amanda says:
Sun, 5th Apr 200910:12 am 

viva la single life.

Honestly, being single is so much easier.

Jes says:
Sun, 5th Apr 200912:47 pm 

it is easier, but who doesn't love a challenge? I consider myself very independent as well as very headstrong. Don't get me wrong, I love the single life. But when you find the right person you can still have all the benefits of the single life as well as those that come with a great relationship! This is also the reason I am a big fan of temporary ldrs… but of course the only way something like that works is an amazing amount of trust and loyalty to the relationship.

k says:
Sun, 5th Apr 20094:52 pm 

Independence! I like to go where I want with who i want without having to let a "boyfriend" know.

Casey says:
Sun, 5th Apr 20095:01 pm 

I used to be the same way, but then I met my boyfriend and we're basically the same person, we just have opposite parts Couple life is sooooo much easier when you find the right person. And trust me you don't have to look for Mr. Right. As long as you're doing the things you love and loving life you'll end up meeting your Mr. Right. I mean think about it. If you meet someone at a concert for a band you love, you already have that in common and chances are you'll have other things in common too. The key is to just do the things you're passionate about and you'll usually meet someone that's just as passionate as you.

Lila says:
Sun, 5th Apr 20095:35 pm 

I agree with Casey, besides having a realtionship doesnt mean you give up your life, well except maybe looking for guys to hook up with and such. Its all about fining the right person, a guy who compliments you and a guy who won't mind if you watch Little People Big World with him:) or if you don't shave your legs.

KK says:
Sun, 5th Apr 20096:39 pm 

Boyfriends = drama

and who has time for that? especially the immature guys that seem to congregate on university campuses.

overall, i find i just don't have enough time to deal with friends, boyfriends, pass classes and attempt to sleep. and for me, flings make the rest of my life much easier than boyfriends

Evan Goetz says:
Sun, 5th Apr 20098:23 pm 

you're all lesbians!!

Gay Guy's Girlf says:
Mon, 6th Apr 20097:20 am 

Casey, I would have agreed with you a few months ago on that. He's great until he drops his shitload.

Olivia says:
Mon, 6th Apr 20098:53 am 

I agree 1000% with all this! People always find it hard to believe that I actually enjoy being single, but it's for all these reasons above that I know that at this point in life I am just better off w/out a boyfriend.

Michael says:
Mon, 6th Apr 200911:00 am 

Wow. I can't wait to see those of you "independent" women in your 50s and 60s. Lonely with cats, dogs, fish or whatever. Not only do you suffer from disconnection when you alienate yourselves from the other half of human existence, it also causes festering failure in relating to men in all other walks of life as you age.

You're thinking short term.

Unless you're going to be a lesbian, which you probably to begin with if you truly agree with this article, you'll discover regret.

Also, it's a little of a paradox you face. Usually selfish gals are the ones that preach "independence" the way this article describes it. Yet, their selfish minds miss the free meals they used to let those 'looser guys' pay for. Oh what to do? Find a girl and make her wallet replace his. That's how you wind up discovering your inner lesbian.

Sad.

Leah - Ryerson Unive says:
Mon, 6th Apr 200912:45 pm 

Michael — This article is from a short term perspective. This is after a College website. I'm not saying that I never want to be in a relationship, just not right now.

So I don't think I'll be switching teams any time soon.

Salome says:
Mon, 6th Apr 20092:42 pm 

I've never had a boyfriend, and when I tell my friends about this they seem to want to rush to set me up with someone. I did spend the better part of my middle and high school years chasing after guys I found attractive, believing getting any cute guy was better than being single. However, now that I'm in college, it's easy for me to look around the selection of guys at the small music conservatory I attend and realize that I don't really want any of them (or, rather, none of the ones that are single ). Why should I sell myself short just for the sake of "having someone"?

