm 

    are there really that many guys with wing wongs so far below average that size should really ever be an issue? of course there are exceptions but i feel like most men have got to be within whatever the 'normal' range is. size can't matter THAT much if there isn't that much variation in size to begin with.

  3. Casey says:
    Sat, 28th Mar 20097:18 pm 

    Most men are around 5 inches. Only 15% of men are bigger than 7 inches and only 3 percent of men are bigger than 8 inches. And let me tell you, the difference between the 5 and the 8 is a big one. True MOST of the nerves that make sex feel good are in the first 3 inches, but there are some nerves that only those bigger guys can reach that make your orgasm even greater.

  4. Anonymous says:
    Sat, 28th Mar 20099:08 pm 

    Most 13-yr-olds have NOT lost their virginity.

    I'm 18, a freshman in college, my friends and I are attractive, fun young adults … and I am a virgin, as are many (not all, by any means, but many) of my them.

    Check this article out (I know nothing about the website, so if its anything bizarre, sorry, but the article itself is relevant): http://www.beliefnet.com/News/2001/08/One-Third-O…

  5. Jess says:
    Sun, 29th Mar 20095:37 am 

    Size definitely matters.. but to me it's more about width than length.

  6. Belinda says:
    Sun, 29th Mar 20091:56 pm 

    Allot of women don't watch porn with their partners, merely because they feel they are not as beautiful as the "models" used in the porn industry. They feel they are being compared to the models and it makes them feel jealous and angry. I think that is where the myth comes from. Most women are sensual and sexual and would enjoy porn at the right time and place. I've been there and soon realized that porn is there to enhance the mood and prolong the session. I honestly think partners must be more open minded and share their thoughts and fantasies with each other, communication is the key to open many doors in a sexual relationship.

  7. Michael says:
    Mon, 30th Mar 20092:57 am 

    wait. WAIT. WAIT!

    women fart?

  8. Sarah says:
    Mon, 30th Mar 20092:20 pm 

    Re: The size thing – I knew this guy, years ago. Super confident, fun to look at, funny, loads of friends. And then one night I took him home with me and the dude had a thumb. In his pants. He had three thumbs total attached to his body. And I mean, it was hard, too. There's photographic evidence (don't ask).

    Wtf?

  9. Casey says:
    Mon, 30th Mar 20096:05 pm 

    Anonymous,

    I have a little brother, he is now 16, he has female friends over all the time. He has not had a single female friend in the past 3 years who is still a virgin. You are a freshman in college, you're not a thirteen year old girl. Things have drastically changed since we were that age and sex is (sadly) no longer an adult activity. The media (and sites like this) have glamorized sex so much that children are doing it. But I'm not blaming CC or the media, so don't go crazy on me, it is definitely the fault of bad parenting. Parents not keeping track of their children, or constricting their childrens internet access and what kinds of movies and shows they watch. And also "children" having children contributes greatly to the bad parenting pool.

  10. tightie says:
    Mon, 30th Mar 20096:27 pm 

    there are ways to have sex were you don't need a condom

    http://tightie.wordpress.com/2009/03/29/in_the_as…

    don't knock it till you try it

  11. Daniel says:
    Tue, 31st Mar 200911:25 am 

    OK I get that size matters and all but it seems to me girls don't really get the fact that we don't get to go dick shopping before birth.

  12. Michael says:
    Tue, 31st Mar 20094:11 pm 

    Thank god I'm in the upper 15%!

  13. Phat girl says:
    Wed, 1st Apr 20097:40 am 

    Well Daniel, we don't get to go boob shopping before birth either, however men have made such a thing about big ta ta's that breast augmentation surgery is now a billion dollar industry. If you want the type of girl who likes her man on the large size than submit yourself to some penis enlargement surgery like the ladies have done for years. If that's a little too much for you than go find a real woman who loves her man for who he is not what size he is only don't forget that goes both ways.

  14. Daniel says:
    Wed, 1st Apr 200911:04 am 

    That's all well and good and while I agree with you it's a two way street, breasts have a lot less to do with sexual pleasure than a penis. And I've certainly come across a lot more girls who won't even look at a guy if they aren't well endowed than guys who's standards involve breast size. And there's definitely a lot more mocking of the issue when it comes to girls towards guys than vice versa.

