Comments on: Dealing With a Stage Five Clinger

By: fffffff

fffffff — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 22:46:31 +0000

Dump her dumbass

By: H

Wed, 31 Mar 2010 00:49:53 +0000

In the same breath, you seem to condemn gender stereotypes (when you talk about being socialized to feel like men need or expect more space), then promote one of the worst stereotypes there is–that women aren't, or can't be, just as aggressive as men ("…a little more vigor than us ladies can handle"). If you're going to spend time cultivating the image of yourself as a ground-breaking, non-traditional woman who desires her own space, don't pull out a cop-out later on, when it suits you. That's what gives feminism a bad name.

By: george

george — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 19:35:47 +0000

my gf is psycho and I want to kill her

By: The Fashionopolist

The Fashionopolist — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 13:52:07 +0000

Thank you so much for posting this. I almost always hear about clingers from the perspective of guys. Women are not the only ones who cling! I am a very independent person and I love having tons of space in my relationships. I've been in more than one situation where I've gone out a few times with a nice, datable guy–and suddenly he started bombarding me with multiple forms of communication (ie: facebook messaging, texting, calling, gchat, im…etc). It makes me want to RUN. I find myself asking, does this guy have anything going on in his life? I feel smothered and my fight or flight (in my case, flight–flee for the hills) instincts kick in hard-core.

By: Katie

Katie — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 17:20:11 +0000

I know exactly what you are talking about! I'm going through the same sort of thing right now. A guy I've known since elementary school has started texting, facebooking, and calling me like ever day. I've always been friendly to him but its kind of weird cause the most interaction we've had in the last few years was saying "hi" when we passed each other in the halls, but now all of a sudden he's acting like we're best friends and i'm just not interested! It's really awkward and it was great to hear that i'm not alone (although sorry you had to deal with it too) and i guess if he doesn't get the message i'm going to have to tell him!

By: Elle

Elle — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 23:41:34 +0000

Oh man Alicia, that is intense! But, I'm pretty sure that this is common for most girls at some point in their lives or another. Erica I like how you gave him a chance that shows maturity and is something that most people would run from. I also have a similar experience. Last year I ran across an old friend from high school that I hadn't seen in about 4 years, and he asked me for my number to catch up. Turns out he asked me out on a date that night, but I had a boyfriend, so I politely declined, but would love to just catch up. It ended up turning into a mess, and he was one of those ones that you have to watch out for. It's hard to be nice and not have that type of guy take things the wrong way. Great post!

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I think so much of this knowledge just comes from having bad luck in dating. You must live these horrible experiences to learn from them. This is why live and learn is so important- and don't let history repeat itself!

By: Alicia

Alicia — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 22:44:10 +0000

Ahhh, this's happened to me before (in high school), but with a guy who liked me but I didn't reciprocate the feelings…I told him how I felt (very nicely) and he still didn't get the gist of what I was trying to say. I had to get a male friend to help me by telling him to lay off, because he was following me to class and harassing all my friends. It was scary for a while!