Comments on: He Had a Girlfriend…And I Hooked Up With Him Anyway

By: empathetic

empathetic — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 16:05:40 +0000

ive been cheated on and ive cheated and ive been 'the other woman'.

YES being cheated on SUCKS. BALLS. but i didn't find out until about a month after he broke up with me. he cheated on me with two of my friends, and i now know for a fact that he did it to directly hurt me. often ive found myself wishing he was just fucking random girls he met in a bar. the fact is no matter how angry i was with my friends who KNEW he was my bf and should of had my back, ive always hated him more. hes the one who cheated. and if it had been with a random from a bar i wouldnt blame her at all.

im not innocent myself i have cheated, though i felt so shitty about doing it, and he found out about it anyway. and i feel that there really is nothing to gain from cheating. Break up > then hook up. not the other way around.

and finally being the other woman even after knowing how it felt to be cheated on. the only way i can rationalize it to myself is that: i dont know her, and im not setting out to directly hurt her.

the fact is its morally wrong, and i feel uncomfortable in this position, after going through like 50 different websites about "hooking up with a guy in a relationship" i feel that if i cant convince him to either break it off with his gf or at least tell her he's being unfaithful, then im going to cut him off completely and tell his gf myself. i mean once a cheater always a cheater right? if hes not cheating on her with me, then hes probably doing it with someone else.

By: buddy

buddy — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 21:52:23 +0000

Just try to feel what the other woman feels after she discovered that the man :she taught loved her" was in ur pants? sorry u forgot you took ur pants off? or did you forget he had a condom on his penis? maybe you should get treated for memory loss or your actions…….Theway you acted on a one night stand is called Prostitution…..lucky you did not catch a sex bug orgave one or get pregnant…….YES u should feel damn guilty about it….call ur mother or father and ask her if ok to do

By: Signe

Signe — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 21:54:37 +0000

its not that easy….just walk away..

By: Josh

Josh — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 03:05:30 +0000

You were just doing what you do best. Don't be ashamed.

By: Naomi

Naomi — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 08:25:49 +0000

noo its all good what you did. I am in the same sitiuation now and he told me that he had a gf and i couldnt care less. I am mean its his choice and if the gf finds out its only just good that she knows what a yerk her bf is. And if it's only for the sex then you shouldnt worry about a thing. Just do what you like to do and dont let anything stop you. your only young once and there is enough time to evantually find a guy who's not only intrested in your ass pussy but also in your personality. But that time will come when you are around 28 i think. guys from 16-25 are the men who you shouldnt take seriously ya know. i learned from that because in my past i had bfs and they always said like that they loved me for who i am and not how i look like, but thats all bull shit. they just chase whatever there little thingly is saying. but dont start a real realtionship with him use him for sex. Cause he has already proven that he can't handle a realtionship without cheating. And btw when you like sex and you are a girl and you just do it with what ever that looks good i dont think that makes you a slut. you just like sex and whats wrong with that ey??

By: Marie Belle

Marie Belle — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 23:48:09 +0000

I don't think it was your problem, nor your responsibility! I would have to agree with the others that pointed out that you really don't know if he had a GF or not, those pic's could have been of his ex!

I'm in a bit of a situation right now, which is how I came across this site in the first place.

My on again, off again (also the father of my 2yr old) and I started having sex again in Feb. and I had a feeling he was still seeing this chic Alona Shufflebottom but I didn't bother to ask, as I honestly didn't care…. she pursued him and cheated with him when I was pregnant with our son and when I called her to let her know he had a GF, she didn't care, we broke up and since then he had been driving back and forth from Ok. to La. to see her…..

Well, recently I found out for fact that they are supposedly in a relationship….. I feel like I should tell her but I just don't know…

(Open to advise)

By: Nelliy

Nelliy — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 16:05:42 +0000

Only mistake Lauren made here was going back to a guy's house after a party. It's not about being a prude or old fashioned, but had she not gone she wouldn't have found herself in this dilemma.

The best and least painful way of finding out if a man is in a relationship or not is if he a) gets your number before you leave the party without him and b) you make yourself unavailable unless he asks you out for a Saturday night date at the local place-to-be.

If he has a wife or girlfriend, he may not do a) and he will certainly not do b). This way you will find out if he is available or not before your skirt hits the carpet. All the other stuff about morality and sisterly solidarity is a moot point. Willpower is weak, thus it's best not to put yourself in that position in the first place. It is like walking home in the dark at 3am. You are less likely to get into trouble if you're um… not walking in the dark at 3am. Ya know?

By: Mmhmm

Mmhmm — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 08:08:08 +0000

Two words for all you self righteous toolbags blaming the chick in this situation: TIGER. WOODS.

Think about how that all went down.

By: dude

dude — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 16:27:55 +0000

you're just a jewish slut. the jewish religion has no morals so you can do whatever you want but you'll still feel guilty. you suck and your religion sucks and i hope you find the "perfect" man and marry him and then i hope he cheats on you and leaves you.

By: tim

tim — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 10:22:25 +0000

Well he was definitely wondering somethings beforehand…Would you be any good? will you put in a performance? will you have better boobs than his gf?

Im sure he woke up feeling worse with regret plus answers to above. unless he does this every night. Dont worry yourself.