Tuffy Luv Stops a Catfight

June 9, 2009 Posted in Advice, Relationships

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By Sara

Dear Tuffy Luv,

Ok, I have a question, and I need a response asap. I hooked up with this guy, like, 2 weeks ago, and his girlfriend, yes his girlfriend, found out today! Ugh, I knew that he had a girlfriend at the time, but I didn’t care and he promised that he would never tell!!!! So much 4 that promise. Anyway, I have her in one of my classes and she sits right behind me and I have just been ditching that class to avoid her, but I can’t do that 4ever! What do i do? I feel so guilty, but he has cheated on her 5 times b4!!!! Ugh, this sucks. But No Regrets, ever. Help me please!

-MamaBeast-

Dear MamaBeast,

Well, you should regret this. Hooking up with another girl’s man is just not cool. And that’s that.

That said, it’s not your fault he cheated. And if he’s cheated on her before, she should have known he’d cheat on her again. Ridic.

You’re right that you can’t ditch class forever. My advice to you is to find a way to talk to her BEFORE the next class. Do NOT do this on the phone and especially not on email! You need to stand face to face and be honest with her. Yeah, you knew they were together. Yeah, you shouldn’t have done it. But tell her you’re really sorry – you know it was wrong and it won’t happen again.

If she gets in your face about it, remind her (politely, seriously, you don’t want a fight) that he’s the one cheating on her. You’re not her friend and you can hook up with whoever you want. Make it clear you’re just saying sorry because you want things to be cool between the two of you, NOT because you’re responsible for him cheating on her.

I hope that girl breaks up with that guy, because he WILL cheat again.

Hopefully you won’t let it be with you.

Hearts & Skulls,
Tuffy Luv

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Jessica says:
Sun, 21st Jun 20099:28 am

I’m pretty sure I don’t agree with the sentiment in the “advice.” No it IS your fault that he cheated on his girlfriend with YOU! You can’t control his actions but you can control your own. The girlfriend has every right to “get in your face” and you have no right to throw his cheating in her face. You don’t know how she feels and you don’t know their relationship. My advice? Apologize and admit you were wrong and then why don’t you grow up and make the decision to not willingly sleep with people who you know have girlfriends?!?!?!

Lisa says:
Thu, 25th Jun 20096:32 am

I totally agree with Jessica… Tuffy your attitude on this needs a major shift. It would be different if she *didn't* know that he had a girlfriend. Any woman with any shred of self respect would not sleep with a guy whose cheating on his girl… I don't care what kind body he has, how much alcohol you/he has consumed or whatever sob story he told you. You were used and you hurt someone else in the process of having a good time. You should regret it.

Anon says:
Thu, 22nd Oct 20091:48 am

It amazes me these type of people. The kind that know but just don't seem to give a fuck anyway.

I think they call them teenagers.

Grow the fuck up and stop sleeping around like a slut.

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