Comments on: The Transfer Blues http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 15:01:48 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Wanna Transfer? Here Are Your Options : College Candy http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-61222 Wanna Transfer? Here Are Your Options : College Candy Sun, 29 Nov 2009 22:01:58 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-61222 [...] expert, of course)  is to give your school a fighting chance before you go through the grueling process of transferring. But if you’re really unhappy, a change can be well worth [...] [...] expert, of course)  is to give your school a fighting chance before you go through the grueling process of transferring. But if you’re really unhappy, a change can be well worth [...]

]]> By: College Q&A: You Can Transfer If You Wanna : College Candy http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-59300 College Q&A: You Can Transfer If You Wanna : College Candy Sat, 07 Nov 2009 20:01:10 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-59300 [...] never felt at home at my first school, so I transferred. If you’re super miserable? Look into transfer options. In my heart I knew that my first college wasn’t the right fit for me, so halfway through [...] [...] never felt at home at my first school, so I transferred. If you’re super miserable? Look into transfer options. In my heart I knew that my first college wasn’t the right fit for me, so halfway through [...]

]]> By: BabyBear http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-32102 BabyBear Tue, 12 May 2009 06:58:18 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-32102 You guys are over-thinking this. Just enjoy the fact that you're transfering and get to enjoy the college life...and not about to be thrown into the horrendous work force in this economy. Accept this for what it is: a freakin' blessing. Stop obsessing, and if you're obsessing then you're not in such a bad sit in my view. Have fun worriers! You guys are over-thinking this. Just enjoy the fact that you’re transfering and get to enjoy the college life…and not about to be thrown into the horrendous work force in this economy. Accept this for what it is: a freakin’ blessing. Stop obsessing, and if you’re obsessing then you’re not in such a bad sit in my view.

Have fun worriers!

]]> By: Jess http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-31832 Jess Sun, 10 May 2009 01:20:56 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-31832 don't stress too much!! transferring can be scary in the beginning, but after the first couple of weeks you will start feeling comfortable and getting into the swing of things. it's true that it can be a little annoying living and working in the same place and seeing certain people from your classes all the time, but it can also create a really nice sense of community. it's nice to see familiar faces, and when you're in a new place it's comforting to just have people to say hello to. in terms of roommates, it really depends on the kind of relationship you have with your friend. if you're both generally independent and capable of making friends on your own and doing separate activities, you should be fine. most of the problematic situations i've heard of come from roommates who do EVERYTHING together and then live in the same tiny room. it gets annoying, and you start noticing the most random things about them. every relationship needs a certain amount of space to stay healthy, so just try to remain independent and it will make your room a fun, safe space to share stories about your day. the partying thing is something tricky, but it's an invaluable experience to learn your limits. college is the perfect time for that! and don't worry about people labeling you the crazy drunk girl...there will always be a lot of people making drunken mistakes, so even if you do have an embarrassing night, it will be forgotten by the following weekend. just try to go out with people you trust and pay attention to how you feel before it's too late and you're out of control. but have fun! you're only in college once :) join some clubs, enjoy your classes, be friendly, and HAVE FUN!! good luck! don’t stress too much!! transferring can be scary in the beginning, but after the first couple of weeks you will start feeling comfortable and getting into the swing of things. it’s true that it can be a little annoying living and working in the same place and seeing certain people from your classes all the time, but it can also create a really nice sense of community. it’s nice to see familiar faces, and when you’re in a new place it’s comforting to just have people to say hello to.
in terms of roommates, it really depends on the kind of relationship you have with your friend. if you’re both generally independent and capable of making friends on your own and doing separate activities, you should be fine. most of the problematic situations i’ve heard of come from roommates who do EVERYTHING together and then live in the same tiny room. it gets annoying, and you start noticing the most random things about them. every relationship needs a certain amount of space to stay healthy, so just try to remain independent and it will make your room a fun, safe space to share stories about your day.
the partying thing is something tricky, but it’s an invaluable experience to learn your limits. college is the perfect time for that! and don’t worry about people labeling you the crazy drunk girl…there will always be a lot of people making drunken mistakes, so even if you do have an embarrassing night, it will be forgotten by the following weekend. just try to go out with people you trust and pay attention to how you feel before it’s too late and you’re out of control. but have fun! you’re only in college once :)
join some clubs, enjoy your classes, be friendly, and HAVE FUN!! good luck!

