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By: anon

anon — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 04:38:47 +0000

I personally disagree with you. A guy who isn't calling you is defiantly not into you and it doesn't take reading a book to figure that out. No one is too busy for a phone call. So they're busy? Well a brief phone call would do. However the other things such as he wants to take it slow is a bit sketchy and there may be exceptions. But there is something to take into consideration. Even if you follow the book and totally rule out a guy because of something it says, if the guy just stops pursuing you then I hardly believe that he was very into you in the first place. I really can't see how the book can ruin your life. Think about it you may never meet the right guy and end up 'old and knitting'. It's the cold truth. There is a choice wait for the right guy and risk ending up alone or settle. personally i'd rather be forever alone and knitting than settle for someone. People put such a great strain on being alone when their old as if people old and alone are the saddest things on earth. Seriously if you're tired of ruling out guys because you're tired of waiting for the right one and you think this is ruining your life then stop blaming the book. It's not named 'how not to be alone' or 'how to find mr. right'. Its named 'he's just not that into you'.

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By: ruthy

ruthy — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 02:53:24 +0000

I’m sorry to disagree but no one or nothing can really ruin your life but yourself, so why blame the book? sure, the book may sound like a man-hater whining bitch but come on, it speaks the truth. too busy to call you? oh yeah sure… if he’s not into you. no one is so busy to call you if he really likes you or atleast think that it’s his job to atleast let you know he’s alive and got himself safe at home.

I agree that girls should enjoy the giddy feeling… but sometimes you also have to accept that there’s this guy that’ll love you and care about you the way you do for him… which means his efforts will OBVIOUSLY MAKE YOU FEEL IT. and you gotta accept if he’s into you, you will never spend 3 days in a row thinking if he is into you. cos if he’s into you, he will not even let that happen.

By: Peasles

Peasles — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 15:38:31 +0000

I think it's a little funny that you basically admitted the guy wasn't that into you but then go onto say that he was totally into you. Honey, he wasn't into you. He liked you; he didn't love you – what do you think "into you" means?

By: Fanny

Fanny — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 14:48:32 +0000

To be Honest I think That this article Misunderstood the REAL MEANING oF the book , I can tell that the world is full of good guys that really want a relationship , is not easy to find them , thats tue, put they really exist , I found one after many years of failed relationships that teach me of my mistakes.

By: @techpersona

@techpersona — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 01:58:39 +0000

This book taught me that none of the men in my life have EVER been into me. I look around and see that most of the married men I know are not that into their wives, either. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of marriages I have ever seen that were truly, equally, just-that-into-each-other marriages.

By: Klio

Klio — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 14:14:20 +0000

My point is that when you just cannot hold something and you just can’t stop dreaming about someone, that’s ok, cause you know it is. If you do those things a little bit too much and start feeling bad, it’s about time to stop and run away from that man. If I think that the person I fancy is someone that I admire, that is kind, a good friend and so on, then is not a problem to let him know that in a SUBTILE way (persuing is wrong and unnatural). And if he doesn’t call me out and shows me that he’s really into me, I won’t say all those nasty things about him, like what a jerk, I’m such a premium, he doesn’t know what he’s missing… Maybe he has something better to do or someone more interesting to hang out with, that’s not my problem. I know what I want and that I will get it in one way or another, I don’t hold anything against anyone. Once I approached a guy in he club by saying : Hey I need to tell you something…and I kissed him.  Of course, I felt that was a natural attitude for me, othervise I wouldn’t done it. He was so into me and became my boyfriend. It’s just about positive, light thinking, and in the back of your mind your rules that you have and will bring out to life  if necessary.
This book is good for love beginners , to let them know what is appropriate and unappropriate behavior for a lady. In a perfect world, the boy of your dreams will come to you, say the perfect words in a perfect environment, kiss you and ask you out and you will live happily ever after…Yeah right. Somedays things go easily, sometimes they don’t, but the best thing is when you know you did everything YOU wanted, and like YOU wanted (not anybody else, no matter what that is – sometimes is just nothing), and that you stand behind every choice you made and don’t feel like a looser but a winner. My point is : It’s not about NOT giving a F, but giving a F with a right measure (you’ll know what that is for YOU).
This book is actually to learn what treatment you don’t want, next good step would be to find out more about what you want : Transurfing – Vadim Zeland, Carolyn N. Bushong – The Seven Dumbest Relationship Mistakes Smart People Make. This books helped me to stop doing stupid things in personal life and to be love miserable.
Good luck! Kiss!