So in essence, I'd totally love to have a boyfriend but I'm not so desperate as to go for just any guy who seems remotely cute and interesting. I don't see being in a relationship as so essential to my happiness that I need to lower my standards, so for now I'm happy to live the single life

sauer kraut says:
Tue, 7th Apr 20096:17 am 

Wow… funny reading until I got to Michael's. He's right about sad, tho. Especially when he sees himself in the mirror.

Thanks for that morning after link. Now I know what goes on behind the closed doors on Saturdays.

Jennifer says:
Thu, 9th Apr 20097:57 am 

Well said, Salome. I completely agree with your perspective.

Becca- Clarion Unive says:
Thu, 9th Apr 20099:41 am 

I'm kinda seeing a guy, I call him my manfriend, but really he's a great friend who takes me out and we sleep together. I HATE titles. I feel they totally ruin relationships…

neither of us are jealous, we see each other when i come home from school…

and it's a great time!

Ryu says:
Thu, 9th Apr 20097:45 pm 

I really admire you for that. I'm in that mentality 50% of the time- the 50 that I'm not in a relationship, of course. xD

A.G. says:
Tue, 14th Apr 20097:10 am 

i have to agree with you. Those are the same reasons I am not dating. i don't want to shave my legs. I never did when i was dating and don't plan to unless i feel like it. I am the same way, I am super independent but I also have the ability to get attached and i don't like when i become that clingy person. the pressure to have sex. i don't want sex and all three guys i have dated wanted sex as if it was a normal thing to do when dating someone. That's when I am trying to get to know a guy. The only thing I don't agree with is your idea of "fun". Fun to me is going to a movie,amusement park, or concent..not screwing some guy i barely know.

I like going to events I want to go to. I like making my own choices. I don't like feeling jealous or having to deal with a jealous boyfriend. It's just less stressful.

Tiffany says:
Wed, 15th Apr 20096:34 pm 

I totally understand where you're coming from. I don't want a boyfriend because of all the drama that comes with a relationship. I love being single and feeling free to do whatever I want!

Dane says:
Fri, 17th Apr 20096:34 am 

Seriously, who wants a boyfriend! I was engaged last year and I still don't know why. Now, 8 months later, I am really happy I didn't get married. From then on, I really wanted a boyfriend through all these months. Just recently, someone has shown lots of interest in me and I thought I could give it a try. We made it official, it's been 2 weeks but I AM SERIOUSLY GETTING SICK OF IT. I want to be my myself and the word "Relationship" bounces back and forth in my mind and I feel totally out of place. I miss my single life = NO DRAMA, no strings attached. Friends, friends, friends, that's all I want to have. I will break up with him soon, I don't know how to tho…

paige says:
Sun, 3rd May 200912:24 pm 

being attached does not mean there has to be drama, or jealousy, or possesiveness. i have been in a relationship for about two and a half years, since half way through my first year of university, and i would not have had it any other way. i still have the time to hang out with my friends and do what i want to do, but my boyfriend is my best friend and i love being able to experience school with him.

aaa says:
Thu, 4th Jun 20096:10 pm 

so i have been in a relationship that has lasted at least a year since i was 14. and in every single relationship, i would find myself wanting so badly to get out but i had gotten attached to these guys that it took forever to break up with them. i dated a guy for my whole highschool carrer… and that is the biggest thing i regret. he was extremely jealous and we faught badly all the time, but i was so attached to him. finally, a week before graduation, i called it off. i was moving off to college after that summer so it worked out awesome. i was single my first semester, but now, wouldn't you know… i am in a relationship. we've been dating since january and i am not happy. but i do not want to go through another break up…

over all, from the 8 months i had of being single was the happiest time of my life so far… i love being independent, having fun with my girls, and not having someone text or call me 24/7.

why be in a serious relationship when you are young when you should be having fun being single… because you will be married to someone for the REST OF YOUR LIFE, why waste this time when you could be descovering and loving yourself?

xxazngirlxx says:
Fri, 3rd Jul 20092:26 pm 

I just broke up with my boyfriend

but it's actually pretty darn true; being single gives me this whole new refreshing, weightless feeling. Nothing ties me down. I can check out any hot guy I want without feeling guilty; I don't have to always watch for what he's doing and what girls he's talking to (I get jealous easily, but I keep it cooped up inside and don't do/say anything about it); I can hang out with my friends without them teasing me about the guy and finally I can now talk to a lot more guys who don't have to worry about getting my ex jealous. It's just great, to sum it all up!

