Sam says:
Wed, 24th Jun 200911:15 am 

I always go for "cute" over "hot." The hot boys usually have jerk attitudes. Confidence is attractive to a point- but I don't want a guy spending more time getting ready than what I would.

andy says:
Wed, 24th Jun 200911:54 am 

I guess my relationship might be an example of this. I would say im fairly attractive. Not superhot or anything but when it comes to guys I could be picky if I wanted to. But I happened to fall in love with a guy that is overweight with a receding hairline. I wasn't initially very attracted to him but once we started talking and I realized how funny he was and how easily I could talk to him it made the physical matter less. We have been together for over 2 years now.

spawndex says:
Wed, 24th Jun 200912:00 pm 

f*ck that… i won't be able to date a guy that's ugly or fat no matter how nice his personality is. i don't want a male model, but jeez i have to be turned on by the dude at least. and, while personality and intelligence is a big turn on, looks is definitely the first thing i notice about men. call me shallow, but that's just me.

Billy says:
Wed, 24th Jun 20097:30 pm 

What about acne scars? Not like Freddy Krueger style, but a little bit? A guy who would otherwise be attractive, but has acne scars? Is a guy with them destined for a life of misery with girls? Should he just stay in his mom's basement for the rest of his life? This is an important question that needs to be answered by girls. Thank you.

Steph says:
Wed, 24th Jun 20098:04 pm 

Billy: I've found plenty of guys really attractive, despite them having acne scars.

I've thought about this many times and sometimes it's frustrating enough to just want to give up dating all together. The only guys that seem to be attracted or interested in me are guys I find physically repulsive. I'm definitely a personality over appearance type of girl, but it's annoying. I feel that with all the times I've had to suck up the fact I didn't find a guy attractive just because they had a great personality, I deserve to find someone that I am attracted to both physically and mentally, but that seems damn near impossible.

Sara says:
Thu, 25th Jun 20094:08 pm 

Billy- Please JESUS do not stay in your mom's basement! Trust me on this one. As someone who just got out of an abusive relationship with a man who lived with his mother at 31, it's a sign of other problems. As far as acne scars, they can be hot actually. Look at Seal: even though his skin is scarred from lupus not acne, he's pretty hot and has a smokin wife. Viggo Mortensen? Laurence Fishburne? They might seem like a big deal for you, but trust me the vast majority of women wouldn't be turned off by it! I dunno I actually find them kind of rugged and manly.

I think it speaks volumes that girls are willing to date someone who is not "on their level" while men are not. Sad, really. I'm a pretty attractive girl, and I actualy avoid more attractive guys: they tend to be selfish, conceited, and disloyal. Confidence is great, arrogance is NOT.

Jennifer says:
Sun, 28th Jun 20095:16 am 

I tend to date guys that I start out thinking are cue but not great looking. And the more I get to know them and get attached the more attractive I find them. I'm dating a guy right now who's cute but not exactly my type. He's also the most considerate and kind guy I've ever met. And to compare that to a guy who may be a point or two (on the out of ten scale) higher but doesn't call back and belittles me, well I don't see a contest.

Madison says:
Tue, 30th Jun 20099:40 pm 

Girls automatically dismiss on sight guys with acne scars. It is a fact. Life sucks!!!!!

Becca- Clarion Unive says:
Wed, 1st Jul 20095:17 am 

sorry madison, you're wrong. I know plenty of women- myself included- who wouldnt dismiss a guy with acne scars.

scars are just that scars. they don't make a person who they are…

Madison says:
Thu, 2nd Jul 20091:40 am 

Wrong. Girls do automatically dismiss guys with acne scars on sight and don't even give them a chance. Believe me, it totally sucks. Especially when your idiotic parents passed on their terrible genes to you which, despite all the medication and careful treatment that you try to use to avoid getting acne scars, still leaves you with having a face full of them.

This coming from a recent 23 year old college grad with a good job/salary and who is in shape. It doesn't really matter though, girls can't see past my piece of shit face. I don't even know why I even put forth an effort, my skin will always look like shit, despite all of the treatments to help lessen the appearance of the acne scars.

I always read how girls aren't as superfically into the appearance of guys as guys are into the appearance of girls. That is a crock of shit. Girls care just as much about the appearance of guys as the other way around. Doesn't life suck?

reinette says:
Sun, 12th Jul 20092:10 am 

it's a personal choice – i wouldn't personally generalize based on what one girl likes based on my own choices.

personally i do think appearance is important but not to the point where i want someone who is just looks and no brains. as for the acne comment – i don't personally have a problem with mild acne on a guy but severe acne not really my thing. but i think guys who try to hide with makeup or edit their pictures online are just lying to themselves and that is also a turn off. i think if they have it – acknowledge it (i won't say embrace it) but just keep on going with life.

personally people can call me shallow but i'm sure there are a lot of people who would agree that appearance is an important factor when dating someone.

Xander says:
Fri, 17th Jul 20099:42 am 

I'm a guy who genuinely likes and is attracted to girls with cool, independent and fun personalities. Physical attraction is definitely important too, no doubt, but on occasion I've dated girls who other people don't view as "my equal" in the looks department. It really annoys the hell out of me when they think they are doing me a favor by telling me "you can do better".

Alex says:
Mon, 8th Mar 20104:27 pm 

This is bullshit. Girls are just as shallow as guys only in different ways. If a guy has lots of money, power, fame, popularity whatever then chicks go for him. In my mind thats just as fake as a dude going for a chick with a nice boob job

BoB says:
Thu, 3rd Jun 20103:16 am 

Im ugly but i have mony and get all the hotteys. ha ha ha

Alison says:
Fri, 16th Jul 20108:38 am 

I REFUSE to date a guy if he has no self confidence. No matter how hot or great his personality is. No self confidence = no me. That's the most important aspect. Also, if a guy can easily carry on a conversation and make me laugh, that is rare and impressive. Even if he is unattractive, I would definitely go out with that guy. However, there is a thick line between okay and ugly. Obesity, severe acne, laziness, and smelly are all simply unacceptable.

Granola says:
Tue, 9th Nov 201010:31 pm 

This has to be one of the stupidest things I've ever read. There's people that are shallow and there's people that aren't. To generalize and say one gender is shallow and the other isn't is extremely ignorant. And for the record, I've witnessed too many couples where the girl is really ugly and the guy is handsome to believe any of this for one second. I've also met plenty of women that put looks way before anything else as far as a male companion is concerned.

Many women have to put looks aside, simply because there aren't enough good looking guys in the world for every good looking woman. This may be why the ratio of good looking guys dating ugly girls to ugly guys dating good looking women is off.

& I don't know any women that are willing to date unattractive guys especially guys that are balding, have acne scars, and are overweight. I'm sure they're out there but it's rare.

girl2212 says:
Sun, 13th Feb 20112:40 pm 

This is an amazing post. It is exactly right I think.

I'd say in general, the girl is ALWAYS hotter than the guy. The girl has to be the full package, where as the guy can have sufficient physical flaws.