By: Klio

Klio — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 14:13:29 +0000

I love the part when i ˝invest˝ in someone, and he is calculating yes-no, i push him away and then after some time he suddenly comes back! Wuhu, now when I’m acting like a bitch your opinion suddenly chanched…That’s so stupid… But that’s how it is. My point is that is always good to show what you fell and ˝invest˝ in love, in a person you think is the right one for you. May be you will be with him, maybe you won’t, but you will find someone else, or that one will come back. There was this guy who said that we can be just friends…So I forgot about him…Years after that we kissed, but he didn’t call afterwards, another year ahead we were kissing again, still nothing. Today we are together, we have four years behind, we are so happy and in love. We’ve also met each others parents. I asked him if he thought I was desperate when I was ˝hunting˝ him. He told me : well that would make me a loser right? Everybody likes self-confident people. If you didn’t do all those things and showed me that you cared, we wouldn’t be together today. Do you see how lucky you are now? (I’m treated like a princess). And I say, yes but the yourney was so long… Maybe it would be shorter if I read this book… I was deleting his number a couple of times. At the end he did ask me out and when we started dating something was going wrong (the meetings and the calls) and I told him : Look I don’t want to be with someone with whom I must sit by the phone, waiting for the call. He said : I’m not the person to call someone 4 times a day (now he is, about 6 times ). I said : I’m not either, but this is too much (too less) and this is not working for me. There are plenty of people out there, we don’t have to be together and waste each other’s time. That was the breakthrough of course. When he realised that I’m not someone to be messed around with. A fear of loosing someone/something is a big driver (when you are officially together, in other situations can be a turn off).

By: Klio

Klio — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 14:12:33 +0000

I personaly like to be (TO GET) equal with someone. I don' like when they are over me more then i'm over them or viceversa. I also don't like when someone is CHASING me at the beginning and throwing at me unnatural lines like,oh you're so beautifuuuul and looking at me like they see a Goddess in me… I like when the conversation, the flirt, goes in humerous way,when you have to read beetwen the lines and so on…But! When it comes to the part when things need to go to the next level and move to DATING, sometimes a girl doesn't have a choice but to find out if the princ charming wants to go there or not (when the flirt fase is getting too long…). You can be here direct, so that you can stop the manipulative flirt (the seduction that's not going anywhere) and move on. I just delete his number and that's it.
I don't find it desperate to aproach someone in the club,when we are in the same croud, or something like that… My approach is humor, and it always works. Sometimes you can find a friend like that and sometimes a boyfriend. The problem is if you feel insecure by doing that and feeling like you are inferior to the person you are showing your interest to. Most people are like this – someone shows emotions too much, they think oh this is some desperate person who is chasing for love, willing to do anything about it (˝especially afterwards when we’ll be in a relationship˝), naïve, stupid and so on… Man think like that and you can do nothing about it. Well, looks and aproach can be deceiving. The worst you can do is to behave unnatural, pretending like you are some tough lady, that won’t do any good in the end because the inner truth will come out sooner or later. By this, you can just complicate things and your love situation will become worse. So what if he didn’t saw a mature, interesting and whitty person in me, he can go elsewhere, maybe he’ll WIN OVER some cool chick, but at the end found her boring and brake up. EVERYBODY GETS WHAT THEY WANT AND THAT’S THE TRUTH! It is very important to find out what YOU want, because at that point ˝the wrong guys˝ will be flushed down the toilet…