Kirsten says:
Sat, 8th Aug 200912:06 pm 

I don't agree with the cohabitating before marraige causes divorce. I think it helps you realize what you are getting into. Its like test driving a car before you buy it. I do think that it can push back marriage because you feel like you are married.

Amy says:
Sat, 8th Aug 200912:14 pm 

They do obvious studies because you have to have scientific proof before you write laws or make medical recommendations. And the one about cohabiting before marriage isn't obvious at all, lots of people would use their common sense to come to the same conclusion Kirsten did.

Also, occasionally common sense is proven wrong, like that article a few days ago about how exercising doesn't make you lose weight.

Linda says:
Sat, 8th Aug 20092:07 pm 

I agree with Kirsten …

If you live with your boyfriend or girlfriend before you get married …and it sucks..why in the world would you get married anyways?

shari says:
Sat, 8th Aug 20092:47 pm 

i disagree with the article on the cohabitating part…living peacefully with someone is one of the hardest things to do. cohabitating before marriage shows you if you guys are compatible in something you'll be doing for the rest of your lives. you may think that you know someone so well, but really once you live with them you see so many things you never knew.

Kelly says:
Sat, 8th Aug 20093:56 pm 

We analyzed that cohabitation study in my sociology class last semester. The professor said that people who don't cohabitate before marriage normally do so for religious reasons, and thus would be more likely to be opposed to the idea of a divorce. Therefore, even if the marriage wasn't working out, those people would stay together anyway because they believe a marriage is for life. On the other side, people who cohabitate before marrying may have less religious affiliation and would be less opposed to getting a divorce if things weren't working out.

Christina says:
Sat, 8th Aug 20098:48 pm 

What the fuck is this living together before marriage chicken shit bullshit? If couples live together before marriage, they need to have 2 bedrooms so that they aren't sleeping in the same bed. There is no way on Earth that sleeping in the same bed should be allowed as that would lead to premarital sex which isn't allowed.

If a couple can live together in a place with two bedrooms, then they can live together. But, if they think for one second, and I mean ONE SECOND, that they will be able to have premarital sex when they live together, they will not be allowed to live together until they are married.

Samantha says:
Sat, 8th Aug 20099:55 pm 

Christina you crack me up. "Will not be allowed"? By who? It happens all the time.

Linda says:
Sat, 8th Aug 200910:18 pm 

Lmao .. Christina is the funniest troll ever..

Mckenzie says:
Sun, 9th Aug 200912:17 am 

Samantha-

THEY WILL NOT BE ALLOWED!!!!!! Any parent who lets their daughter live with her boyfriend in the same house and to sleep in the same bed before they are married is a moron. Who the hell do they take parenting lessons from? Andrea Yates? Come on now. There is no excuse for a girl to live with her boyfriend before they are married. If they are sleeping in the same bed, that means that they are having sex!!!! I can't believe that!!!!!!! Having sex together and they are not even married? They are probably having sex multiple times a week. How disgusting!!!!!

Christina says:
Sun, 9th Aug 200912:23 am 

Thanks Mckenzie!!!!! I am glad there are other people who don't think couples should be living together before marriage. Only idiots think that it is ok.

Kelly says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20092:32 am 

God, the trolls on this site are hilarious.

Jessica says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20094:51 am 

There's nothing wrong with living with together before marriage. If that's what you want, then go for it.

Christina & Mckenzie: There are plenty of happy couples that have had sex before marriage- just because you guys disagree with it doesn't mean those people are stupid nor does it mean they're bad people. Also, just because you're not getting any, doesn't mean that it's "disgusting". If this is your belief due to religion, stop being narrow-minded and imposing beliefs on other people.

criolle says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20097:29 am 

Mom's drinking … and smoking.