I turn 16 in a few more months.

It would be nice to have another caring boyfriend by then, but on the other hand, being single is a glorious feeling.

TREASURE IT before someone snatches you away again ;D

<33

bob says:
Sat, 4th Jul 200911:06 am 

no.

you're a stupid cunt.

Lexxie says:
Sun, 26th Jul 20092:47 pm 

Yeah, I have more fun being single and not being tied down. I've never been one for commitment, but maybe that will change when I'm done with college next year.

Jason says:
Thu, 13th Aug 20092:39 am 

From the other side of the fence.

Don't let anyone tell you that there is a good or bad time to have a BF, we are all unique, if your with the right person it will feel right and be right, with the right boy or girl you won't feel like your loosing out on anything at all.

I was 26 before I met the right girl,this wasn't through any concious decision, the girls I met before then in college and uni were the "oh do you have a car" types or air heads, others wanted to have sex on the first date, I may be "different" but not all men like sports or think about sex every minute of the day.

We met at a party talked for 5 hours as if no one else was in the room, three weeks later i sold my surround sound satalite system and we moved in together, 3 months later we got engaged, everyone told us we were making a mistake, that we were too young (she was 20) 10 months later she got ill, 6 months later we found out it was a rare form of cancer, now at this point an interesting thing occured, all my so called friends told me to ditch her, we weren't married no strings, that I didn't know what I was doing.

I ditched my friends and my work ended my career as a computer analyst became her primary carer its now 12 years later and we are still together.

Its funny though going by your selfish ideals and most of the girls selfish ideals I met in my time at college and uni, I should have dumped her….

At the same time remember this, my wife was healthy just 20 never smoked or abused her body in any way, lets just hope if something takes a swipe at your "free" lifestyle that your "friends" will be there if it happens to you.

As for jealousy, that only happens if your in the wrong relationship, early on I found out my wife was bisexual and as I said to her "cool I like girls too" she has been free to have female partners all that has ever mattered to me is her being happy, it doesn't affect or bother my male ego, we are actualy blessed now to have a wonderful woman in our relationship for the last two years and all three of us live together.

I wish you all well, i'm just kind of sad to see some of the opinions here.

R says:
Sun, 23rd Aug 20093:13 pm 

Too much WORK. Rather spend it on myself.

John Paul Pope says:
Mon, 21st Sep 200910:12 pm 

Jason…you are a motherfucking saint. Seriously. Love is what life has to offer, if nothing else, and is in fact the meaning of it all, in my humble opinion. No religion required.

Yes. It is difficult to find "the one", as they say. And, most guys/girls are assholes, and will not deliver you with the respect you deserve. Nevertheless, relationships ARE worth pursuing. For one, no one could possibly be happy meeting their maker (however that is defined) alone. Growing old with someone you love is essential to ultimate happiness. Go ahead, make me an argument to the contrary, I dare you. I dare you to comprehend being happy whilst dying alone.

I can understanding valuing independence, especially from those young women/men who are of college age. But believe me, both claiming a true and pure feeling of independence AND being in a wonderful, loving relationship are not qualities which are mutually exclusive. Take it from someone who has both truly loved, and lost, at that same age.

Unless you are in someway fundamentally evil and undeserving of love, you WILL find someone who makes you feel secure, safe, happy, independent, loved, beautiful, AND, above all, fulfilled.