]]> By: Weekly Wrap Up: No Swine Flu Here! : College Candy http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-31012 Weekly Wrap Up: No Swine Flu Here! : College Candy Fri, 01 May 2009 21:32:35 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-31012 [...] left to do before we move out! We have to get ready for graduation, get real jobs or get ready to transfer to a new school (beware if you’re switching to NYU, though; we got some bad news about their financial aid [...] [...] left to do before we move out! We have to get ready for graduation, get real jobs or get ready to transfer to a new school (beware if you’re switching to NYU, though; we got some bad news about their financial aid [...]

]]> By: Mwiza (zambia) http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-30929 Mwiza (zambia) Fri, 01 May 2009 05:13:40 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-30929 Cnt realy say i ever went through that but i gues i cn equate your experience to going to boarding school though atleast there the were rules. I sufferd wit the whole roommate thing it was terrible the up in your stuf the finish your soap etc the break your iron until enough is enough bt hec i survivd. I gues to sum it up you wil b ok as long as you remeber who you are any why you went to that university o college remeber where you frm and o the pipo who would kil for your opportunites. So b wise careful on the parties n the drinking those could b a nasty downfal. AL THE BEST TO U GOING TO START NEW LIVES Cnt realy say i ever went through that but i gues i cn equate your experience to going to boarding school though atleast there the were rules. I sufferd wit the whole roommate thing it was terrible the up in your stuf the finish your soap etc the break your iron until enough is enough bt hec i survivd. I gues to sum it up you wil b ok as long as you remeber who you are any why you went to that university o college remeber where you frm and o the pipo who would kil for your opportunites. So b wise careful on the parties n the drinking those could b a nasty downfal. AL THE BEST TO U GOING TO START NEW LIVES

]]> By: Lily http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-30864 Lily Thu, 30 Apr 2009 21:28:08 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-30864 it really depends on what college you are transferring to. some are really transfer friendly like the big ones because even though your a transfer everyone gets kinda lost in the crowd so its not that hard to meet people. then theres the small colleges where everyone knows everyone and you will def be "that transfer girl" until you join something. JOIN SOMETHING! Don't let the fear of falling behind in school work or not finding the right clique keep you away from joining something! Club, sport, sorority do it and do it fast cause thats the best way to meet people it really depends on what college you are transferring to.

some are really transfer friendly like the big ones because even though your a transfer everyone gets kinda lost in the crowd so its not that hard to meet people. then theres the small colleges where everyone knows everyone and you will def be “that transfer girl” until you join something.

JOIN SOMETHING!

Don’t let the fear of falling behind in school work or not finding the right clique keep you away from joining something! Club, sport, sorority do it and do it fast cause thats the best way to meet people

]]> By: Charmaine http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-30794 Charmaine Thu, 30 Apr 2009 03:46:20 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-30794 First i have to say is that... you guys are lucky to have such a "real college experience". I've never lived in the dorm while i was in college. What i did was commute back and forth. But one of my best friend had experienced at the dorm life, but she moved back home after 2 months. She hated her roommates, couldn't get along with her. But she managed to wake herself up 2 hours early for school. First i have to say is that… you guys are lucky to have such a “real college experience”. I’ve never lived in the dorm while i was in college. What i did was commute back and forth. But one of my best friend had experienced at the dorm life, but she moved back home after 2 months. She hated her roommates, couldn’t get along with her. But she managed to wake herself up 2 hours early for school.

]]> By: Liza - University of Minnesota http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-30781 Liza - University of Minnesota Thu, 30 Apr 2009 00:18:01 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-30781 You're just like a college freshman! These are a lot of the same fears I was having last summer...It will be FINE. A big change, and a learning curve, yeah, but it will all be okay in the end. Fights with roommates, weird people, and adjusting to the nightlife are all inevitable, but you'll do great! Things will work out :) You’re just like a college freshman! These are a lot of the same fears I was having last summer…It will be FINE. A big change, and a learning curve, yeah, but it will all be okay in the end. Fights with roommates, weird people, and adjusting to the nightlife are all inevitable, but you’ll do great! Things will work out :)

]]> By: AmandaISU http://collegecandy.com/2009/04/29/the-transfer-blues/#comment-30776 AmandaISU Wed, 29 Apr 2009 23:21:12 +0000 http://collegecandy.com/?p=25625#comment-30776 i transferred at the beginning of the spring semester, so i felt so nervous. i think it was hard because i came in the middle of the semester and everyone knew each other, so i was very lonely. however, i got along with my roommates (i have 3) and adjusted fairly well. it definitely is a change, though! i transferred at the beginning of the spring semester, so i felt so nervous. i think it was hard because i came in the middle of the semester and everyone knew each other, so i was very lonely. however, i got along with my roommates (i have 3) and adjusted fairly well. it definitely is a change, though!

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