He Said/She Said: Can’t Get It Up

July 8, 2009 Posted in Advice, Relationships, Sex

So you’re on your way to Sexy Town with your boy. There is heavy petting, clothes are flying around the room and you’re reeling to go when – oh no – he can’t…do it. He keeps trying to get things working, but it’s too late. The moment (and erection) is lost.

He’s embarrassed and, if you’re anything like me, you’re confused. Is it something you did? Something you said? The way you look? WTF?

Why does this happen? And how often? Is it him or you? More importantly, is it permanent?! There are so many questions and only one person who can answer them: the boy. But it’s not like you’re going to turn to him after his moment of defeat and ask, “What’s the deal with Mr. Limpy?” So, I got the next best thing: my favorite dude.

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Vanessa says:
Thu, 9th Jul 20097:05 am

Thanks for this. I had the exact same situation (TWICE) with a guy not too long ago, and it was completely a self-confidence defeater. I hate to admit, but the situation definitely lowered my attraction to him.. mostly because some of the things he said were like he was blaming it on me.

Anyways, just wanted to say thanks for the post.. glad I'm not alone!

anonymn says:
Thu, 9th Jul 200912:36 pm

i dunno ive had blueballs and managed to get it up and finish the job

still hurt like hell though

that girl says:
Sun, 2nd Aug 200911:04 am

me and my partner went on a 4 hour on and off sex session… on an off because he couldnt keep it up, he would be inside me and then go limp, it pissed me off really badly but he was fine with it..

The Lemurian says:
Thu, 13th Aug 200911:29 am

As a guy/man/dude/whatever I've found that the best way of dealing with this issue is for everybody to just not freak out. Take a break, talk, cuddle, grab a snack and then try again later. Relax, unless there is something medically or psychologically wrong with the guy nature will take it's course.

A penis is directly connected to a guy's ego and self esteem and can be prone to "stage fright".

One of the biggest things that help me get over my devastated ego when Whiskey d*** happen was when my partner told me that it happens to girls to! Ever get so smashed drunk that your lady bits just would not get all warm and lovely no matter what? Drunk p**** is the female counterpart to Whiskey D***.

We're human an not machines. We don't have a "Have sex NOW" switch installed.

cindy says:
Mon, 26th Apr 20106:19 am

I've just been dating a guy for just one month who initially said he wanted to get to know me before sex. He still wanted me to sleep with him but he would pull away if we got frisky.

The other night we almost did it but it went down. I had dressed up to the 9s for him and he was so impressed and his eyes were full of lust and kissing me…

He got up out of bed and said, why do people have sex straight away anyway. I wasnt bothered. He dropped me home the next morning kissed me, made plans for the Bank Holiday and then I got a text out of the blue saying it was over and he would not call me or answer my calls! I left a message to say not to be embarrassed we could work the sex bit out but he text back that he was not embarrassed and that I just did not do it for him in the bedroom????WTF??? I saw the lust in his eyes??? I have never felt so insulted in my whole life! a 40yr old man texting such shit and not having the guts to speak to me face to face on the phone! arghhhhhhh! ok rant over, I am obsessing and googling all about ED.

Max says:
Sat, 30th Oct 201010:50 pm

You gals are with the WRONG dudes. lol. Come on over to the dark side…

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