This week’s article: How to Control and Dominate Your Woman by stevenmiller on advice.com.
This article is nothing but a load of misogynistic crap about women being submissive to men. It open’s with: “Women like to be controlled and dominated. Don’t fool yourself into believing that they don’t. They do… Secretly all women desire to submit to the will of their man.”
Of course, he is sure to include a disclaimer: “First off, I’m not promoting any man to beat any woman. You can dominate her without putting the “smack down” on her.” That’s right boys, stick to verbally abusing your women, please.
And it only gets worse – much, much worse – from there.
How should a man respond when a women is nagging him? Because that’s all we ever do, right?
Miller suggests saying the following: “WOMAN! Last time I checked I was the one with the penis in this house. You better go in that kitchen and get my dinner on the table!” Miller goes on to explain that if she tries to talk back and argue, “just shake your head no and point to the kitchen. She’ll get the message. By doing this you will subconsciously reinforce the fact that you are the dominant one in the household. You’re the man and your word is the only one that counts in the end.”
I say: Is this guy for real? Does he honestly think any self-respecting woman is going to just scurry off to the kitchen because the man with the penis said so?
And what about when you’re out shopping and she wants a new dress?
Miller suggests: “Look, you ain’t getting no new dress. Matter of fact, you be lucky if I took you to the thrift store and bought you a dress for fifty cent.”
I say: Apparently it is impossible to dominate a woman without also abusing the English language.
As if dominating women in the kitchen and at the store isn’t enough, Steve also thinks it’s important to dominate us in the bedroom.
Miller suggests: “Make sure you have her perform oral sex on you. She’s your wife and she should be willing to do that. It’s part of her being submissive. You must wear her out. You should wear her out.”
I say: I agree that a good partner should want to please you in the bedroom, but I don’t agree with raping your wife’s throat. And I most definitely don’t agree with not returning the favor.
Miller goes on: Even more important than getting a blow job, though, is making sure she makes you a sandwich afterward. Why? “The reason why you do this is prove that she has been thoroughly dominated and she will express this by submissively getting ‘her man a sandwich.’ Matter a fact, she should be telling her girlfriends ‘My husband, did it so good to me, he had me up making sandwiches and kool-aide after we got done. And I could barely even walk, girl.’”
I say: I feel sick…
Have you girls had any experience with men like this? Do you think there is ANY truth to the idea that women want to be dominated?



Becca says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20091:13 pm
This can’t be real! I really think this is a joke.
Kay says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20091:16 pm
yeah it HAS to be a joke… I think I would laugh in someone’s face if they said any of this stuff to me even half seriously.
Meg says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20091:30 pm
This article is DEFINITELY a joke. My guy friends say stuff like this all the time and it’s just for fun. If my bf ever said anything like this to me I’d laugh and move on.
Lauren - University of Michigan says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20091:32 pm
Perhaps this dude meant it as a joke, but there are plenty of dumb people out there who either A) take this to heart or B) actually think this is true.
Disgusting. If I’m giving it in bed, that dude better make ME a sandwich.
Erin says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20092:32 pm
I think it must be a joke, it’s just too terrible to be taken seriously. I think most men realize that women are really the dominant ones in many relationships and we don’t want to be dominated ever, unless we are playing in bed.
Blaire says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20092:57 pm
The only time a man can dominate me is in the bedroom…and even then, it’s not for real. If a man ever said something like that to me, I’d be hard pressed not to dump his sorry ass.
I think it must be a joke, there’s no way this is for real, it’s just too ridiculous.
Blaire says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20093:01 pm
Actually, I take that back. I don’t think he was joking. This is a comment from the author of the article:
wow, you can tell when people are feeling GUILTY and CONDEMEND especially when you’re pointing out what is REALLY WRONG WITH THEM!