  15. Casey says:
    Wed, 1st Apr 20096:54 pm 

    Daniel,

    Are you kidding me!? That is the biggest load of bullshit I have ever heard! 1. We can't tell if you are well endowed until your pants are off, and unless they're just a whore, if a girl genuinely likes a guy then their penis size doesn't matter. You can tell a girls breast size just by looking at them (push up bras and padded bras don't do THAT much) And 2. When do girls mock a guys dick size? I have NEVER heard a girl mock a guys size unless it was a douchey ex, and in those cases it's usually not an accurate depiction of the guys size. But guys everywhere have ALWAYS mocked girls with small breasts. Umm HELLO "Itty bitty titty committee" You see it all through middle and highschool, the girls with small tits get made fun of, you see it on TV and in movies, the media even frowns on girls with small tits. Unless you are showing off your small wang no one will know how big it is.

  16. Mr. Matthews says:
    Thu, 2nd Apr 20097:15 am 

    Well, Casey's right about that. But I think there's still room for the extreme exception of the "Three Thumb Man". I think it would take a lot more than "likeing" a guy for that to go down. Also, I don't think that penis augmentation surgery could make your poor little buddies Mr. Knub Knub and Mr. Inch & one half into 9 inch mandingos. Just another extreme case.

  17. Skye says:
    Thu, 2nd Apr 20098:58 am 

    You know i think all the percentages about guys are wrong, that or im just lucky. Honestly ive done my share of whoreing around at college and only ever had one small dick… and he was able to please me just fine by using different sex positions than the norm.

    Dunno i just think the big dick thing is over rated.

    Shit if its TOO big (yes guys its possible) then you really dont want anything to do with it cause itll tear you up!!!

  18. Jay says:
    Thu, 2nd Apr 200911:28 am 

    "Women want as much sex as men" Oh, BULL! Then why do bars have Ladies Nights? Why are there a thousand female hookers for every male one? Go look at the personal ads on Craigslist and compare the number of M4W ads vs the W4M! So the author of this post likes to hump more than her boyfriend? Wow, ONE example, that's all the proof I need!

  19. Jay says:
    Thu, 2nd Apr 200911:31 am 

    Actually, this whole article is a pile of BS. It's just the author posting her personal opinions as divine Facts, and all it tells us about her is that she watches porn and has a vagina the size of a hallway.

  20. Casey says:
    Thu, 2nd Apr 20097:03 pm 

    Jay, I have always been hornier than my boyfriends. I have always wondered what the hell was wrong with them because "guys are supposed to be hornier than girls I thought. But until recently I hadn't found on that could keep up with me. As a girl (who has lots of girl talk with friends) I can vouch for the validity of this article.

  21. criolle johnny says:
    Fri, 3rd Apr 20095:08 am 

    Phat girl

    "boob shopping"? Western men are taken off of breast feeding too early and spend the rest of their lives looking for a hooter that will cover their entire faces.

    As for the "billion dollar industry" … Barbie is almost perfect and mostly plastic. She also ends up in a drawer when someone gets tired of her because she has no personality.

  22. Peter says:
    Sat, 4th Apr 20098:03 am 

    Dear author,

    above this Post there is a trackback to my own blog. I really feel offended by the fifth point you have written and I have written an answer to you.

    Here is the Link to my Blog Response: http://tinyurl.com/degej5

    Bye, Pete

  23. Illeanna says:
    Sat, 4th Apr 20098:18 am 

    Pete,

    You are an idiot.

  24. Peter says:
    Sat, 4th Apr 20099:01 am 

    pfft.. what a clever comment.

  25. peterpiksa says:
    Sat, 4th Apr 200912:46 pm 

    Casey,

    having women exposed to diseases or pushing them into direction of pregnancy was not my intention, neither offending you as a women. By the way, how can you say I were subjecting them to pregnancy while its not only a womens job to deal with a kid. I mean a guy takes responsibility for a kid just the same way a women does – so therefore its guys AND womens interest that the women does not get pregnant. Every man with loyalty and selfesteem would take care not to cause a pregnancy!