Mark Anthony says:
Wed, 21st Oct 20092:42 pm 

I think most of the woman here are being selfish. Yeah it does take a lot of effort to be in a relationship especially at a young age, and I’m one to talk I met my first true love when I was a sophomore in high school. She was a freshman and i was in a relationship at the time (which severely complicated things, since i believed i loved the girl i was with). She had never really been in a relationship and i had only been in a few none longer than a month. But from the first time we saw one another I knew i was gonna be in some deep shit. I loved her and she loved me, but i was young a jock and i didn’t realize what to make of the feelings i had for her. So i dumped my girlfriend and started to date this new girl but being the dumbass i was, i started to fool around with my ex. And the love triangle began to spin as i added more girls to the mix, i had a problem i loved the feeling of having all these eyes on me. Then one day I dropped all the girls and took a vacation to the Dominican republic. Of course here i met more girls and began to fall for them I was such a fool, but i truthfully enjoyed it the independents, the freedom, and the ability to do what i want when i wanted. But that was completely selfish, because yea i met lots of people, had memories, and experiences that would stay with me forever but it was all for me… I had hurt all those women i was hooking up with because they actually cared for me and for some reason i was scared to give them my heart. So i came back to the states for another semester of high school. I saw a lot of old faces and some new ones, but the one face that stood out was the face of my love we’ll call her “Ann” she was of course drawn to me and with my selfish teenage brain i hooked up with her and shot her down not even a couple weeks later. But what did i care my school had a student body of 4300+ students and with 58% of them girls what did one matter. So I continued my onslaught of relationships which would some how always lead me back to Ann. I had no intention of staying with her for too long (I don’t know even to this day if I was scared of commitment or just not interested at the time; by the way at this moment in my life i did love her but since i had never experienced live prior to this i didn’t know what it meant). Then one day I don’t even remember what happened but we got together and i aloud this bottled up emotion out, I showed her that I loved her and she embraced it we where glued to one another, the only problem was that she didn’t really make very good friends. So while i was out hanging with the guys she was calling me hour after hour just wanting to hear my voice. My friends thought she was crazy but for some odd reason I loved her for it (it was like i loved her every flaw no matter how needy or over the top it was). Then about a year and a half went by I was in college and she was in her senior year of highschool, she broke it of with me she had found another guy. I was crushed, she just wanted to be friends and by then we where best friends, but i told her i couldn’t be her friend we had to many memories together. So she agreed and that should have been the end of our relationship. But it wasn’t; around 3-4 weeks later she started to call me (by this time I was pretty much over her, through the counseling of my friends and the support of my family). I would pick up her calls, chat with her for a bit but not for too long, since she did brake my heart. Then one night I get a call and it was Ann saying: “Can you come over I need to talk to you?” and a now more independent me said: “Maybe”. But of course i showed up I loved this girl, and I new i needed to be by her side. She was standing at the end of her driveway arms crossed, head facing the sky, and her eyes where shimmering like diamonds in the moonlight as her tears rolled down her cheeks. I walked towards her not embracing her for fear of what she had to say. And then she told me “I miss you, I made a mistake, I don’t know what to do without you?”. I took a breathe allowing the waterfall of emotions settle and I said to her “I missed you too!” from then on we began to rebuild what we had lost and of course me trusting her now became an issue and she still may have had trust issues with me since i had played with her heart so much in high school. We worked through it and took it day by day, and i prayed for the best to come. And we actually ended up moving to the capitol of Florida to go to school we lived in a co-ed dorm and met a lot of great people it was a new and fun experience for the both of us. She had now made some friends and though i had left most of mine back home i was able to make new ones that I really got along with. We grew closer to each other with each passing day and the only real problem we had was the feeling of being homesick more-so for me then for her (I had a really close bond with my parents, but Ann was closer to them by being further away). So nearing the end of summer we headed home and the saddest thing is we never went back to the capitol, due to financial issues I was unable to re-attend school there. But she stayed with me back home but off course we were both heart broken because the capitol was like are new home that we had made together. So now a more critical problem began to rear its head, she was starting to feel confused a couple months after summer. Memories of what had transpired before began to rear there ugly head and I tried everything in my power to consult her and help her make the right decision for the both of us, which is tough since human beings in nature are selfish and to have the assertiveness and strength of mind to consider another person in your future is almost unheard of, because the only real thing that Ann and I really had for one another was Love and that isn’t something that is physical you cant put it on paper its only meaning resides in ones heart. So we worked through it and our relationship became stronger for it.
Now lets fast forward to present day one month ago. Ann is yet again feeling this confusion she is worried about my well being and as were getting older and closer to finishing college she is uncertain about the stability of our future together. But this time an insecure me begins to think that we are gonna fall through the cracks and even though we have been dating for over 5 years we may not be able to survive this test, and we push and pull one another and with the rope of love getting thinner by the day we make the worst mistake of our relationship we stop calling one another, we stop seeing one another, and in the end I am left questioning what to do. Then 5 days go by and I see her in class and I ask her how she is doing and she says to me the one thing I never wanted to her come from her lips again, “I just want to be friends”. She said she needed to be single no boyfriend, just friends and she wanted to find herself. I new that was one thing that she had always lacked was friends other than myself because even though our friendship seemed strong, one person can never be everything to someone. Its a lot of stress and even though I believed i could be her everything it ended with me not knowing what to do. I was crushed yet again by the same girl, and I know I’m probably foolish to still love her what else can I do. I have a great group of friends, a close, strong, supportive family, and I am sure of myself and what I want in life. And even though I have gone up and down countless times with this girl I believe I would do it all over again, because that’s life we have to take the good with the bad and even though right now i’m feeling more down than I ever have before I also feel like the last 5 years weren’t a waste they were the best years of my life so far. And this is why I don’t agree with you, I think that relationships are beautiful and to take yourself away from one is almost sad. The greatest gift in life is the love shared with another person, its a love that no one can take away from you, I know it hurts if it doesn’t work out and no one ever wants to be hurt but the fact that I even feel this pain right now makes me feel almost special, I feel like I was given what I’ve always wanted “True Happiness” and no one can ever take away the memories we shared.

