The Morning After: Mother Nature’s Gift

August 2, 2009     Posted in HaHa, Sex

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I had just gotten out of a long relationship and immediately hopped into the sack with a new guy (…what? I needed some emotional support!) when I decided to change my birth control prescription. I had never really been happy with the old one, but had put off changing because I didn’t want to deal with the whole spotting issue with my BF around. So now, I reasoned, since the new guy and I were taking things slower, it would be a good time to make the switch.

Well, of course, taking it slow only lasts until somebody gets horny (or drunk), so a few days after I made the pill switch I found myself rolling around naked with my new beau. Everything was going fine – great, in fact – when he whispers in my ear excitedly “wow, you’re really wet!”

For just a second I was proud of myself for my impressive lubricative prowess (yes, it takes very little to make me proud) when suddenly he just stopped. He looked up at me worriedly and asked if I was OK. Confused, I looked down to see what he meant and almost had a panic attack. The spotting I had been worried about had started… all over his groin.

If there was a way to curl myself into a progressively smaller ball until I finally just disappeared, I would have done it. But surely I would have left a trail of blood (and tears) behind. I apologized profusely while I cleaned up the mess (on me, and my sheets, and my blanket, ugh!) and to his credit, he didn’t run screaming from the room.

Nonetheless, we decided to keep it down to cuddling until I was finished with my little transition and I had to promise to tell him the next time I decided to switch medication.

30 Comments on "The Morning After: Mother Nature’s Gift"
  1. Matt says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 20098:39 am 

    Even though on birth control, it might be a bit better to use condoms as well, especially while transitioning. Furthermore, prevents disease spreading, especially since you and your new dude are a new pair. But kudos to him for being pretty chill about the situation.

  2. erin says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 200910:06 am 

    Wow and I'm sure you thought that was uber gross but some couples don't mind having sex when the female is on her period or spotting. I know god forbid you be human, I'm sorry but this sounds like the confession of a 18 year old. This is one of those times where I have to say grow up. Try having sex with a polyp in your cervix, there is always spotting. And as for Matt's comment, yeah, you should be using a condom. Then it's not nearly as gross when their is spotting. If your cleaning if off your sheets you must have been gushing, spotting is not that bad.

  3. Em says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 200910:35 am 

    Wow! Almost the exact same thing happened to me this weekend!

  4. Mr. X says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 200911:00 am 

    Sucks when that happens. I was trying to find the answer to finding hot chicks on the net, and I found this pretty cool site: http://www.mrxdating.com It teaches you all the secrets to finding hot chicks.

  5. Maggie says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 200911:11 am 

    What kind of birth control did you switch from & to? I'm switching to a low estrogen pill and a little worried about spotting because my friends have experienced it such pills.

  6. andrea says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 200912:14 pm 

    @erin… And some people are honestly turned off by the thought of having sex while the woman is on her period (me included). 'Grow up'? Maybe you should grow up and realize to each his own!

  7. Sam says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 20091:03 pm 

    This kind of happened to me the other week. My guy was over and we had sex, then looked down and just then was when my period decided to appear. Lovely.

  8. erin says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 20094:20 pm 

    I said grow up because it sounds like something a child would say and not and adult maybe you should grow up. I don't mean completely bloody either, spotting is one thing.

  9. Jess says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 20094:38 pm 

    There definitely are worse things that could happen, but it does kill the mood. It sucks too because usually when I'm spotting or on my period I want sex the most – not fair!

  10. La says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 20095:28 pm 

    Luckily for me, my exes have been totally cool with sex during my period. It was actually cute because my first bf suggested it, as he read that it could help my cramps. What a champ.

  11. t says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 20097:32 pm 

    Um, wow.

    You just ended a relationship, and then started sleeping with some other guy?

    That's…well…pretty slutty. :/ I think you deserve it.

    And I agree with the "use a condom!" posts.

  12. Sabrina says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 20097:53 pm 

    She totally deserved it. Whores get what they deserve. What scum.

  13. mind speaker says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 20098:01 pm 

    @t: wow, I didn't know you could make comments from the actual 1950's on this site. that's pretty neat.

  14. 1 says:
    Sun, 2nd Aug 20099:52 pm 

    actually, this site has become whore central. i thought it was about college life but it seems to be about how many guys you bang in that 4 year period of your life and the jokes surrounding those events.

  15. Dude who like giving says:
    Mon, 3rd Aug 20096:37 am 

    I like doing it when she is on the period, and she likes it too :)

    We just throw a big towel over the bed, and get to it. So i have to wash off the bloody chunks sometimes….dont mind it at all :)

  16. Jenna says:
    Mon, 3rd Aug 20097:53 am 

    I've had something similar happen to me before, except instead of just spotting, my actual period decided to start a few days early while I was giving my current fling a massage. It got all over his sheets, and I was mortified. I offered to clean them for him, but he was calm about it in a way I never would have expected from a guy.

    And casual sex following a relationship isn't slutty at all. Adults have casual sex sometimes; it's a normal part of life and completely okay as long as you're responsible about it.