XXXPEACEXXX I bet this disturbed female couldn’t wait to write something negative like this. Look at her response. Seriously. She has convincted herself of being exactly the kind of woman that destroys homes and the lives of men and children everywhere. Let’s give this “special kind of female” a round of applause. Come on she deserves it.
XXXPEACEXXX no hard feelings but you should just listen and stop with all that INDEPENDENT WOMAN stuff, it’s has played out. It’s a done deal. Move on. And I would never let a chick like you ever experience my “manpart” so there’s no use of you trying to determine if I got one or not. You should be worried about having an attitude like yours.
Cause I guarantee you that if it doesn’t change chances are you’re going to spending your life all by yourself with your “own car, and your own house, and your own bank account; materailly set, but seriously screwed up in all other areas of your life.”
Katt says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20093:59 pm
Come on. No one could have wrote this in a non joking way. It’s just way to over the top and ridiculous. But if it is on the off chance, not a joke, then this person is obviously a mayor douche.
I’m a big advocate of the 50/50 partnership and no one person is more important than the other in any relationship. No one is the “submissive one” or the “dominant one” in any relationship i’m in, we both decide things together.
Becca- Clarion University says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20094:56 pm
Hmm… I tend to prefer being in a submissive standpoint in a relationship, however… this is WAY over the line…
There’s a big difference between being dominant and being controlling…
criolle johnny says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20095:17 pm
Some women are magnetically attracted to assholes. Some men can instinctively find the sickest bimbo in the club the second they walk inside.
This article is for the guys who want to find co-dependent women and control them. Those women want to be controlled because it confirms their sense of self-worth. The woman beside the man reflects the man’s image of himself. It’s a mutually destructive relationship.
If you’re in a relationship with a pathetic person, YOU ARE a pathetic person.
Sick, dysfunctional, and all too common.
There are web sites dedicated to the men’s point of view:
http://www.hotchickswithdouchebags.com/
I think the title tells you that most men don’t exactly approve.
We just know that it exists.
Jess says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20095:26 pm
Yeah, I don’t think he was joking. Check out the rest of his articles, that’s really how he thinks.
In one of them he almost made sense by saying women should be “helpers” to their men, as in how can I help you with your job search or whatever. But then he goes on to say that women need to go back to their places with the men in charge. I can’t even bring myself to comment one of his articles because his poor grammar is too irritating let alone his ideas.
Ashley says:
Wed, 8th Jul 20097:23 pm
I agree with Becca up there. It’s important for a man to be masculine and have a dominant personality because it helps prove he can protect and care for his lady. But being contolling and demanding things for the sake of doing it won’t win ANY girl over.
jeff says:
Wed, 8th Jul 200911:31 pm
lol i said ths stuff to my fiancee she would start beating me in the family jewels with her steel toad cheif shoes and so would her family
beth says:
Sat, 11th Jul 200912:17 am
obviously he’s kidding
Billy Bob Borton says:
Sat, 11th Jul 20097:22 am
Women must obey their man and must submit to his every will and desire. If she doesn’t, she should be kicked to the curb.
Michael says:
Wed, 22nd Jul 20093:53 pm
He’s not joking.
When we stop acting like this when women stop being attracted to this kind of behaviour.
I treat my girlfriend with respect, but a lot of people I know don’t, they treat them without respect in public, humiliating them out and about, boast about how they sexually and otherwise dominate them. And the reward, an endless cue of willing girls.
