Anyway, the biology spiel aside,

Personally, I like to say I have multiple "types" as far as body types go (I'm into short guys, average height guys, tall guys, whatever, as long their body type is not overwhelming), and most of the guys I've been attracted to have been white, but that's only because I went to school in a mostly white school in the Midwest! (And people in general did not date interracially, which annoyed me to no end.) I've found guys of all races attractive, except for my own, but that's not really a biological thing as a remnant of my not-so-great relationship with my dad.

I get very annoyed when people ask if my boyfriend has yellow fever. What, is he not supposed to like me for who I am?! He likes me, and I just happen to be Asian. Ohmigod, he's not racist. Get over yourselves, it's no big deal.

Jennifer you said in referring to the racially lopsided results of the yahoo pole:

"So there are more white people and they can say, I want to date someone white and have a larger pool to choose from, while someone Indian might need to say, well I’ll date either Indian or white people. How is that important?"

Did you even read what you wrote? Do you honestly believe white people choose not to select other races as potential mates because they believe they have an adequate enough white pool to draw from? Hahaha!! How hard is it to click on the Asian or Indian checkbox on the registration form.

also you said:

"But you seem to assume that those influences are either inherently wrong or should be driven out of us"

Do think Holly's comments are social or genetics…

"What is so bad about Asian guys? Not full. They are ugly. But half asian and half white???? They aren’t bad!!!!"

There is an imbalance that exists. Even Tyra Banks said she became acutely aware that she had to straighten her naturally coarse/curly hair very early on in order to appeal to western standards of beauty. Black people (especially males) are only now in the last couple of decades seen as sex symbols. I can assure you genetically little has changed for black males in the last few hundred years, however they are heavily portrayed as strong and masculine and the hero in western controlled media or hyper sexual in music videos and porn.

anyways there is an easy solution ot all this bullocks…..stop watching their movies
throw your tv out of the window (dont do it if u live par-terre)

i did it and those brainwashing media lies dont have much effect anymore
i love all women
the only type of women i ghate to be arround is low intelligence women
also i hate racists (if they are aware of it or not)

that being said

dont watch tv
dont go to the movies
read some books instead
not only will u get rid of stereotypes you also leanr in the process
and dont waste your time to jerry springers racist program lol

live long and in prosper

the media is a big contributor to the portrayal of sterotypes.
for example, asian males get screwed in tv movies etc. its a perpetual cycle because network and movie studios won’t risk a project by casting an asian male in protagonist role for fear that audiences wont identify, and more importantly, find the actor/character attractive. audiences watch the programming and thus the cycle repeats. so the asian male actors usually get the coveted nerdy/effeminate/perverted/generic martial arts/comic relief roles:

-vince masuka in dexter
-lloyd in entourage
-every teen comedy ever made (even harold n kumar before harold “grows a pair” at the climax of the movie, which only happened because harold is 1 of 2 protagonists in the movie…and the leading man always gets the girl..?)
-the “chairman” in iron chef america (wow what a fucking sweet job…to mutter incomprehensible “asian language” phrases and to do flips n cartwheels, AND you get fed top notch food…)

i am both a victim and a perpetrator of not “checking your type at the door”. due to reasons aforementioned, i think the only ethnic group i probably won’t readily consider as prospects are black girls.

there was just this ‘je ne sais quoi’ feeling, until Lena Chen articulated the feeling by stating black females in American media are masculinized. its a shame, and alas it’s very hard to undue stereotypes, prejudices, and sentiments. i’ve met interesting, intelligent, sexy black girls at school, but never could overcome the mental barrier to proceed to ask them out. to be judge against a normative set of standards suck shit, especially if youre on the wrong side of the bell curve. ive worked many years to erase my own perceptions to try to keep an open mind, and i dont know if we’ll ever reach such an egalitarian dating paradigm, but i think Lena Chen is preaching that we should at least try.

so please, in the future, if you see that cute guy/gal across the classroom stealing glances n smiling at you, smile back! you could have just met your soulmate.

PS. where the hell are the moderators? we need to keep this shite positive. no more “holly” please.

P.P.S. am i like the only guy who reads collegecandy? lol/sigh