  17. Casey says:
    Mon, 3rd Aug 20091:09 pm 

    Sex while on your period is a SIN. Since I believe gays shouldn't be allowed to marry because of what the bible says, I have to say that you should be stoned.

  18. La says:
    Mon, 3rd Aug 20092:41 pm 

    The disgusting comments some of you ladies are making here are making me realizing exactly why women are still objectified and considered to be inferior to men. Do you even THINK before you write? The point of CollegeCandy is to serve the community of collegiate women – that means every girl who attends a college nationally, regardless of what you think their character to be. Stop judging everyone and think about yourself and yourself only. Maybe you're just a religious, prude nut living behind a lie that you believe to be true. I'm not going to judge you for that, but I WILL judge you for your severely ignorant comments. Stop imposing your BS on the rest of us.

  19. brenda says:
    Mon, 3rd Aug 20094:56 pm 

    @La, thanks. the bs must cease… and that sucks! it happened to me before, and i felt so terrible but the guy took it a lot better than i did :)

  20. Sara says:
    Mon, 3rd Aug 20095:47 pm 

    Um psychos, can you read? Where in the article did she say they WEREN'T using a condom? Or did you all use your obtuse powers of deduction to ASSUME they weren't since she is on birth control? Calm the hell down. Also, didn't she say they were taking things slow? Even if she wasn't, and was just humping because she felt like it, what qualifies you all to judge? Give me a f***ing break. In the words of the great Salt n Pepa: if she wants to be a freak and sell it on the weekends, its NONE YA BUSINESS!

    And to the people who are uncomfortable with having sex while on your period, can I ask why? What is it about it that makes you uncomfortable? It's just blood and tissue. Not a baby. Or poop. Or anything unsanitary or bacterial. I've found more women have a problem with it than men, and that's weird. I mean, like someone said, just throw an old towel down! It just means more lubrication.

  21. Lauren H - The New S says:
    Mon, 3rd Aug 20096:29 pm 

    She doesn't say that weren't using condoms (many women use birthcontrol pills as a way to control the timing of their period, not just as a birth control method). I don't necessarily think that getting with someone new is skanky, it all depends on tthe relationship – what if they were emotionally distant for a long time or he cheated on her or something? and certainly it's not fair to judge without knowing the facts (we don't even know if the "immediately" was an exageration or what). As for the period sex, i've been with a guy who was cool with it and one who wasn't. i imagine it would be even scarier like this thugh, not knowing how he was going to react. It's good that he was cool with it, even if he wasn't down with having sex during the period. personal prefference i guess.

  22. Casey says:
    Mon, 3rd Aug 20096:37 pm 

    I had this problem last month. My boyfriend and I were hooking up like usual and afterward we realized I had started my period a couple days early. He didn't freak, but we live together so I wasn't too worried about that. It was a little embarrassing though. I have never had sex on my period, and I don't plan on doing it ever again (I didn't plan on that time either though).

    Sara, why wouldn't it be uncomfortable? I mean, no one enjoys being on their period, I certainly don't feel sexy when I'm bleeding out my vag. And I think most guys wouldn't want to get blood and tissue (ew!) all over their junk. And I certainly don't want to deal with the sight or smell, yes I have a period every month, yes I have to deal with it when I change my tampons, but mine will stay in the bathroom thank you. Besides, sex is messy enough as it is without adding the same crap that you find in toxic waste bins in hospitals into the mix.

    If you want to do it, go for it, but don't try to demean the rest of us because we find normal gross things, well, gross.

  23. jeff says:
    Mon, 3rd Aug 20097:59 pm 

    I just have to say the guy sounds like a man whore man whore

  24. Hayden says:
    Tue, 4th Aug 200910:50 am 

    I don't have a problem with having sex with a girl when she is on her period. I do appreciate a little warning though as it can be a bit of a shock to find blood on your bits and pieces when you're not expecting it

  25. Juanito says:
    Fri, 21st Aug 200911:40 am 

    I don’t know any guys who have thought this was a big deal. It happens all the time. I’ve slept with a few ladies under similar circumstances & it never bothered me. It’s natural, it’s part of life – it’s not a biggy.

  26. Genghis says:
    Mon, 24th Aug 20095:14 pm 

    Sometimes, sex predominates the exchange on this site. That's understandable. Sex could be a more powerful need than eating. The more so now that many taboos about sex are in itself became the taboo. Welcome to the 21st Century. But, there is always this freaking exception, don't have unsafe sex. Nobody wants the disease, just the pleasure of sex, thank you so very much.

    About menstruation. It is called that because some men are frustrated they couldn't make love when it happens. Some men don't think it is a big deal. I think the woman has the power to decide whether she wants have sex during her period or not. I say, think of oral or hand job as an alternative.

  27. t says:
    Wed, 26th Aug 20097:27 pm 

    Lol, these comments

    I like how having a different opinion automatically means "OMFG YOU'RE RELIGIOUS" or "OMFG YOU'RE REPUBLICAN", grow up. *Rolls eyes*

    1 is right, this blog's all about banging dudes.

  28. Desirae says:
    Mon, 4th Jan 20102:16 pm 

    Wow, I think it's awesome that your guy was so chill about it ^_^

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