Casey says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20098:52 am 

The cohabiting one, Kelly I agree with your analysis. I don't think cohabiting before marriage leads to a higher divorce rate, it would most likely lead to a lower divorce rate, and more unmarried couples breaking up. When you live together before marriage it does let you "test drive" what marriage would be like, and if you can't stand living together then you're most likely not going to get married, whereas if you don't live together before marriage there's a better chance you can't stand the person once you're married.

I moved in with my boyfriend and his mom when his parents got separated and his dad moved out, I lived there for 8 months until his mom kicked me out (she's ultra religious so I guess the novelty of having my company to replace her husbands wore off) and we moved back to my parents house and started saving money to move out on our own. When we told his mom we were moving into an apartment she sat us down and had a talk with us about how if we move out together we were drastically reducing our chances of staying together and we needed to be prepared for that. However, hadn't we been living together for a year already? we can cohabit perfectly fine together as had already been proven. 2 months after moving out on our own our relationship got so. much. better! the only problem we had ever had in our relationship was with our families so moving out together eliminated that. So cohabiting is situational. I don't think you can really have an accurate study out there because there are so many different aspects to it. Religion, beliefs, financial, or familial. All of those could skew a study. I also don't believe in divorce (for me) marriage should last a lifetime so my situation is different then a couple who has no problem with divorce.

And to the two trolls, I'm talking about science here, not morals or religion, so I could really care less about your ignorant comments. You CAN be religious and not be complete ignorant assholes.

Casey says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20099:04 am 

Oh and Mckenzie, I am 21, I pay all my own bills, and have a full time job so my parents have no say in what I do anymore. I certainly wouldn't let a child that I was supporting live with her boyfriend, but as soon as she's an adult paying her own way making her own decisions, she has every right to do whatever she wants. You can't stop and adult from making their own decisions whether you're their parent or not, because legally it's not wrong.

Also, you can sleep in the same bed without having sex. In medieval times unmarried couples were allowed to sleep in the same bed, but the man had to be tied into a sleeping bag sort of thing to ensure the couple didn't have premarital sex, but actually SLEEPING together was acceptable in some cases.

Oh and I moved out with my boyfriend because my family was having problems and I didn't have anywhere else to go since I couldn't afford to live on my own and all of my friends went away for school. So this was my only other option, besides being homeless.

God forgives, you Trolls need to get that through your head, that's why no one listens to your garbage.

Lindsay - University says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20099:08 am 

lol I'm pretty sure it's just one troll. They just used another name to make it seem like someone actually agreed with them. You need a friend troll. You really do. lol "they will not be allowed" haha okay. You can come by my house and stop me from living with my fiance.

Samantha says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20099:48 am 

Mckenzie/Christina, I think you just need to get laid. Perhaps then you'd have less time to troll around on here and you wouldn't be so angry.

J says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20099:52 am 

"Christina" and "Mckenzie" totally crack me up.

Casey says:
Sun, 9th Aug 200910:40 am 

Yeah, I'm pretty sure all the trolls on here are just one person. I mean there really can't be THAT many ignorant people out there. Maybe once school starts back they will be more involved in school than college candy. But that's usually when people become MORE active on here.

Ann says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20092:33 pm 

Samantha, your comment was really insensitive. Also, I want to point out that just because people might have "unpopular views" on certain issues does not mean that they are ignorant. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. That's all I'll say.

Christina says:
Mon, 10th Aug 20091:19 am 

Casey,

Your comments on this issue have been voided due to the fact that your point of view is severely damaged from the EXTREME psychological issues from your childhood. What is sad about your case, is that your relationship history is the classic case of a person with a dysfunctional and chaotic childhood, seeking out a relationship with another person with a dysfunctional and chaotic childhood. Since you haven't had treatment for the unresolved issues from your childhood, your dating habits and they guys you are attracted to are TERRIBLE!!!!!! Seek help!!!!!YOU HAVE TO BREAK THIS CYCLE AND SEEK OUT A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!

