Comments on: The Transfer Blues

By: smallgirlvsbigworld

smallgirlvsbigworld — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 16:01:36 +0000

I just transferred to Florida Atlantic University from my much smaller school in Connecticut, entering my junior year. Not only do I not know a single soul in my dorm or school, everyone I've ever met is at least 1300 miles away. Fresh start doesn't begin to cover it. As far as the transfer blues, just don't spend your time wallowing in them; and the best way to do that and make new friends is to distract yourself by getting involved!
What's helped me so far is just wondering around campus trying to be friendly and check out where all the major buildings are. Also, grab an events calendar from the student union or your dorm office and highlight anything that even remotely interests you. Bonfires, frat/sorority recruitment, fitness classes, any campus group sponsored entertainment.. Show up with a smile and leave your fear behind you.
I'm on my fourth day of classes and haven't made too many friends but I can already say I'm friendly with a few people. And I have no doubts that joining a group/sport and staying upbeat and friendly will attract more of the same energy from others.
Most Important: don't worry! This isn't high school where everyone knows everyone. It's college where there are hundreds or thousands (Depending on the school's size) of new students every semester, and even for the people who aren't knew – you can never have too many friends. =]

Embody Your Aspirations,
SmallGirl

By: poop

poop — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 04:41:34 +0000

I'm about to transfer and going by my mistakes at my old school, i'd say GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM. That was the biggest problem for me. Work in the studios (if it's an arty kinda school), hit the gym and be friendly (stretching is a good time to chat), chill outside on the lawn; when you're doing homework, try to do it in the library instead of your dorm room. Head to the dining hall when it's busy and you think you might run into someone you know….sit with them, meet their friends, network network network.

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By: BabyBear

BabyBear — Tue, 12 May 2009 06:58:18 +0000

You guys are over-thinking this. Just enjoy the fact that you’re transfering and get to enjoy the college life…and not about to be thrown into the horrendous work force in this economy. Accept this for what it is: a freakin’ blessing. Stop obsessing, and if you’re obsessing then you’re not in such a bad sit in my view.

Have fun worriers!

By: Jess

Jess — Sat, 09 May 2009 21:20:56 +0000

don't stress too much!! transferring can be scary in the beginning, but after the first couple of weeks you will start feeling comfortable and getting into the swing of things. it's true that it can be a little annoying living and working in the same place and seeing certain people from your classes all the time, but it can also create a really nice sense of community. it's nice to see familiar faces, and when you're in a new place it's comforting to just have people to say hello to.

in terms of roommates, it really depends on the kind of relationship you have with your friend. if you're both generally independent and capable of making friends on your own and doing separate activities, you should be fine. most of the problematic situations i've heard of come from roommates who do EVERYTHING together and then live in the same tiny room. it gets annoying, and you start noticing the most random things about them. every relationship needs a certain amount of space to stay healthy, so just try to remain independent and it will make your room a fun, safe space to share stories about your day.

the partying thing is something tricky, but it's an invaluable experience to learn your limits. college is the perfect time for that! and don't worry about people labeling you the crazy drunk girl…there will always be a lot of people making drunken mistakes, so even if you do have an embarrassing night, it will be forgotten by the following weekend. just try to go out with people you trust and pay attention to how you feel before it's too late and you're out of control. but have fun! you're only in college once

join some clubs, enjoy your classes, be friendly, and HAVE FUN!! good luck!

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By: Mwiza (zambia)

Mwiza (zambia) — Fri, 01 May 2009 01:13:40 +0000

Cnt realy say i ever went through that but i gues i cn equate your experience to going to boarding school though atleast there the were rules. I sufferd wit the whole roommate thing it was terrible the up in your stuf the finish your soap etc the break your iron until enough is enough bt hec i survivd. I gues to sum it up you wil b ok as long as you remeber who you are any why you went to that university o college remeber where you frm and o the pipo who would kil for your opportunites. So b wise careful on the parties n the drinking those could b a nasty downfal. AL THE BEST TO U GOING TO START NEW LIVES

By: Lily

Lily — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 17:28:08 +0000

it really depends on what college you are transferring to.

some are really transfer friendly like the big ones because even though your a transfer everyone gets kinda lost in the crowd so its not that hard to meet people. then theres the small colleges where everyone knows everyone and you will def be "that transfer girl" until you join something.

JOIN SOMETHING!

Don't let the fear of falling behind in school work or not finding the right clique keep you away from joining something! Club, sport, sorority do it and do it fast cause thats the best way to meet people