    I find very interesting that you point out I did not offer an alternative. In fact I did not think about an alternative when i wrote my response. Sad but true: I dont see an alternative after all. I mean theres a superb pregnancy-preventing thingy that my ex girlfriend had. Its a plastic like 3cm stick thats placed under the skin in your arm – lasts for three years and costs about 300-350€ (about 400-480$) and has not as many side effects as other stuff a girl can take. Unfortunately it does not keep away diseases.

    You complain I was subjecting girls this, subjecting them that. All this sounds like guys were not subject to AIDS and STD's .. I mean whats the point?! Guys put their healthyness at risk just the way girls do – we are dealing with just the same problem basically.

    What my resonse is all about is that I am asking women to understand and show some sensitivity to man who have a serious problem in using condoms.

    You can trust me one thing – and that should make many thoughts unnecessary:

    Do you actually think, we would complain about condoms so much (and put the opportunity to score at risk) if it was not such a problem? If it was just about 15% more joy 99% of man would say "Aw fuck it, Ima put the condom on as long as we can get to it!"

  26. Casey says:
    Sat, 4th Apr 20092:50 pm 

    Pete, I don’t see what you found so offensive about her 5th point. I read your response and you basically just agreed with her. She said of course sex doesn’t feel the same or anywhere near as stimulating with a condom on, which is what you were arguing women who want to use a condom, don’t take into account.

    You never offered an alternative. What do you expect women to do? Subject themselves to pregnancy and STD’s all for the sake of a man’s (that they may or may not know or care about) pleasure? Of course condom sex isn’t AS good. But you know what? Pushing a screaming kid out of a hole the size of a dime certainly doesn’t feel good (and neither does raising a kid you’re not prepared for) and I am assuming dying of AIDS doesn’t feel good, and genital warts probably don’t feel good, herpes and syphilis are probably no picnic either.

    So pete, women should suffer these painful experiences so that men can have full pleasure? THAT offends ME.

  27. zooz,(male) says:
    Mon, 6th Apr 20093:19 am 

    we should enjoy the sex as natural as its , we can avoid pregnancy if wanted to , but why to lose somthing enjoyable which was offered to all humanity by God,how did man did it 100's of years ago without condoms and managed it !!

    as a human being I rather have natural sex without condoms…

  28. 123 says:
    Mon, 6th Apr 20098:35 am 

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  29. Casey says:
    Tue, 7th Apr 20098:17 am 

    zooz, hundreds of years ago people rarely lived past their 30's because of such diseases. Have you ever seen "The Libertine" with Johnny Depp? Pretty disturbing movie. Or how about "From Hell" (another Johnny Depp movie)STD's ran rampant "hundreds of years ago" we didn't "manage" we DIED! DUH! If you were referring to "hundreds of years ago" as in caveman times or something, there weren't STD's that long ago, so that's how they "managed". And take this on for size, the reason we STILL have STD's is because people won't learn to put on a fucking condom! Have a little common sense before you write stupid comments like that.

  30. Casey says:
    Tue, 7th Apr 20097:30 pm 

    peter, Sadly in America often if a man doesn't care about the woman and they were just "hooking up" he will leave her to deal with the baby, but yes, it SHOULD be both of their problem if the woman gets pregnant. And I wasn't insinuating that men don't get STD's and don't have to protect themselves from them, But you did not make that sound like a concern of yours or other men with this problem that you speak of so I was jut pointing out that those men are putting women's health at risk (if the men are willing to risk it then it must not be their #1 concern) I realize (as do most women) that it doesn't feel nearly as good for some guys (other have no problem) but you agreed there is no alternative. So the only thing I can say is make sure both you and the girls you are hooking up with are clean, get tested after every girl you sleep with and make sure every new girl is tested before you sleep with them. Although no one can be trusted, even in a relationship, and if either of you cheat on each other it heightens your chances of getting an STD greatly. There really is no fool proof way but to be honest, clean, partners. Unfortunately that is hard to find in today's society.

  31. Laa Laa says:
    Wed, 15th Apr 20092:16 pm 

    SIZE DOES MATTER SORRY LIL FELLAS HAHAHA

  32. jazyl says:
    Tue, 21st Apr 20091:46 am 

    good

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  33. Random Dweeb says:
    Tue, 9th Jun 20095:21 am 

    so then casey, what do guys who don't even have the 3 inches do? just give up on satisfying their girlfriends and feel sorry for themselves ? 0.o if so… kinda feel bad for them…

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