Julie says:
Sat, 14th Nov 20092:40 pm 

Y'know, I've dated, never had a relationship…My mom keeps pushing me to have one, but the thing is, everytime I have a guy who I could be in a relationship with, I just…don't want to. Aren't relationships supposed to make you happy? I never feel happy =/

E. Blink says:
Sun, 15th Nov 200912:56 pm 

I was in a horrible relationship for about 5 months. It was really nice at first and we were really into each other. But soon I became his slave rather than his girlfriend. He couldn't trust me so he had to TEST my loyalty with the dumbest things ever. I wasn't even allowed to hang out with my girl friends without him freaking out. He'd call me every day and talk until midnight. And if I happened to fall asleep on him I'd get a bunch of shit the next day. The list goes on and on. It was just so stressful…

The worst of it was when he cheated on me with my best friend. And he wasn't sorry at all.

Now I just want to forget him and forget having a boyfriend. It really is so much more fun to be single. I love the freedom. I'm not saying I'm off guys for life. And I know not everyone is like my ex of course. Dating would be nice and I do enjoy the chase but I refuse to be tied down.

Jessica says:
Sat, 6th Feb 20106:09 pm 

I really hate having to talk on the phone. I feel obligated to talk on the phone when I have a boyfriend. So annoying! Also, sometimes I want to dress sexy. You can't go out with your girls dressed sexy when you have a boyfriend.

Tamara says:
Mon, 8th Feb 20101:34 pm 

Wow, Gary, you really are sexist. "Know your position"? Bite me.