I have far less respect for these women. Their pathetic. I don’t have any respect for the men either. But to be honest if I was going out with a girlfriend who let me get away with this kind of behaviour, I would tell them to get me a sandwich after a blowjob.
reality check says:
Tue, 4th Aug 200910:21 am
i dont know who these women and “men” are that are saying-oh this must be a joke or oh he’s kidding right or oh he is such a weirdo because everyone knows its wrong to dominate a woman. i dont know who they are or what world they are living in because EVERY woman i have ever met LOVED being “dominated”. as a matter of fact the hotter they were the more they enjoyed being “dominated”. every woman likes to be dominated. some want to be completely dominated like actually telling them to clean this or cook that or go here or come here or go to bed at this time or wake up at this time or wear this or wear that or get me this or get me that with lots of supervision and appropriate punishment when infraction occur and some like a lesser degree of “domination” like praising or rewarding her when she does something that pleases you or chastising her for a bad attitude or disrespect or when she fails to accomplish one of her responsibilities. however they ALL like to be dominated. the key here is ARE YOU WORTHY OF HER SUBMISSION. most guys are not.
alex says:
Thu, 6th Aug 20099:22 am
hahahahah its a joke you idiots
Anax says:
Mon, 10th Aug 200911:41 am
Dis guy and al dat suport him r psychos.no man can dominate me.dat is 4 weak women and am sory 4 dem
Linda says:
Thu, 20th Aug 20094:49 am
This is ridiculous… No human,man or woman likes to be dominated. A simple act of obedience to a request could go a long way but should never be misinterpreted as domination. If my guy should try anything of this sort, i,ll take him serious one bit..
precum says:
Wed, 2nd Sep 200912:28 pm
which human being whants to be dominated?
i am a guy
i dont want treat my gf like crap but on the other hand i want to be respected
so called dominant people can be dominant all they want—–>alone by themselfes
if u try to opress me you can look for another boyfriend or even buddy if its a buddy
whom exactly are dominant people going to dominate if they have noone to dominate?
Zara says:
Sun, 6th Sep 20097:03 am
r ya guys out of ur mind? gawd no gal dat i knw wud evr want to b dominated…dominatin in bed is diff until a gal wants to bt dominatin fr evrythng lyk telling her to do stuff is totally out of question…evry human wants to b respected…b it man or women n no women wud want to b treated as crap no matter hw much she luvs her man…hw can all does idiot thnk of treatin der women lyk a slave…n ya expect to get luv in return…des guys r big losers n neva hd ne chance to proff demselves dat dey r da man so dey decided to shw demselves to der wives or gf…go get a pros…pay her she will submit to all ya men…bt neva xpect ur wife to do dat…n also luv n respect ya in return…she’d rather spit in your face
Brad says:
Tue, 17th Nov 20094:21 am
this dude is a fucking idiot. i get the whole domination as a sexual fetish thing-not for me-but in a relationship there is no place for it. i want a girl that has the balls-figuratively speaking- to tell me to fuck off, but will still let me have my way once in a while
Darwin - New York University says:
Tue, 17th Nov 20096:54 pm
More power to him. Decent guys out there are fine with having dickwads like that around. It definitely helps kill the competition. Go be a macho asshole all you want, just don’t complain when you’re sitting at home with tears all over penis jacking off.
Dora Miller Jackson Michigan says:
Tue, 17th Nov 200911:43 pm
All Relationships are work tough or easy. Real respect can make anyone feel great. If you’re not sure how you feel find a good doctor. If you’re concerned with a person’s life be honest. If a person male or female has problems – take them
seriously. Do you really want the man sitting at home with
tears or the woman? How about we focus more on our real
problems. Elders and children. I can’t take the crying.
Sameena says:
Tue, 19th Jan 201012:28 am
A man who was 25 and had never even kissed a girl had those views. in the real world, men like this see a lot of rejection. I was married to a man who tried to dominate me, eventually he lost all control over me and he will never regain it again; we are divorced. And in the 2 years that we have been divorced, I have rejected every man who came across dominating. To me, respect is more important than “love” – because like most women, I have realized love without respect is no love at all.
Sarah says:
Thu, 21st Jan 201012:54 pm
I found the article quite funny and as everyone has already said, there is no mistaking this for anything but a joke. To be fair though, my ‘boyfriend’ is an idiot and although he’s joking when he says stuff about women and kitchens, I think he’s so thick that some part of him really believes that. He asked me how to spell sand the other day!
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