I think we can all agree that physical attraction is important in a relationship. You don’t get all hot and bothered over just anyone, right? But there seems to be a bit of disagreement about what makes someone physically attractive, especially between men and women. You know as well as I do that personality can totally make a guy more attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be the same story for them.
How many times have you seen a total hottie dating some ugly dud? Now think of all the times that has been reversed. Can’t think of any? That’s because it doesn’t happen. Or at least not often.
And that pisses me off. How is it fair that a Jonah Hill can nab a Scarlett Johansson (theoretically, of course), but I can’t get a David Beckham to look my way? WTF? Do guys even realize how ridiculous that is? I tried to find out. Shockingly, even dudes can’t rationalize it.
Sam says:
Wed, 24th Jun 20094:15 pm
I always go for “cute” over “hot.” The hot boys usually have jerk attitudes. Confidence is attractive to a point- but I don’t want a guy spending more time getting ready than what I would.
andy says:
Wed, 24th Jun 20094:54 pm
I guess my relationship might be an example of this. I would say im fairly attractive. Not superhot or anything but when it comes to guys I could be picky if I wanted to. But I happened to fall in love with a guy that is overweight with a receding hairline. I wasn’t initially very attracted to him but once we started talking and I realized how funny he was and how easily I could talk to him it made the physical matter less. We have been together for over 2 years now.
spawndex says:
Wed, 24th Jun 20095:00 pm
f*ck that… i won’t be able to date a guy that’s ugly or fat no matter how nice his personality is. i don’t want a male model, but jeez i have to be turned on by the dude at least. and, while personality and intelligence is a big turn on, looks is definitely the first thing i notice about men. call me shallow, but that’s just me.
Billy says:
Thu, 25th Jun 200912:30 am
What about acne scars? Not like Freddy Krueger style, but a little bit? A guy who would otherwise be attractive, but has acne scars? Is a guy with them destined for a life of misery with girls? Should he just stay in his mom’s basement for the rest of his life? This is an important question that needs to be answered by girls. Thank you.
Steph says:
Thu, 25th Jun 20091:04 am
Billy: I’ve found plenty of guys really attractive, despite them having acne scars.
I’ve thought about this many times and sometimes it’s frustrating enough to just want to give up dating all together. The only guys that seem to be attracted or interested in me are guys I find physically repulsive. I’m definitely a personality over appearance type of girl, but it’s annoying. I feel that with all the times I’ve had to suck up the fact I didn’t find a guy attractive just because they had a great personality, I deserve to find someone that I am attracted to both physically and mentally, but that seems damn near impossible.
Sara says:
Thu, 25th Jun 20099:08 pm
Billy- Please JESUS do not stay in your mom’s basement! Trust me on this one. As someone who just got out of an abusive relationship with a man who lived with his mother at 31, it’s a sign of other problems. As far as acne scars, they can be hot actually. Look at Seal: even though his skin is scarred from lupus not acne, he’s pretty hot and has a smokin wife. Viggo Mortensen? Laurence Fishburne? They might seem like a big deal for you, but trust me the vast majority of women wouldn’t be turned off by it! I dunno I actually find them kind of rugged and manly.
I think it speaks volumes that girls are willing to date someone who is not “on their level” while men are not. Sad, really. I’m a pretty attractive girl, and I actualy avoid more attractive guys: they tend to be selfish, conceited, and disloyal. Confidence is great, arrogance is NOT.
Jennifer says:
Sun, 28th Jun 200910:16 am
I tend to date guys that I start out thinking are cue but not great looking. And the more I get to know them and get attached the more attractive I find them. I’m dating a guy right now who’s cute but not exactly my type. He’s also the most considerate and kind guy I’ve ever met. And to compare that to a guy who may be a point or two (on the out of ten scale) higher but doesn’t call back and belittles me, well I don’t see a contest.
Madison says:
Wed, 1st Jul 20092:40 am
Girls automatically dismiss on sight guys with acne scars. It is a fact. Life sucks!!!!!
Becca- Clarion University says:
Wed, 1st Jul 200910:17 am
sorry madison, you’re wrong. I know plenty of women- myself included- who wouldnt dismiss a guy with acne scars.
scars are just that scars. they don’t make a person who they are…
Madison says:
Thu, 2nd Jul 20096:40 am
Wrong. Girls do automatically dismiss guys with acne scars on sight and don’t even give them a chance. Believe me, it totally sucks. Especially when your idiotic parents passed on their terrible genes to you which, despite all the medication and careful treatment that you try to use to avoid getting acne scars, still leaves you with having a face full of them.
This coming from a recent 23 year old college grad with a good job/salary and who is in shape. It doesn’t really matter though, girls can’t see past my piece of shit face. I don’t even know why I even put forth an effort, my skin will always look like shit, despite all of the treatments to help lessen the appearance of the acne scars.
I always read how girls aren’t as superfically into the appearance of guys as guys are into the appearance of girls. That is a crock of shit. Girls care just as much about the appearance of guys as the other way around. Doesn’t life suck?
reinette says:
Sun, 12th Jul 20097:10 am
it’s a personal choice – i wouldn’t personally generalize based on what one girl likes based on my own choices.
personally i do think appearance is important but not to the point where i want someone who is just looks and no brains. as for the acne comment – i don’t personally have a problem with mild acne on a guy but severe acne not really my thing. but i think guys who try to hide with makeup or edit their pictures online are just lying to themselves and that is also a turn off. i think if they have it – acknowledge it (i won’t say embrace it) but just keep on going with life.
personally people can call me shallow but i’m sure there are a lot of people who would agree that appearance is an important factor when dating someone.
Xander says:
Fri, 17th Jul 20092:42 pm
I’m a guy who genuinely likes and is attracted to girls with cool, independent and fun personalities. Physical attraction is definitely important too, no doubt, but on occasion I’ve dated girls who other people don’t view as “my equal” in the looks department. It really annoys the hell out of me when they think they are doing me a favor by telling me “you can do better”.
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