Gary says:
Mon, 8th Feb 20103:41 pm 

Hi.
I think that all of you are very normal. I also think that most of the girls here have a lot more experience to gain before they can be happy. I don’t believe that means experience = sleeping with guys tho. I will try to keep my points brief so that maybe you can walk away with a better chance at reaching your goals. However, if u don’t please don’t get irritated at my point-of-view… Just right it off as bad advice that doesn’t fit your plan. That being said …

1. Be reasonable – this is hard for most women, but if you can get the basics of cause and effect, then you have a much better chance @ understanding of the male mind.

2. Know your position – Independent women are only good for booty calls and cheating. Like feeling sexy for women; feeling needed (ie. providing)is a major aspect of the male psyche. However, taking advantage of someones generosity has never been ethical.

3. Hookers are whores. Prostitutes are hookers. Call girls/escorts are prostitutes. And strippers are glorified call girls/escorts – If you do not agree with this then therapy could probably be beneficial to you and will probably explain previously failed relationships. Rule: Don’t be a whore.

4. Love is not wrong – This is a big one with young people. I am in my 20′s and when I fall in love with a girl, I feel like I am not allowed to. Girls, it has to stop! It has been the job of women to spread love in this cruel mad world since the beginning of time. If you can have sex with a stranger, then damn it, you can love your bf/gf. Quit letting the whores convince you otherwise.

5. Another persons shoes thing – My ex cheated on me. She did what a lot of girls use as an excuse. She dressed sexy and went out with her Gf’s to a club or bars. This shows no respect to your BF and is only inviting problems. I never missed out on anything but a hangover by not going out prowling with my guy friends when I was involved. NOTHING! EVER! Quit using it as an excuse to be promiscuous. Dress sexy and go out with him.

Okay, so those are some of my basics of relationship advice. You should think about that when you are in one or looking for one. I think that you should keep them in the back of your mind when you are single too. But this article is about being single right? So here is some single advice

1. Be single – that means 1. It also means alone. Banging guys on the weekend is not single, that’s being easy. If you can’t do that, then my other advice be more beneficial to you.

2. You are not a guy – Seriously? Do not act like the perceived lowest-common-denominator-guy. All this is doing is helping the douche bags get laid more often with less effort and rewarding the toys-r-us kid mentality.

3. Good wallpaper makes for a healthy mind – Surround yourself with either healthy single girls (workaholics, studyholics, physically active types) or healthy relationship friends (the ones that act like they are married, lol). This will set you up for success when you do get involved down the road.

Why? Cuz you will prob meet a cool guy you like when you are doing something that has value to you. And you will have that in common. Plus he is probably not whoring it up if he is regularly @ the library, working all the time, rock climbing or hanging out when couples hang out.

That was the last one. Sorry it was not really brief. I just can’t believe that the “better half” has given up. Please don’t. There are 2 generations now of marshmallows and douche bags that have no concept of what it is to be a Man. When sluts and girls become Women again, I think the Men will return. Until then I think my poorly expressed and okay-at-best advice will slightly increase you chances of happiness and getting one of the few Men out there.

If not I hope you laughed pretty good. Good luck girls.

“I love to love Women who love me. Love love love!”
- Me (in my sexy Man voice, lol)

heather says:
Wed, 10th Feb 20105:23 pm 

amen,tamara! why am i single? well, here's your easy answer: i hate men, and i'm not going to be married for 30+ years, then left with two kids. no thanks.

Lina says:
Thu, 18th Feb 201012:54 am 

We are not "cunts",nor Lesbians.OK with that?

First and foremost,I've never imagined my life with a boyfriend.

I got so used with my single life taht I just ignore all guys who try to have relationship or sex with me.

Second:It is not bad being single.I feel sorry for all those who just can't live without bf/gf and sex.

Life is not just about finding "THE ONE".There are plenty other things significant.

Right girls?

Michelle says:
Thu, 25th Feb 20104:35 pm 

Oh gosh, I feel the same way, but I've never met anyone who shared my viewpoint. I'm just not interested in the drama that comes with a relationship. Also, I don't want to be married, and I certainly don't want children, so what's the point in dating anyone? Dating is just looking for a mate, and if I don't want a mate, why should I date? I've been in relationships before, and I was never happy in them, even with a person I really was head-over-heels for. I'd rather be friends with more people and live my life for myself.

