I will just write it again. I had a long discussion with my close friends yesterday about this as we often do. We are kind of a brotherhood that stand for old values when it comes how a man should act. Beeing correct, have morale and of course be a gentleman. This is sadly a dying breed in society nowdays.

Tho, I found your list and found it very interesting and I agree to most of it. What I want to point out tho is a culture issue that can arise. We are from sweden and we have a very different society than you have in the US. I have been working a lot last few years in Boston and NYC and gone one a few dates. It is quite obvious that I am not really an american there. I know how to act towards a lady and do so quite well. I make sure she is comfortable at all times and act as an gentleman should. Tho, what is a big difference in sweden compared to the US is that we have a very equal society when it comes to gender. The part where the man pays for everything whilst courting a lady is long gone in our society, we belive in equality between the genders and this is seen all over the society.

Of course, most of us do pay for the dinner and drinks etc, but it is not a must as it is in the US. There been many discussions over the years about this. Some compare the man paying for everything as a kind of "prostitution" etc as they really are showering the lady with money to court her. Tho, many of us still do pay for everything when we take a lady on a date, it is not expect in anyway overall if you date a scandinavian woman.

Was just a side note.

Great list and glad to see you are helping out men with things like this that should have been common sense.

Good luck in finding your gentleman!

Johnny. Sweden

I had a long discussion with some close friends of mine last night and we discussed a lot about the problems you face today beeing a gentleman and acting with high morale. We discussed a lot about things you should and should not do, how to act correct and what is expected of you. We are kind of a brotherhood of well performing young men in a world where gentlemen has disappeared, but we refuse to yield for the new ways and choose to live by a more (in our views) correct way for a man.

I liked reading your list, specially the one with the sandals as we actually laughed like heck last night as that was brought up, but for us the list is different, first of all we live in Sweden. And our society is quite different from the american way of life. I have worked quite a lot in the US the last few years and gone on a few dates and really ran into the "culture issues" between Sweden and the US. As we are a very equal society when it comes to genders a lot of things that are expected in the US is quite far from our way of life. Paying for drinks is a good example, many of us of course pay for our dates etc if we invite them do dinner etc. But this is not expected overall in the swedish way of life.

It is not expected that the man pays for everything when courting a lady, even if we often do. Otherwise, the list you have. It is common sense for any man worth half his name. But good that you put this up, as it seems as beeing a man is becoming a lost art in this world.

I do apologize for my lack in the english language, I probably come off as a slob myself. Tho I hope this is not the case.

Kind Regards

Johnny, Sweden

Also, Part of being a gentleman is not having sex with a woman before marraige. Not sure that anyone here mentioned that yet.