shari says:
Wed, 22nd Jul 200912:12 pm 

i feel super strongly on this subject! i've actutally been thinking about it for a while!

ugh,"games" frustrated me SO SO SO much! all my friends (and pretty much every girl i know) play them and/or play along with them. i just don't understand! i think it's so much better to just be upfront about everything! if you like someone or want to call/text/message/hook-up/hang out with someone then JUST DO IT! i could care less about upperhands and "winning"…that's not what relationships are about to me. if me calling a guy that i like first or me making the first move makes a guy less interested in me, then clearly he wasn't really that into me in the first place and he is certainly not the guy for me. it's not "coming on too strong" to just lay your cards out on the table and not be shady about what you want. communication really is the #1 most important thing in a relationship, so why not get a jump start on that and have great communication from the very beginning?

Erich says:
Wed, 22nd Jul 200912:47 pm 

Yes, it seems everyone plays them. I hate it when a girl plays with my heart. I have had this happen to me too many times with the same girl. She'll be all interested and then as soon as I'm like yeah, she no longer wants to hang with me, but then the moment I get like whatever towards her, she calls and is like so whats up? She plays my emotions. But I think I have learned that we (being the ones getting played) need to set up boundaries and when the call be like hey you didn't call for 3-5 days (or whatever) so you missed out. and fight that urge we have.

Emmie says:
Wed, 22nd Jul 20097:53 pm 

Speaking from personal experience, I disagree with his conclusion that you gain power by saying explicitly what you want. It's showing your cards, and – like in a real game – that's generally a bad idea. The one real player of the game that I've ever been against (who is that "guy that enjoys the games" your man here claims to have never met. The stories I could tell…) once I finally manned up enough to put it all out there and ask for what I wanted, he was right back to the game, saying something ridiculously cute that made us seem oh so special and we don't need to quantify our relationship when really it was just him getting me back under his hand so he could play some more. There is no way to win the game. You might as well stop playing, but it's so addictive – every time I run into this aforementioned guy, we're playing again, even though neither of us is single now. Not a good situation.

anonymn says:
Wed, 22nd Jul 20098:28 pm 

ahaha 'the game' i'm sorry i didnt you were 15 years old

T says:
Thu, 23rd Jul 20095:16 am 

Wow, I'm glad to read this because it has been happening to me lately. This guy asked me out twice (we never ended up doing anything because he had to go out of town unexpectedly and the other time i had plans). So i got up the nerve to text him and ask when we would hang out. he said "maybe, what would we do?" i suggested a movie and he NEVER texted back. ??? I'm done with him.

Jenny says:
Thu, 23rd Jul 20095:30 am 

I refuse to play games with people. I think it's a waste of time. With guys I'm into, I'm always really upfront about my feelings and I tell them that I will not play games with them – if they're interested, just tell me, and if not, we'll just end it now. It's worked for me every time.

James says:
Fri, 24th Jul 20092:18 am 

The girl in the article annoys me: It's simply logic; supply and demand. The longer he doesn't call, the more she wants him (as she said) because the demand is high and the supply is low.

Although apart from that, yeah, I agree. It's annoying, and I'd prefer to be without it, but it works due to human instincts and all that jazz.