Tasha says:
Fri, 13th Aug 20107:21 pm 

Being the picky person that I am, sometimes its hard for me to fall in love with a guy if he is not my type, No matter how nice he may be. And there are those "popular" guys who are friends with many girls but they are also shallow and I don't think that we would be able to have a meaningful relationship.

Granted if I do meet the right person, life will be different. Some girls say it is more interesting to have a man. Whatever it is, I am not ready to give up my freedom. I have had too many bad experiences, and getting into another relationship is the last thing on my mind.

Peace. love. enjoy life to the fullest. A man does not define you. You define who you are & you deserve nothing but the best.

Sarez says:
Wed, 25th Aug 20105:45 pm 

Im happy I found this little forum type deal.

Mark Anthony, I read your whole … long… ass… post. To me it sounds like you were just addicted to female attention. Probably lacking some female attention in the up raising there ? Maybe not as well I should not judge

I cant really find the specific post Im referring to right now, but the person said something about feeling bad for people who need sex, and gf/bfs and such. Im in the EXACT same boat I pity people who NEED that so bad.

Single to me is being able to concentrate on your own problems in life I mean im 20 and ive been in two like 5 month relationships in my whole life, well 1 that lasted 1 month but im not counting that one. As a young adult having to choose my career , make money for school, car payments and everything else that a young adult struggles with a relationship on top, I really don't see why we would even need it. I always tell me friends, if your going to get a boyfriend or girlfriend ( alot of girl and guy friends ) make them make you want to be a better person, or something that doesnt impact you in a negative way.

Ive been labeled an attractive girl, blah blah blah ive heard it many times before but for cryin out loud. Does tha mean anything? I guess there IS that initial pull that drags you to someone and gives you an idea of there personality. But for real , I think i have a pretty kick ass personality, I have to see someone really appreciate me for me when it comes to being in a relationship , and with the raging amounts of testosterone in 20 year old guys you can barely get them to look up past your god darnit chest.

Im comfy being single because I do what I want, I dont need male attention Ive had plenty of it growing up with 7 brothers. LOVIN' single life, and until I find a guy that is decent thats how it is gonna be.

xoxo

Emily says:
Tue, 9th Aug 20118:36 am 

I feel so same waay .. except its not my mom its my friends . there all going out with people and they want me to go on dates with them , but i just dont want to start a relationship because im scared that i wont like the Guy and just ruin our friendship in the process .. it will just end badly :/

Cirrine says:
Mon, 26th Sep 20112:36 am 

I know some of you on here find it sad that people want to be single, because love is supposedly the meaning of life. But that’s only from your perspective, isn’t it? Everyone’s different, and you can’t say that the happiness you feel based on your past experiences will be the same for others.

I never want a husband. I never want children. It’s not a matter of simply being selfish (though I admit the reasons stated above are valid), but I’m a loner. It’s tiring to be with anyone because I can’t be myself – none of my friends or family members really understand me that well. Each person sees a different facade I put on for them…to seem normal, or whatever. But I’m shy, and underneath, I’m just a tad erratic in addition to downright weird. I hate being with others, not because of who they are or how they act, but because their presence is smothering. A close companion for life? Out of the question.

Saying that…I would not seriously mind dying alone. I wonder if that’s something you can comprehend? The feeling that, if you didn’t get away from people, you’d go insane? …