Instead of seeking out a BF who comes from a "normal" upbringing, you are attracted to terrible guys who come from broken homes and often times were either physically or emotionally abused. Because of your history with these occurances, you must seek help. Seeking treatment will make you stop being attracted to terrible guys and will help you to get over your issues from your childhood that are holding you back in life. If you don't seek treatment, you will continued to be attracted to, and have relationships with, terrible guys who will be physically or emotionally abusive to you. You can change this if you want to. But first, you have to admit you have a problem and seek help.

Casey says:
Mon, 10th Aug 20097:15 am 

Christina, I'm a psych major. And you just made yourself sound reeeeally ignorant. Try again idiot!

Casey says:
Mon, 10th Aug 20097:17 am 

Ann, these "girls" are trolls, that's why Samantha's comment was insensitive, they are all one person posting rude/ obnoxious comments on every post they can, they are not views that these people actually hold, they are just trying to take up space in the comments.

Casey says:
Mon, 10th Aug 20097:21 am 

Oh, and I had a GREAT childhood, by the way. I was probably the happiest kid with the happiest most loving family growing up. And I have always dated wonderful caring guys. My current boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship. So clearly your psychological analysis skills are, well, non-existent.

Jenna says:
Mon, 10th Aug 200911:52 am 

Ah, drama.

But back to talking about the article. I agree with Amy; you cannot cite common sense in lawmaking or scientific pursuits.

Also, as history shows, common sense isn't always found to be true. For example, in the 1800s, it was common sense that allowing someone to bleed out could cure them of an illness. Nowadays, thanks to scientific study, we know loss of blood isn't exactly helpful. And we can see by the comments about couples living together that, sometimes, what you would think is true can clash with studies.

Christina says:
Mon, 10th Aug 200910:28 pm 

Casey,

You are in major denial. Take a look at one of your descriptions of your childhood. You don't call this dysfunctional and chaotic?????? WTF? THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT!!!!!!! You are delusional. Seek treatment for your unresolved childhood issues where have skewed your thinking so much it is unbelievable.

"I moved in with my boyfriend and his mom when his parents got separated and his dad moved out, I lived there for 8 months until his mom kicked me out (she’s ultra religious so I guess the novelty of having my company to replace her husbands wore off) and we moved back to my parents house and started saving money to move out on our own. When we told his mom we were moving into an apartment she sat us down and had a talk with us about how if we move out together we were drastically reducing our chances of staying together and we needed to be prepared for that. However, hadn’t we been living together for a year already? we can cohabit perfectly fine together as had already been proven. 2 months after moving out on our own our relationship got so. much. better! the only problem we had ever had in our relationship was with our families so moving out together eliminated that."

Erika says:
Tue, 11th Aug 20092:13 am 

Wtf Christina? To each their own. Live YOUR life how you want to and let Casey live her's the way she wants to.

Casey says:
Tue, 11th Aug 20098:02 am 

Christina, your retarded, that is a description of the past year, when I was 20! not my childhood. There is no description of my childhood on here. so go troll your fake psycho analogies somewhere else.

Casey says:
Tue, 11th Aug 20098:05 am 

You want a description of my childhood, go read a Berenstain Bears book. That's basically it.

Christina says:
Wed, 12th Aug 20093:46 am 

Wrong. Please seek treatment to help you with the unresolved issues from your childhood that you obviously are still suffering with. Failure to do so, will make you continue to date horrible men who are emotionally or physically abusive to you. You owe it to yourself to seek the proper help for this. You are in major denial. When you can realize this, please seek help. Thank you for making the decision to seek treatment. I am glad I could help.

Liz says:
Wed, 12th Aug 20098:23 am 

Christina, thank you for brightening up my day. I needed a chuckle.

Casey says:
Wed, 12th Aug 20098:51 am 

This site is just becoming obnoxious.

T.Walt says:
Mon, 17th May 20107:10 am 

What the fuck is this living together before marriage chicken shit bullshit?

Yeah christina, cuz God hates that fucking bullshit right?

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