Dating In The Dark Makes Us All Look Shallow

August 7, 2009 Posted in Buzz, Relationships

So ABC’s new show, “Dating in the Dark,” is weird. Like, really weird. Three girls and three guys meet in the pitch dark, often make out, and then get to see one another. They then have to decide if they want to go on actual dates with the people they have just seen.

By Carly

Wait, that’s not so weird. It sounds like the same thing that happens nightly in college bars from coast to coast. Only on TV.

Much like the feeling of repulsion that has come over many of us after last call, the people on the show who really hit it off in the dark aren’t such fans of each other once the lights flip on.

Now, maybe it’s just me, but this doesn’t really cast people in the best light (no pun intended), right?

Maybe it’s because I’m most often attracted to a guy’s personality before I start to find him cute, but I can’t imagine rejecting a dude on the basis of looks alone if I’ve already felt a strong connection with him. I wouldn’t date a guy that I wasn’t attracted to, but personality totally takes a guy from zero to ten (OK, maybe 5 to 10). If I liked him in the dark, especially enough for a little tonsil hockey, I’d like to think I’d be happy in the light, too.

But that is not what’s happening here.

Last week on the show, a girl and guy were all over each other in the darkroom, then the chick totally rejected the guy once she saw what he looked like. (Rude.) Now, I know that this is probably happening for some serious shock value, but I still found myself jumping on my couch a la Tom Cruise and yelling at my TV. First, why would you make out with this dude in the first place? And, seeing that she was sober and enjoyed it, how did those feelings change so quickly with the aid of a light bulb? There was obviously some physical chemistry there before, sweetheart.

I’m not going to say it’s jerk-like to judge on the basis of looks, since we all do it to some degree, but just how important are they? If you know you have a lot in common with someone but they’re not exactly a 10 in the looks department, is that enough to turn you off? And if it is, can’t you always just date in the dark?

Kidding.

364019 Comments2009-08-07+21%3A00%3A53Carly+-+Grinnell on "Dating In The Dark Makes Us All Look Shallow"

Kristina says:
Fri, 7th Aug 20095:24 pm

Haha, I just wrote about this show and about this topic on my blog. It's hard to find the best of both worlds, but I also feel that the more you get to know a person, the more physically attractive they become to you. As you learn more about them and create a deeper bond, everything becomes that much more appealing. Maybe that's why when we see gorgeous female celebrities with average looking men we say “Is she really going out with him?” However, there has to be that initial SOMETHING that attracts you to a member of the opposite sex, right? Their look can draw you in, but the personality will keep you coming back for more.

http://youngerminds.blogspot.com/

omparkash says:
Sat, 8th Aug 200910:54 am

i find a men this men sex with me i night i m a male

Ashley says:
Mon, 10th Aug 20097:17 pm

I love this show. Seriously, completely addicted. It's a weird concept for sure, but if you watch one episode you're hooked. Try it

Ashlan says:
Tue, 11th Aug 20091:59 am

I tried watching this show, but it is just too painful to try to watch. The casting director on this show should be fired. Both the guys and girls are all sooooooo ugly. Why don't they cast good looking people on this show? It is tv. Only good looking people should be allowed.

crimson says:
Thu, 20th Aug 20096:47 pm

@ Ashlan – " Why don’t they cast good looking people on this show? It is tv. Only good looking people should be allowed."

Lol … In that case the format of the show needs to be changed a litte bit ( you won't need a dark room ) and the name of the show should be changed to " Dating in the Light "

Erika says:
Fri, 21st Aug 20095:21 am

True crimson.

The one that I saw the other night was hilarious. There was an obese ugly girl who decided that she was too good for a skinny balding guy who by comparison to that worthless piece of trash, was too good for her. He is waiting on the balcony and the fat bitch goes out the front door literally puncturing holes in the sidewalk from her high heels because she is so fat. I'm like, are you kidding me????? WTF. She should be happy anyone would want to date a fat ass like her.

I don't get a lot of the women on that show. Do they not have a mirror and see how repulsive they look and how obese their cellulite infested thighs and flabby arms are? They look like shit. When a woman rejects a guy that is way out of her league (compartively speaking. the guys look like monsters too), it makes me want to slap these women. They should take what they can get. They look like hell.

Anonymous says:
Mon, 24th Aug 20095:09 pm

OMG… I just watched this yoga instructor who was cute but she turned down this guy who in my opinion was cute. Then the redhead turned down the cute latino. Ok so I thought this was gonna be a crappy show but it truly shows that you could have the personality of the best person in the world but in the long run…. LOOKS ARE ALL THAT MATTER… But in reality, I looked past my husbands short stature balding head and his less than perfect teeth and fell completely head over heels… He looked past my 5'11 height, my over 250 pound body and we are SO HAPPY…

Yessir says:
Thu, 11th Mar 20105:10 pm

Looks are hugely important…unless we're drunk. http://www.schoolyourpool.com

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