Tiff says:
Tue, 25th Oct 201110:31 pm 

I completely agree. Your reasons for not want a boyfriend is similar to mine in some ways but my main reason is because I have my life planed out form me, and AT THE MOMENT a boyfriend is not apart of it.
Anyways, I’m 16. Teenage relationships almost never work so why bother getting serious? There is nothing wrong with dating (you honestly do need it once in a while) but when you’re young it’s stupid to talk about marriage and kids when you don’t have anything else sorted out other than you’ll “be with that person for the rest of your life” (haha, I’d love to see how that works for you, but if it does the congratulations!)
Some people might think it’s “selfish” to want to be independent and not want to get tied down when there is other things more important to you, but I honestly think that that’s SMART thinking. Why drag someone around if they don’t want to be while you could be happy on your own and so could the other person? In the end neither of you will be happy so being “selfish” might be better in the long run.
But I personally think that when we get older our minds will change, and I know mine will. I WANT to get married, I WANT to be a mother, I WANT to grown old and grey with my husband and have twenty grandchildren. I just don’t want to be in a relationship NOW, not when there is other things more important, and when I’m twenty-four I know I will be open for a realtionship.

Abbie says:
Fri, 2nd Dec 20115:11 pm 

I agree with this soooo much! Especially the fact that life is NOT about finding someone. We can have more meaning in our lives than just the biological urge to populate the earth.

Nadine says:
Wed, 28th Dec 20114:45 am 

I've always felt this pressure to be in a relationship or at least actively date. People perceive me to be "closed-mind" and I have a hard time seeing it that way. I'm just not interested in being conventional in a lot of ways. I don't drink, go to many parties, hit up bars, etc. I find other people's lifestyles rather bizarre and always thought that it was the minority of people who had superficial relationships, but the older I get, the more I realize most relationships seem superficial. Depth is rare so why look for it every second of every day and actively go on dates. Let meaningful relationships blossom by being a healthy happy person. I'm very laid back about pursuing relationships…in other words lazy I guess. I'm not a slob, a kind person, and willing to have a friendly conversation. .

Nadine says:
Wed, 28th Dec 20114:45 am 

If that isnt enough, something seems wrong with the picture. Perfume, makeup, and an eye-catching outfit are all fluff…in a few seconds I'll be more focused on ur lack of confidence and need to constantly "have a good time" by spending it socially every second. Whatever happened to just doing what's right for you. One day soon I will be proud of the fact that I am different and not worry that society doesn't get what makes perfect sense to me

Athena P. says:
Mon, 9th Jan 201212:52 am 

It is easier being single. I can do whatever I want and no one is around to object. I can listen to whatever I want without being harassed or put down, I can eat when I feel like it, and I don’t have to put up with anyone’s annoying as all get out habits. Single is definitely the way to go. And relationships are way way too much work.

Courtney says:
Sat, 28th Jan 201210:26 am 

I completely 100% agree with you. I feel exactly the same way. I even really like this guy right now, but i still don't want a relationship. I feel like serious relationships are for later in life not when you're young. Its mentally draining and an unnecessary distraction. Guys like to say that girls are clingy, but in my opinion guys are worse in that sense. I don't want to constantly have my phone on me, and be checking in with someone to make sure its okay to do something. I also would have to think twice about everything i say or do to make sure i'm not "flirting" or saying anything that would make my boyfriend angry. I think just going with the flow, and being with someone when you feel like it, and having fun sometimes is a much better relationship than setting so many boundries and limits with the title "boyfriend." We're young, and thats when you're trying to figure things out for yourself; no time to worry about someone else all of the time.

Lakole says:
Thu, 9th Feb 20124:49 am 

I agree Courtney and Salome. I never had a boyfriend and don't really have a desire for one even though I can have a crush on the opposite sex but that doesn't mean that I want a relationship. I also don't really like men very much. Men are not much of a necessity to me. I hate the term boyfriend. The word boyfriend is much too childish and titles really causes many complications and seems like a man thinks that he owns you. I don't want my life dictated by a man. So much infidelity and domestic abuse (mostly men that commits these). I almost know what its like to have a boyfriend. I don't want to have any emotional attachments with no one but myself. Why do people feel like they need relationships anyway? I rather have passions regarding my hobbies and career goals instead of depending on some man to take care of you. I can take care of myself. I don't need a man and I don't care what anyone else says.