Tuffy Luv Shifts the Power

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By Sara

Dear Tuffy Luv,

So I’m dating this great guy but here’s the problem: I’m 21 and he’s 44. Which I’m fine with. But all my friends think it’s kind of skeezy. And I  haven’t told my parents yet because I’m worried they might freak out. But it’s a really good relationship. He’s really sweet and smart and he takes me out to places I could definitely not afford on my own. What do you think? Skeezy or just a really good relationship that happens to come with perks?

Likes Her Guy

Dear Likes Her Guy,

Well, depends. And not like the diapers.

So, okay. Let’s just start out by reminding everyone that age ain’t nothin’ but a number. Some people are really able to love the person for the person, regardless of age.

However, most people can’t. Sorry. This is the sad truth. The thing that makes Tuffy think this might be the case from your letter is that he takes you nice places that you could never go without him. There is a power thing happening there, girl, whether you like it or not. It is also suspect that your friends think it’s weird and that you’re afraid to tell your parents. Something in your gut is telling you something’s wrong.

So, here is the Tuff Luv. My suggestion to you is that youuuuu: (1) Take it realllll slow with this guy and listen to your feelings–they’re usually right; (2) Introduce him to your parents. Getting it out there will relieve some pressure from your relationship and also give them a chance to voice an opinion, which you can then take or leave; and (3) Have a real talk with your guy and find out what he wants from this relationship. Like, for real real. Does he see a future with you? Or is this a fling to get that whole “hot young chick” thing out of his system?

Make sure you’re okay with his answer, regardless of what it is.

Good luck, girl.

Hearts & Skulls,

Tuffy Luv